If you’ve ever struggled with disordered eating, food control, or feeling unsafe in your body because of food, you are not alone. And more importantly—it’s not your fault.

In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and survival responses shape your relationship with food, your body, and your emotions.

This isn’t about willpower or discipline. It’s about understanding why your nervous system treats food as a coping mechanism—and how to start healing.

Together, we’ll unpack:
- Why trauma can rewire your relationship with food and make eating feel unsafe
-Small, practical ways to start feeling safer in your body

- Why acknowledging your emotions (instead of shutting them down) can change everything

This episode offers clarity, and next steps—because healing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding yourself.

Looking for a community that gets it? Mayhem Daughters is a safe space for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers. Join us here

Need deeper support? Tuesday Group is a weekly space to process your experiences and connect in real time. Sign up here

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

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By the time a daughter begins to see and name the impact of her mother wound, she has already endured so much more. It’s never just the mother wound—it’s the ripple effect. The way one trauma leaves you vulnerable to another. The way survival sometimes demands choices that come with their own kind of pain.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The weight of cumulative trauma and how it shapes your nervous system
• Why the fear response around your mother feels so automatic—and how to disrupt it
• What it really means to stand in front of your mother without fear (hint: it’s not about her at all)
• How to step out of survival mode and into your own power

Tuesday Group is our weekly peer support group for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers. We meet every Tuesday from 12-1:30 PM PST. Drop in when you need it. Sign up here.

Mayhem Daughters is our private online community off social media. A space for real conversations, connection, and support.

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts

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This week, we speak to the painful reality of having a mother who is emotionally limited. What does it really mean when your mom can’t show up for you the way you need her to? How do you cope when you realize her emotional limitations are not just a phase but a core part of who she is?

We explore the emotional impact of having a mother who doesn’t have the tools to meet your needs, how this shows up in your life, and what it means for your relationship with her moving forward.

I’ll guide you through the process of accepting your mother for who she is—not who you hope she might be—and offer insight on how you can make empowered decisions for yourself and your well-being.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What it looks like when a mother is emotionally limited and why it’s not something you can fix

• How to manage your feelings of hurt and disappointment when your mother doesn’t meet your needs

• Ways to establish boundaries that protect your emotional health

• How to regain a sense of control and agency in your relationship with your mother

Resources:

• Tuesday Group:A supportive space for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers to explore challenges, share experiences, and build connection. We meet every Tuesday, and I’d love to have you join us!

• Mayhem Daughters: A private, off-social media community for daughters to connect, support each other, and heal together. You don’t have to go through this alone.

  Also mentioned:Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Narcissists thrive on attention, but it’s not the kind of attention that leads to connection. Whether it's positive or negative, as long as they have your focus, they feel in control. It can be so confusing, especially when all you're trying to do is get through to them or set boundaries. But remember, your energy is precious, and it's okay to stop feeding into their need for it.

 If you’re navigating this dynamic and wondering how to protect yourself while still trying to heal, you’re not alone.

Bring it to Group:Join us inTuesday Groupwhere daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers come together each week to find connection and support in a safe space.

If you're ready to dive deeper and be part of a supportive community, come check outMayhem Daughters—where we work together to untangle the complexities of these relationships, so you can stop feeling stuck and start reclaiming your power.

No one tells you that healing isn’t just about feeling better—it’s about losing what no longer fits. The friendships, the coping mechanisms, the family dynamics that kept you small. And while that loss is necessary, it can also feel unbearably lonely.

This week, you get to meet a Daughter  who has done the hard work—setting boundaries, letting go of toxic relationships, and showing up for herself in ways she never has before. But now, on the other side, she’s feeling the deep loneliness that healing can bring. If you’ve ever felt the weight of healing and grief at the same time, I hope you feel seen and heard today.

Question for the show?: [email protected]

You can always bring it to group.Join Tuesday Group.

JoinMayhem Daughters,our private online community for Daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers.

Also mentioned:Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

In today’s episode, we dive into one of the toughest questions many daughters of narcissistic mothers face: Do I need to hate my narcissistic mother in order to heal?

It’s a question that comes with a lot of layers—shame, guilt, anger, and confusion. But the truth is, healing doesn’t have to be built on hatred or resentment. It’s about finding your own path to peace and recognizing the power you have to move beyond the trauma.

Whether you’re struggling with the weight of your mother’s behavior or wondering how to move forward in your own healing, this episode will help you reframe your relationship with your past and find new ways of looking at your future.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Mayhem Daughters – Join our supportive community of daughters who understand what you're going through. We continue the conversation after each episode and share our healing journeys together.

Tuesday Group – If you’re looking for a safe space to talk about these topics, gain support, and learn from others who’ve been there, my Tuesday Group is here for you.

Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about what it means to truly “feel your feelings” and how to start better connecting to yourself—and why it’s more than just a cliché.

For daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, connecting with your emotions can feel overwhelming or even unsafe. But this process is essential to healing and finding a life of meaning and connection after the abuse.

Join Our Community: Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—it happens in connection. That’s why I created Mayhem Daughters. We already believe you and you already belong. If you’re ready to lean into support from others who understand your journey, you are welcome to join HERE.

Want to go deeper? Bring it to Group. Join Tuesday Group

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.

Setting boundaries with a difficult or emotionally limited mother can be one of the most challenging steps in your healing journey. The fear of pushback, guilt, or rejection often keeps us stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

In this episode, I walk you through:

Why setting boundaries feels so scary

How to recognize the fear and navigate it with more confidence

Practical tips to stand your ground while staying true to yourself

You deserve relationships that respect your needs. Let’s explore how to set boundaries without letting fear hold you back.

Links mentioned in this episode:

*** If you are on the Mayhem Daughters waitlist, check your email for your Founding Member rate**

Didn't get on the list on time but want to join? Here's how:

Mayhem Daughters, our online community it OPEN!

Bring it to Group: Join Tuesday Group

Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Introducing Mayhem Daughters: A Healing Community for Daughters of Narcissistic & Emotionally Limited Mothers

In this episode, I’m excited to introduce Mayhem Daughters, a private, online community designed specifically for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers. If you’ve felt isolated in your healing journey, this space is built with you in mind.

Mayhem Daughters is more than just another online group. It’s a safe, trauma-informed community where you’ll find connection, support, and the opportunity to heal alongside others who truly understand your experiences. We've created a password-protected space where you can share your story, receive support, and walk alongside other daughters who get it—without the overwhelm of trauma drama.

In this episode, I walk you through:

Right now, we’re building our group of founding members, and joining the waitlist is the only way to access the special rate of $19.99/month. There’s no commitment required to join the waitlist—it just holds your spot while you decide if this feels like the right place for you.

If you’re ready to take the next step toward healing, connection, and empowerment, join the waitlist today!

In this episode, we explore how to build the empathy and care skills necessary to love and connect with those who love you—when your past hasn’t shown you how.

Growing up with emotional neglect or narcissistic parents can leave you unsure of how to nurture healthy, meaningful relationships.

Learn how to shift from trauma-driven reactions to tender, loving responses that strengthen your connections.

We’ll cover:

Join the Waitlist for Mayhem Daughters: An online healing community for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

Bring it To Group. Join Tuesday Group for Daughters: A weekly support group for daughters

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things