Is your marriage on the line but you’re trying to win your spouse back? Rebuilding your marriage isn't easy, especially when your spouse isn't on the same page. In this episode, we address a listener's question about how to effectively communicate his desire to reconcile after a difficult time in his marriage. Despite being separated for three months due to past traumas and ego, he's actively working on self-improvement and seeking advice on how to win back his spouse without putting undue pressure on her.

Key Discussion Points:

• Taking Responsibility: It’s important to take responsibility for the choices we make in our marriage. Our listener acknowledges his shortcomings as a husband and is encouraged to be specific about the changes he's implementing.
• Healing Past Traumas: If we don’t understand the role of past traumas in our marriage conflicts, we are likely to not fully heal from them. Genuine healing often requires professional help.
• Asking for Forgiveness: Sincere and specific apologies are significant, not as a means to an end, but as a genuine show of remorse for past hurt we’ve caused. 
• Respecting Boundaries: If the spouse decides not to reconcile, respecting her decision is crucial. While working towards reconciliation, we must acknowledge our spouse's free will and potential decision to move on even if it hurts.

 

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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

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If you’ve ever questioned what marriage is truly about beyond friendship and happiness, this is the episode for you. We're continuing with part two of a mini-series dedicated to exploring some hidden truths about marriage.

We begin by addressing the misconceptions society and culture often hold about marriage, such as its purpose is primarily happiness or getting our needs met. When we misunderstand the purpose of something, it leads to misuse and abuse. So buckle up.

Christian marriage, in particular, has been called "a great mystery" because of what marriage truly represents. Marriage is both an agent of holiness and healing, providing a space for mutual growth and spiritual connection. In this way, marriage can be a living testament to God's redemptive power and love.

If you feel overwhelmed or trapped in your marriage, this episode offers hope that transformation and redemption are possible through faith and surrendering to God's plan.

Key Takeaways:

• Why marriage is not solely about personal happiness

• How holiness and healing go hand in hand

• How marriage unlocks the potential for deeper connection and spiritual growth.

• Marriage as a living example of Christ's redemptive love and commitment.

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If you know someone engaged or considering marriage, share this episode with them so they can get their marriage started off on the right foot! 

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Valentine's Day is upon us! I'm answering a listener's question on whether women still care about Valentine’s Day gifts and what makes the perfect present. What are some gift ideas to make your special someone feel loved and appreciated? I've got a few suggestions up my sleeve.

Highlights:

• Do Women Still Expect Gifts? I polled my friends to learn about their Valentine’s Day expectations—and the results were hilarious.

• Creative Gift Ideas: It’s not about how much you spend, but the thought and creativity you put into it. Hear about my most memorable Valentine's Day.

• Understanding Love Languages: Discover how knowing your partner’s love language can elevate your gift-giving, whether it’s words of affirmation, acts of service, or quality time.

• Balancing Gift Traditions: My thoughts on how the commercialization of holidays might affect genuine gift-giving and why it’s better to focus on creative intention.

Special Resource for You:

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"The Problem of Marriage” is the first part of my three-part mini-series, inspired by a sermon I recently preached at my church, focusing on some profound aspects of marriage—the marriage problems we face, the purpose behind marriage, and the incredible power marriage holds. Today, I'll be sharing insights on the problem of marriage, and I hope you find these reflections as enlightening and transformative as I did when preparing this series.

Today's episode uncovers the roots of all marriage problems, confronting passivity in marriage, the ripple effects of sin, decoding the curse of conflict and control, and more. 

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

Watch the Full Sermon Mended: God’s Plan for Marriage

Get Your Free “7 Secrets to a Happier, Healthier Marriage” Audio 

Looking to Connect Better in Your Marriage? Check out My “From Conflict to Connection Course”

 

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I received a question from a listener whose husband wants to leave the marriage to seek “personal happiness.” She faces the difficult decision of whether to wait for him to find clarity or to move forward with divorce after their 24 years together, of which 13 were spent in marriage.

Here are some of the highlights from the episode:

Understanding Where Happiness is Found: I discussed the common misconception that happiness is a destination. In reality, happiness is a choice you make. Chasing after it without internal work is often fruitless.

Purposeful Separation & Marriage Goals Even Here: If separation is the route chosen, it should be approached with clear goals. Arranging a separation with a mutually agreed-upon purpose and timeframe can help both spouses understand what they truly want from the future.

Working on Yourself No Matter the Outcome: I applauded my listener for seeking therapy and emphasized the importance of continuing personal growth, regardless of her husband's decisions.

