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Episode 96: How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids with Jancee Dunn

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Episode 96: How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids with Jancee Dunn

In this episode, Rachael sits down with journalist and author Jancee Dunn to talk about what really happens to relationships after kids enter the picture. Based on insights from her book How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids, Jancee shares her own story of how motherhood rocked her marriage and the hard conversations, therapy, and practical shifts that helped her and her partner reconnect.

Together, they dig into the messy, emotional realities of postpartum partnership: the resentment, the invisible labor, the awkwardness around intimacy, and how to stop keeping score. With humor and honesty, Jancee offers validation and tools for couples who are in the thick of it and ready to find their way back to each other.


Inside this episode:

  • Why resentment builds and how to talk about it
  • The “mental load” and how it disproportionately affects moms
  • Understanding labor inequity and how to rebalance
  • What maternal gatekeeping is and why it matters
  • The importance of open conversations about intimacy
  • How time management and self-perception impact connection
  • Tools for better communication (I statements, emotion labeling, paraphrasing)
  • Why therapy isn’t just for couples in crisis
  • Simple exercises to strengthen your relationship
  • Letting go of social media perfection and sharing real experiences
  • And so much more!

    • Mentioned in this episode:

    • How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn
    • Follow Jancee on Instagram: @janceedunn


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