Sometimes it isn’t about trauma brain or nervous system talk. Sometimes it’s just about life being messy and complicated and still leaving you asking, what the hell am I supposed to do with this?

In this episode, I answer two big questions from a daughter:

Trust after rupture: What do you do when someone you love, someone you thought was safe, lashes out, apologizes, and takes responsibility…but you’re still hurt and not sure where to put it? We talk about what it means when trust gets shaken in relationships, how to stop pretending everything’s “fine,” and why real healing comes from honest conversations, not band-aids.

Self-doubt at work: What happens when you’re offered a leadership opportunity you’ve always wanted  but instead of celebrating, you’re stuck in fear of messing it up, losing respect, or not being “ready”? I share the real talk about stepping into leadership, owning your power, and saying yes to more without waiting to feel 100% confident first.

If you’ve ever struggled with rebuilding trust, navigating self-doubt, or stepping into leadership while carrying the wounds of being a daughter of a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, we’ve got you covered today.

You’ll walk away with:

-Clarity on why ruptures in close relationships matter (and what to do about them).-Practical ways to rebuild trust without gaslighting yourself.-Real talk on how to step into leadership even when fear and insecurity show up.-Encouragement to stop waiting to feel “ready” and start saying yes to the life you want.

Because sometimes it’s not trauma. It’s just life. And you still deserve to know what to do next.

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What happens when you’ve spent a lifetime unseen, unchosen, and defined by someone else’s story?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, a daughter asks: Who Am I, really?

Together, we explore:

Why daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers often feel dissociated or split from themselves

How dissociation shows up in daily life and gentle ways to come back into the present

Why listening and gathering resources without acting is a trauma response, not a failure

How to begin bridging head and heart after years of survival mode

What to do with rage and grief when confronting a mother won’t bring healing

How identity is reclaimed, not reinvented and why it’s never too late to begin

This episode offers both a clinical lens and a community one. It reminds daughters that healing happens in connection, not isolation.

If you’ve ever wondered who you are beyond the roles you were given, or how to carry rage and grief without being consumed by them, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

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Healing from childhood trauma isn’t a straight line. There’s a very messy middle. In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we explore what that messy middle really looks like for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

We’ll talk about:

Regret in healing: Why it shows up, why it feels like such a gut punch, and how to reframe regret as a sign of growth instead of failure.

Relationships under pressure: How marriage, friendships, and partnerships can feel like they’re combusting when one person begins to heal.

The nervous system’s role:  Why trauma brain makes joy feel unsafe, why peace is often the real goal, and why partners may misinterpret trauma responses as rejection or complaint.

The shock of change: How the people we chose in our fawning, conflict-avoiding, or numbed-out selves often feel destabilized when we start showing up differently.

Getting practical: From naming trauma brain in real time, to practicing repair, to re-choosing relationships with new self-awareness.
This conversation will help you understand why healing feels so raw, why regret can actually be a milestone, and how to navigate the bumps in relationships with clarity and compassion.

Whether you’re in the thick of regret, feeling misunderstood by your partner, or noticing how your healing is shaking up your closest connections, this episode will give you language, validation, and tools for the journey.

Resources & Next Steps

Learn more about the Mayhem Daughters community: MayhemDaughters.com.

Listen to earlier episodes on relationships and healing: Ep. 72 & Ep. 94

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about something every daughter eventually faces on the healing journey: the messy middle.

You’ve moved beyond survival mode: less hypervigilance, fewer shutdowns but freedom and peace still feel out of reach.

Instead, you’re navigating grief, anger, second-guessing, perfectionism, and the uncomfortable work of slowing down.

It’s confusing, frustrating, and messy. And yet…it’s where the deepest growth happens.

Together we’ll explore:

-Why grief and anger are essential parts of healing, not setbacks.

-How second-guessing shows up in the messy middle (and what to do about it).

-What it means to value rest, quiet, and connection without chaos.

-Practical ways to hold both grief and light through “Yes, And.”

-How to stop picking up every single thought trauma brain throws your way.

All of the questions in this episode came directly from daughters inside the Mayhem Daughters community.

If you want to have your own questions answered, hear from other daughters about their experiences, and find a safe, trauma-informed space to heal, visit MayhemDaughters.com

You are not alone in this messy middle. Let’s walk it together.

What happens when your body was never fully yours to begin with?

In this powerful episode we’re having a conversation many daughters have never had out loud about bodily autonomy, maternal boundary violations, and the silent, insidious ways that narcissistic or emotionally immature mothers can lay claim to their daughters' bodies.