The Power of Forgiveness: Even when reconciliation is not possible, pursuing forgiveness can free individuals from bitterness and resentment, enabling them to heal and move forward positively.

When considering separation, it’s important to ask whether everything that could be done to save the marriage has been tried before deciding on divorce. This way, even if the marriage ends, you’ll know you gave it all you could give.

If you have any questions or issues in your marriage that you'd like me to address, feel free to reach out via my website or on Instagram.

 

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

The "7 Secret Marriage Rules" audio

For those of you considering a similar path, I suggest listening to my episode with Dr. Kim Kimberling, "Five Boxes to Check Before You Divorce" (Episode 245), to thoroughly evaluate your decision.

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What is the real reason so many marriages are failing? It’s not often addressed in mainstream marriage advice. When we take a look at the core issue of marriage problems and look at scripture, personal experiences, and real stories, we see one main culprit as the number one reason marriages break up. 

Key Discussion Points:

• Understanding Apathy in Marriage
• The Core Issue: Hardness of Heart
• Indicators of a Hardened Heart
• The Path to Restoration and Healing
• Real-Life Application

Resources Mentioned:

Get My Free Audio: 7 Secrets to a Healthier Marriage 

Dive Deeper with My "From Conflict to Connection Course"

Episode 88: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse 

Episode 68: How Passivity & Apathy Are Silently Killing Your Marriage

 

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A truly sensitive yet relatable marriage topic is what to do when you feel a lack of physical attraction to your spouse. It can be embarrassing to admit to ourselves, much less talk about it openly, but it's necessary if we want to find solutions and improve our intimacy.

A listener reached out to me, sharing her struggle. She explains that despite taking care of her own appearance, her husband has gained weight, which has affected her physical attraction to him. She has moments when she can overlook his flaws, but the inconsistency in attraction makes sustaining intimacy challenging. She wants to know how to continue keeping her husband sexually satisfied even when she's not feeling that attracted to him.

In response, I explore several avenues to help address her concerns by digging to find the cause of her unattractiveness, having a courageous conversation with her husband, seeking help from the Lord, putting herself in remembrance of her husband’s strengths, and “making love” where love doesn’t seem to exist. 

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

Ep. 310 - 5 Types of Intimacy Your Marriage Can’t Live Without

Get My Free “Conversation Starters” for Couples in Conflict 

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Are you struggling to keep praying for your marriage but not seeing evidence of change? In this episode, I open up about my own journey in marriage and faith. Like so many of you, I've had to grapple with trusting in God when everything around me seemed unchanged or even worsening. My husband, Shaun, and I have been through our share of struggles, and it wasn't until I truly learned to let go and surrender my own desires that I began to see God's work in our lives.

Throughout this episode, I outline five strategies that are crucial for maintaining faith, especially when you see no evidence of change:

1. Continue to Pray
2. Refocus Your Vision
3. Imagine Positive Outcomes
4. Act in Faith
5. Surrender to God's will

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

5 Ways to C.O.V.E.R. Your Marriage in Prayer

Ep. 214: If God is For Me, Why Am I Suffering?

Ep. 216: How to Walk by Faith When Life is Hard

 

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Today’s marriage question is about relationship gift-giving and communication. After receiving an unexpected Peloton bike from her husband for Christmas instead of the spa package she desired, a listener feels hurt and confused. Essentially, she is left to wonder does my husband think I'm fat? Listen in as I provide insights and practical advice on how to interpret such gestures, manage insecurities, and communicate unspoken expectations effectively in a marriage.

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Hard conversations are often necessary in marriage. You can be loving and truthful at the same time. However, it can be easy to forget how to balance the two in relationships. It’s no secret that marriages, like any close relationships, thrive on open and honest communication. Yet, the art of conveying truth with care often eludes us. Today, we’re diving into this intricate dance and learning how to be honest without causing harm to our spouse or significant other, further driving a wedge in our unity.

In this episode, you’ll learn about: 

• Potential consequences of withholding the truth - how withholding the truth can lead to bitterness and resentment in marriages.
• Setting intentions for conversations - how to have a positive outcome in mind and center your spouse in conversations rather than yourself
• Developing the courage to confront marriage problems and find mutual solutions.
• A powerful acronym T.O.N.E. – Timing, Outcome, Necessity, and Empathy – and how to navigate these discussions successfully.

We also highlight the necessity of empathy in relationships as a means to understand and deepen genuine connections.

Links Mentioned in this Episode:

Download my free audio: "7 Secret Marriage Rules to Know Before I Do and After I Did.”

For more marriage resources visit danache.com.

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