In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, we are revisiting an episode which was originally recorded in 2022. My guest is licensed therapist Colleen West and author of the book "We All Have Parts, An Illustrated Guide To Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systems".

We chat about various therapeutic approaches, including Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the concept of the window of tolerance. The conversation delves into how trauma manifests in symptoms, the importance of understanding self-energy, and the impact of pre-verbal trauma on individuals. Colleen shares insights on the role of protectors in therapy and the significance of attachment in relationships, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of trauma and healing.

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Benjamin Fry, a psychotherapist and founder of Khiron Clinics. Benjamin shares his personal journey through trauma, detailing his experiences with anxiety, suicidal ideation, and the impact of his early childhood loss. He discusses the complexities of trauma, the importance of understanding its effects on relationships, and the ongoing process of healing. The conversation also touches on the innovative approaches in trauma therapy, including EMDR and somatic experiencing, and the potential of technology in understanding and managing trauma responses.

takeaways

• Benjamin Fry shares his journey through trauma and recovery.
• He emphasizes the exaggerated physiological reactions to stress and anxiety.
• The importance of understanding trauma's impact on relationships is highlighted.
• Healing trauma is an ongoing process, not a one-time fix.
• The role of early childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior is discussed.
• Innovative therapies like EMDR and somatic experiencing are effective in trauma recovery.
• The significance of community and relational dynamics in healing is explored.
• Benjamin's passion lies in helping others navigate their trauma.

Benjamin Fry is the founder of Khiron Clinics, one of the world's leading residential trauma-treatment centers, and Televagal, an innovative mental health technology platform. An accredited psychotherapist, couples therapist, speaker, author, and entrepreneur, he has written four books, including The Invisible Lion: How to Tame your Nervous System and Heal your Trauma. With a diverse career spanning psychology, media, and business, Benjamin read Physics and Philosophy at Oxford and then attended film school, directing a feature-length film distributed by HBO and Paramount.

Khiron Clinics

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Benjamin Fry

https://www.benjaminfry.co.uk

Benjamin's Book:

The Invisible Lion: How Tame your Nervous system and heal your Trauma

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique is chatting with psychologist and author Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Sherrie shares her insights on navigating the complexities of emotional abuse and toxic family dynamics. Drawing from her personal experiences and professional expertise, she discusses the importance of establishing boundaries, taking responsibility for one's own healing, and transforming pain into purpose. Dr. Campbell emphasizes that not all parents are good and that recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health and personal growth. The conversation highlights the journey of healing and the empowerment that comes from understanding one's worth and setting healthy boundaries.

takeaways

• Dr. Sherrie Campbell has written multiple books on toxic family dynamics.
• Emotional abuse can be subtle and often goes unrecognized.
• Establishing boundaries is essential for personal healing.
• It's important to take responsibility for your own mental health.
• Healing involves becoming the person you were meant to be.
• Not all parents are good, and it's okay to cut ties.
• Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary for well-being.
• Recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health.
• Transforming pain into purpose can lead to personal growth.
• It's never too late to realize that your life matters.

To Get in Touch with Dr. Sherrie:https://drsherriecampbell.com/

Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties Podcast:https://drsherriecampbell.com/cutting...

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Adult Survivors Of Emotionally Abusive Parents:

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Adult Survivors Of Toxic Family Members

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Today I am sharing my second interview with trauma therapist and author of Aundi Kolber. Her latest book is Take What You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days. We continue our conversation on the necessity of compassion and gentleness in the healing process. Aundi emphasizes the ebb and flow of healing, the significance of recognizing and validating personal needs, and the impact of developmental trauma on emotional health. She also explores the role of shame in hindering healing and the necessity of embodied knowledge in therapy. The discussion concludes with a focus on the power of language in facilitating healing and the hope that her book can serve as a valuable resource for those on their healing journeys.

Podcast highlights:

• Healing should be approached with gentleness and compassion.
• The process of healing is not linear; it has ebbs and flows.
• Compassion is essential in therapeutic settings.
• Recognizing and validating our needs is crucial for healing.
• Developmental trauma can have long-lasting effects on individuals.
• Shame can prevent us from expressing our needs and seeking help.
• Our bodies possess wisdom about our needs, even when we are unaware.
• Healing often requires a thawing process to access buried emotions.
• Language can be a powerful tool for healing and connection.
• Resources like books can provide support on the healing journey.
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Monique is joined by the incredible Aundi Kolber, a trauma therapist and bestselling author of Try Softer. Aundi will be with us over the the next two episodes. Aundi discusses her latest book, 'Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Times,' focusing on the importance of gentleness and compassion in healing. She emphasizes the need for safety and empowerment in the healing process, highlighting the role of self-compassion and the significance of relationships.

