In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to tackle one of the most common questions in relationships: “I love my partner, but why don’t I trust them?”
Together, they unpack the difference between love and trust—and why love alone doesn’t guarantee a secure relationship. Drawing from real client stories, parenting examples, and their own marriage, they explore how trust is built in micro-moments, why small cracks (like inconsistency, broken promises, or emotional withdrawal) can erode trust, and how attachment styles shape the way couples experience security.
Listeners will learn about:
The key differences between love vs. trust in relationships.
How attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant) affect intimacy and connection.
The subtle ways trust can be ruptured through micro-betrayals, emotional shutdowns, or lack of repair.
Why trust is not just about fidelity, but about reliability, safety, and honoring vulnerability.
Reflection questions to help you assess the balance of love and trust in your own relationship.
This episode lays the groundwork for part two, where Dr. Tracy and Greg dive into how to rebuild trust after it’s been broken and answer listener questions.
Whether you’re married, dating, or simply curious about the psychology of relationships, this episode offers relationship advice, marriage insights, and practical takeaways to help couples build stronger, more connected partnerships.

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In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore a listener’s struggle with saying no to her husband’s request—especially when his disappointment feels “loud and heavy.” During a tense family vacation at his parents’ cottage, she wanted to leave early, but agreed to stay longer to avoid upsetting him—only to end up in tears.
They unpack:
Why so many people put their own needs aside to keep the peace
How fear of disappointing a partner can quietly erode connection
The difference between compromise and self-abandonment
How to tolerate a partner’s disappointment without spiraling into guilt
Practical ways to have hard conversations while staying connected
This episode is for anyone who has ever said “yes” when every part of them wanted to say “no,” offering tools to protect personal well-being, communicate with clarity, and strengthen the relationship.

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In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with her husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.   

They answer real questions from the community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.   

In this episode, they discuss: 

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In this episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, we explore one of the most common—and emotionally charged—challenges in long-term relationships: when one partner desires more sex, while the other feels overwhelmed, touched out, or emotionally disconnected.

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, breaks down the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, explains why sex can feel like part of running a marathon for some partners, and unpacks how sex is often a bid for connection—not just physical pleasure.
You’ll learn how emotional and sexual intimacy are wired differently, how to stop taking rejection personally, and what practical steps couples can take to rebuild connection without blame or pressure.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the sex-versus-talk dynamic, this episode will help you deepen your understanding—and find a new way forward, together.

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When Coldplay’s Jumbotron "kiss cam" (sidenote, it's not a kiss cam, its the Jumbotron Song) sparked global buzz over an affair, it reminded us of a hard truth—infidelity is not entertainment.

In this must-listen episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, breaks down the real reasons people cheat, from disconnection and loneliness to conflict avoidance and unmet emotional needs.

You’ll learn:

Why affairs happen (it’s not always about sex)

The truth about shame, betrayal, and emotional wounds

How couples can begin to heal after infidelity

Whether you’re rebuilding trust, struggling with betrayal, or reflecting on your own relationship, this episode offers insight, compassion, and powerful takeaways.

Keywords: infidelity, why people cheat, relationship betrayal, marriage repair, emotional affairs, rebuilding trust, couples therapy, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

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People talk about setting boundaries—but what if it’s actually avoidance?

In this episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down the difference between real emotional boundaries and the kind that push your partner away. Understand the difference and how you can center yourself in creating healthy communication and a stronger connection in your relationship.

Keywords: relationship boundaries, avoidant behavior, communication in relationships, emotional connection, healthy boundaries, conflict in marriage

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In this three-parter, Dr. Tracy shares the real conversations happening in therapy and at home.

Part 1: Is telling your child “You’re fine” gaslighting? Dr. Tracy unpacks this hot take and why parenting needs more nuance—not more guilt.

Part 2: A listener asks if her husband should confront his mother for trash-talking them on social media. Dr. Tracy explores boundaries, control, and what to do when estrangement gets messy. Plus, her new book cover is finally revealed—preorders are live.

Part 3: A powerful insight from a couple navigating intimacy struggles—and the one shift that helped desire return.

For anyone parenting, partnering, or navigating complex in-law dynamics, this episode brings honest reflection, expert guidance, and one exciting announcement.

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Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler

Gaslighting and Manipulation with Dr. Morgan Anderson

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Why do we over-explain, justify, or get defensive—especially in our closest relationships? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the deeper reasons behind the urge to explain yourself, even when it doesn’t bring clarity or connection.

Drawing from her work with clients, Dr. Tracy unpacks how childhood wounds, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection often drive our need to be understood or seen as "right."

You’ll learn why this pattern is so common in romantic relationships, how it shows up as defensiveness or justification, and what to do instead to create emotional safety and deeper connection.

This episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to shift out of old patterns and into relational healing.

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Planning a summer vacation should bring connection—not conflict. But for many couples, time away becomes a pressure cooker for everything they haven’t talked about: the unequal mental load, unspoken expectations, and simmering resentment.

In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, is joined by her husband Greg to unpack how to prepare your relationship for vacation. Together, they dive into the emotional and logistical stress of the mental load, how to divide responsibilities fairly, and the importance of communicating needs and boundaries before you hit the road.

Plus, they share a powerful DM from a community member—a husband learning how to sit with vulnerability and navigate the discomfort of disappointing his partner. It’s an honest look at what it means to grow in a relationship, and how emotional intimacy is built not in big moments, but in the small, everyday repairs.

Whether you’re planning a family vacation, dealing with in-laws on your summer trip, or trying to reduce resentment in your marriage, this episode gives you practical strategies to feel more connected—not just on vacation, but long after you return home.

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In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores a common but painful experience in relationships: knowing what your partner needs, wanting to show up differently, and still defaulting to old, self-protective patterns.

If you’ve ever said, “I love my partner, but I keep shutting down,” or “I know I’m hurting them, but I don’t know how to stop,” this episode is for you.
Dr. Tracy shares a relatable story from her own marriage, explains how nervous system responses and attachment styles like avoidant and anxious-avoidant can override our intentions, and helps you understand why awareness isn’t always enough to create change.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why you might choose safety over connection in moments that matter
- How avoidant and anxious attachment styles influence relationship behavior
- What it means to act from a coping mechanism that no longer fits
- How to move from autopilot to conscious connection
- Five practical steps to begin shifting your patterns today
- Why emotional regulation, repair, and self-compassion are key to long-term change

Whether you're in the roommate phase, stuck in emotional disconnection, or trying to be more present in your relationship, this episode offers honest insights and real tools for growth.

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Podcast Episode: Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship. Listen here

Identify the stories you tell yourself in your relationship. Download here

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