We’re not just talking about “bad boundaries” here. We’re talking about unspoken abuse, the kind that hides behind phrases like “for your own good,” and leaves daughters confused, ashamed, and disconnected from their own bodies.

What it means when a mother claims ownership over her daughter’s body

Why so many daughters hesitate to use the word abuse, even when their bodies tell the truth.

Examples of physical invasiveness, coercion, and boundary-crossing framed as “care”

The nervous system responses (like freezing or bracing) that reveal stored trauma

Why healing often begins not with rage, but with quiet remembering and somatic truth

How to notice your body's signals and what it looks like to reclaim agency

This is not a checklist of symptoms. It’s a truth telling

This episode is tender. It may be activating. Go slowly. Bring water, take breaks, and, if at all possible, don’t listen alone.

Felt shame around sexuality, desire, or touch

Froze during intimacy, pelvic exams, or physical care

Been told you were “too sensitive” when something felt off

Had a mother who shared your private information, commented on your body, or touched you in ways that felt confusing or wrong

Struggled to name what happened because it wasn’t “overt” enough to count as abuse

You might relate if you’ve ever:

Felt shame around sexuality, desire, or touch

Froze during intimacy, pelvic exams, or physical care

Been told you were “too sensitive” when something felt off

Had a mother who shared your private information, commented on your body, or touched you in ways that felt confusing or wrong

Struggled to name what happened because it wasn’t “overt” enough to count as abuse

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Listener Note: This episode includes references to sexual trauma, emotional abuse, and boundary violations. Please take care of your nervous system and step away if you need to. You’re allowed to choose what you hold, and when.

Some daughters have lived through what many would call unthinkable: sexual abuse at the hands of their mothers. It’s a reality too painful to name, let alone process but that doesn’t make it any less real.

And if we want true healing for all daughters, we have to talk about the truths most people can’t hold.

In this powerful two-part episode, This week we talk to a daughter who has survived covert sexual trauma from her mother. Through her story, we begin to unpack the complex ways that maternal sexual abuse can occur.

I'll talk about:

What covert sexual trauma is and how it differs from more overt forms of abuse

How maternal sexual abuse distorts a daughter’s sense of self, safety, and bodily autonomy

Why daughters struggle with shame, confusion, and isolation around these experiences

How survivors can begin to reclaim their truth, their body, and their story

Why this episode, and this conversation, is a long-overdue step in healing the most silenced wounds
Whether this is your experience or not, listening with care will help deepen your understanding of the many forms the mother wound can take—and what it looks like to hold space for daughters living through the darkest parts of it

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What happens when you’ve gone no contact with your narcissistic mother… but your body still doesn’t feel safe?

This week, we hear from a daughter who has done all the right things. She’s named the abuse, set boundaries, gone to therapy, built a support network… and yet she still lives in fear of accidentally running into her mother.

Together, we explore what it means to feel stuck in trauma responses even after estrangement, and how daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers can begin to trust their bodies, honor their fear, and create protection without self-abandonment.

Why going no contact doesn’t always mean your nervous system feels safe

Why do relationships feel so confusing and hard?

If you grew up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, you may have learned to associate closeness with danger and distance with safety.

This week,, we're talking about relational trauma, attachment wounds, and how childhood trauma shapes the way you show up in adult relationships.

We'll explore:

Resources:

This week, we’re moving beyond the trauma  buzzwords to explain why you feel the way you do and what it really means to begin healing from relational trauma.

You’ll learn:

Whether you’re just starting your trauma recovery journey or deep in the process, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a way forward.

If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety is “too much” or your grief is “too messy,” you belong here.

Today, meet a daughter of a covertly narcissistic mother who didn’t begin to connect the dots until after her mother’s death. What follows is an honest, layered conversation about complex grief, panic attacks that don’t seem to make sense, and the painful tug-of-war between loyalty and truth.

Together, we explore:

• Why panic in adulthood is often a trauma memory, not a present problem

• The link between narcissistic mothers and hypervigilant nervous systems

• How “should” becomes a survival strategy and why it now feels like self-betrayal

• What it means to grieve a mother who was never emotionally safe

• How memory reconsolidation happens even after a parent's death

• Why waking up to your story years later doesn’t mean the trauma wasn’t real

If you were the daughter who raised yourself, who became the emotional caretaker in childhood, or who still feels guilty for feeling relief after loss, this conversation will help you feel less alone, less crazy, and more understood.

Grief isn’t linear. Panic isn’t random. And your healing gets to make sense to you, even if no one else understands it yet.

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