Some highlights of the conversation:

• Our capacity for aliveness can be discovered through gentle practices
• Safety and compassion are essential for learning and healing.
• Self-compassion is often lacking in trauma survivors.
• Finding glimmers of aliveness can enhance emotional well-being.
• The body holds wisdom that can guide healing.
• Compassionate resourcing helps convey safety to our bodies.
• Understanding our limits is crucial for personal growth.
• Connection with others is vital for healing.
• Healing is a journey that requires patience and self-kindness

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In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Lauren Auer about the importance of setting boundaries, especially for trauma survivors. They explore the discomfort and challenges that come with establishing personal limits, the emotional toll of boundary-setting, and the necessity of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. The discussion emphasizes that while setting boundaries can be difficult, it is essential for emotional well-being and personal growth.

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website : steadfastcounseling.com

Instagram: Instagram

TikTok: YourTraumaTherapist (@yourtraumatherapist) | TikTok

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In this conversation, Monique Koven and returning guest trauma specialist and psychologist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the profound impact of being seen in relationships, particularly between mothers and daughters. Deniz explores how early attachment experiences shape our sense of self and emotional health, leading to patterns that persist into adulthood. The discussion delves into the effects of emotional immaturity in parenting, the connection between trauma and self-perception, and the importance of reconnecting with our bodies to express emotions. Monique emphasizes the challenges of navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents and they discuss the journey towards authenticity, highlighting the need for compassion and boundaries in healing.

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In this conversation, Monique welcomes back certified master parenting trainer Sarah R Moore as part of a cycle breakers parenting series. They discuss the importance of understanding discipline in parenting through a trauma-informed lens. Sarah emphasizes that discipline should be viewed as a teaching opportunity rather than punishment, highlighting the impact of attachment on children's development. The discussion covers the significance of creating emotional safety, practical techniques for mindful parenting, and the power of repair in relationships. Sarah also shares insights on how to break cycles of negative parenting and offers support through coaching programs for parents.

Podcast takeaways

• Discipline is about teaching, not punishment.
• Children's attachment styles are influenced by parenting methods.
• Fear-based discipline can lead to unhealthy adult relationships.
• Creating emotional safety is crucial for children's learning.
• Cycle breaking starts with inner safety for parents.
• Mindful parenting techniques can be practiced in six seconds.
• Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for healthy development.
• Children learn better in a safe and supportive environment.
• Positive parenting techniques can be applied to all ages.
• Coaching and support can empower parents to create change.

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In this conversation, Monique and her guest psychologist and trauma specialist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the emotional challenges individuals face during holiday gatherings, particularly when dealing with challenging family dynamics. She emphasizes the importance of self-validation, understanding personal triggers, and setting boundaries to protect one's emotional well-being. Deniz also highlights the significance of inner child work and self-compassion in navigating these complex relationships, encouraging listeners to recognize their agency and the choices they have as adults.

Podcast episode takeaways:

• The holiday season can trigger intense emotions from childhood.
• Family dynamics often pull us back into our childhood roles.
• Understanding our triggers can help us prepare for family gatherings.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for emotional well-being.
• We have the power to choose how we respond to family members.
• Inner child work is essential for healing past wounds.
• Compassion towards ourselves is vital during stressful interactions.
• Our bodies hold memories of past family dynamics.
• We can validate our feelings without relying on others.
• Preparation and self-care can empower us during the holidays.

Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma, anxiety disorders, and mindfulness meditation.

Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia Trauma Healing Program:

Heal The Inner Child. Empowering you to with tools to heal childhood wounds and come home to yourself. click here: https://bit.ly/3OWBVcc

Instagram @drdenizpsyd.

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In this conversation, host Monique Koven and trauma therapist and author Britt Frank explore the intricate relationship between ADHD and trauma, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and the role of diagnosis in mental health. They discuss personal experiences, the challenges of navigating mental health labels, and practical strategies for managing everyday life. The dialogue highlights the significance of understanding one's unique needs and the power of acceptance in the journey of healing and personal growth.

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The Science Of Stuck https://amzn.to/3ZlCLEs

The Getting Unstuck Workbook https://amzn.to/4gihNNq

Britt's Upcoming book: Align Your Mind: https://amzn.to/3ZqBHio

Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a licensed neuropsychotherapist, speaker, and author. Her first book, The Science of Stuck, is now available from Penguin Random House in 9 languages and newest book, Align Your Mind, is now available for pre-order. Britt received her B.A. from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. Frank speaks and writes widely about the brain and how to get unstuck from even the most long-standing habits and patterns. Her work has been featured by New York Magazine, Forbes, NPR, The Society for Human Resources Management, Psychology Today, Cosmopolitan, Parade Magazine, Esquire, and The New York Times.

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