Whitney sits down with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist and author of the new book "Love the Teen You Have," to discuss practical strategies for parenting teens and pre-teens. They explore why the teenage years can be so challenging for parents, how to navigate individuation and identity development, and actionable tools for transforming conflict into connection—including how to handle difficult conversations about topics like sex, social media, and diverging values.

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Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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00:00 Introduction to Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart and "Love the Teen You Have"

03:23 Why it's hard to parent the kid in front of you

05:40 Understanding individuation and teen identity development

12:09 Why connection matters more than control

20:38 Handling difficult conversations with your teen

36:20 Conversations about sex, drugs, social media, and other uncomfortable topics

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Whitney responds to a question from a recent controversial TikTok post: Are you a parent forever? What does it mean to be a parent across the entire lifespan? Should parenting meaningful shift at age 18 or at some point beyond? Do parent-child relationships become equal peer relationships in adulthood?

Then Whitney answers a question from a parent who isn’t sure how to interact with her adult son and daughter-in-law who have a newfound faith that has taken a more fundamental edge.

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

November at Calling Home is all about parentification. Learn more at: https://callinghome.co/topics

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03:08 Are You a Parent Forever?

07:04 What It Means to Lead as a Parent

14:39 Hierarchy in Parent Child Relationships

19:01 Q&A: Navigating Religious and Value Conflicts with Adult Children

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Whitney interviews Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of the new book "You, Your Husband, and His Mother” about navigating mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships. They discuss why this dynamic is so challenging, the scapegoating of daughters-in-law, triangulation of husbands/partners, the difference between setting boundaries and being controlling, and a few practical strategies for surviving the holidays together.

Connect with Dr. Tracy: https://www.drtracyd.com/

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00:00 Why the Mother-in-Law Dynamic Is So Common

04:44 The Abandonment Wound

07:04 The Scapegoating of Daughters-in-Law

12:01 Abusive Daughter-In-Laws?

18:54 The Husband's Critical Role in the Triangle

24:09 Death by a Thousand Paper Cuts

28:24 Psychological Conflict Between Women

32:25 Practical Boundaries and Mindset Shifts for the Holidays

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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Whitney analyzes scenes from Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and Love Is Blind to explore mother-daughter estrangement, purity culture shame, and how parents either repair or double down decades after causing harm. She breaks down Whitney Rose's advice to an at-risk mother, Bronwyn's devastating conversation with her mom about pregnancy shame, and two different paths to reconciliation in Love is Blind.

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

00:00 Using reality tv to understand real family dynamics

03:57 Real Housewives of Salt Lake City

15:45 The devastating scene between Bronwyn and her mom

27:45 Bronwyn’s mom doubles down

36:28 A missed opportunity to heal decades of hurt

39:20 Love Is Blind

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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Build a more functional family today. In this episode, Whitney breaks down the hallmarks of functional families, how these skills can be learned regardless of how you grew up, and practical steps to get started.

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

00:00 Introduction: What Functional Families Actually Look Like

02:31 Admitting When There Are Problems

03:51 Open Communication and Repair

04:37 Being Known Without Performance

05:17 Reliability and Dependability

05:57 Zero Abuse or Neglect

07:21 Unconditional Belonging

09:14 Small Actions You Can Start Today

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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Whitney shares three life-changing practices that reduced her anxiety—meditation with red light therapy, using Brick to limit social media, and consuming news only in written form. She then answers a caller's question about being the parentified golden child expected to solve all family problems while maintaining surface-level relationships with a mother and sisters who refuse deeper connection.

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00:00 October at Calling Home: Illness and End of Life Caregiving

04:40 Three Changes That Dramatically Reduced My Anxiety

14:28 Q&A: The Golden Child Who Had to Solve Everything

19:28 When Children Are Trapped Between Victim and Perpetrator Parents

22:51 The Golden Child Who Doesn't Feel Golden

25:42 How to Maintain Relationships Without Real Connection

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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Whitney Goodman interviews psychologist Dr. Julie Fraga about her book "Parents Have Feelings Too." They discuss how parents can process their own emotions, break cycles of guilt and perfectionism, use the Change Triangle to understand their feelings, and teach emotional intelligence to their children—all while navigating the challenge of parenting differently than they were raised.

00:00 The Shift from Fixing Kids to Supporting Parents

04:26 Managing Parental Guilt

09:11 Getting Ahead of Overstimulation as a Parent

15:37 Breaking Intergenerational Patterns Without Overcorrecting

20:24 The Change Triangle

25:10 Why Kids' Emotions Make Parents Uncomfortable

30:18 Finding Joy in Parenting

Dr. Juli's Website: https://www.drjulifraga.com/

Order her new book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/788442/parents-have-feelings-too-by-hilary-jacobs-hendel/

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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Whitney explores patterns around adult children who mimic their parents' harmful behaviors, the complexities of maintaining boundaries when a parent struggles with addiction, and how illness can be weaponized in estranged families. In the Q&A, she answers a caller's question about navigating grandparent illness during estrangement.

00:00 Introduction: Darker Family Patterns

02:59 Airport Observation: When Adult Children Treat Parents Like They Were Treated

08:11 Real Housewives SLC: How to Show Up for a Child Struggling with Addiction

10:55 Q&A: When Grandparent Illness Becomes a Manipulation Tactic

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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Whitney analyzes the Amazon Prime show "The Girlfriend" to explore mother-son enmeshment and emotional incest. She analyzes how the show illustrates blurred boundaries, guilt and manipulation, marital dysfunction, and the devastating long-term impacts on sons' ability to form healthy romantic relationships, connecting the fictional dynamics to real research on these family patterns.

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

00:00 Introduction to The Girlfriend and Mother-Son Enmeshment

04:00 Defining Emotional Incest and What It Looks Like

09:06 Power Assertion and Blocked Individuation

14:10 The Girlfriend as Both Rival and Mirror

17:25 How Marital Dysfunction Fuels Enmeshment

21:56 Why Enmeshed Sons Struggle with Adult Partnerships

25:12 Lies, Isolation, and the Ultimate Betrayal

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Whitney reflects on how the "rage economy" of social media and news is destroying our mental health and capacity to connect with others. She explores how algorithms reward inflammatory content that keeps us trapped in cycles of anger and isolation. Later in the episode she highlights a positive example from Real Housewives of Orange County where a parent demonstrates accountability and course-correction in real time.

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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00:00 The Rage Economy That's Destroying Our Mental Health

04:34 How Algorithms Reward Inflammatory Content Over Nuance

08:58 Breaking Free from the Cycle of Rage and Reactivity

12:34 When Sports Team Politics Replace Critical Thinking

16:35 Real Housewives Example: How to Course-Correct as a Parent

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