Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✨

In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them.

We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too.

Timestamps: 00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires 01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton 03:18 – What positive psychology actually is 04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing 06:33 – How to start changing your mindset 08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets 10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity 21:25 – The power of gratitude 31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news) 33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience 34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too 40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward 42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary 48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships 54:20 – Access real growth tools

If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help. 

And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity.

I’d also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We’re building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us.

Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. 🌱

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships.

From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

• What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money

• How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions

• Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame

• And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life

Timestamps: 00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money 00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert 01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs 04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management 06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice 08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights 10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health 19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts 23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money 24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics 28:39 – Understanding Money Stories 33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers 36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals 42:12 – Conclusion and Resources

I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out!

Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money! 

Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there!

Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com

P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY.

I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process.

We’re covering:

• What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches

• How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!)

• What really causes tantrums and dysregulation

• Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today

• How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist

Timestamps: 03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?) 09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!) 16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on 23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy 34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident 36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally 43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child 47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid 53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist 01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts

I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨

👉 Access the Happy Families Collection here!

And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected! Find me on Instagram for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life.

You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you!

Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support.

Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship?

Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis.

In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing?

00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity

01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships

03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity

07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity

24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups

30:27 - Fear of Being Single

32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself

36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion

39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment

44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity

51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges

Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE  Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again.

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there! 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who’s struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup. 💕

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down:

• The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups

• The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!)

• Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords)

• The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles

Timestamps:

00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!)

00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery

02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist

15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck

24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!)

26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?)

34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources

I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain. 

That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward. 

And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve! 

Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.

By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:

• Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)

• The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new

• What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)

• How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing

Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.  

Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too. 

I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com 

P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward.

In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free.

Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help.

First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it. 

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me.

Sending you warmth and support, always.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? 

I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way!

This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. 

Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten.

Chapters: 00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue 00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru 07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game 08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions 17:31 - What really works in tough conversations 28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you 31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding

36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations

37:49 - Resources for communication skill building

My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice.

So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way.

Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships.

Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it’s so easy to overlook.

In this podcast episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We’re talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We’re diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don’t worry, your sleep helpline is here! 

So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let’s talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this! 💖

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Tired and Stressed? Let’s Fix That!
• 00:41 –  Meet Dr. Michelle Okun
• 02:12 – The Surprising Ways Sleep Impacts Your Life
• 06:48 – Stress, Cortisol, and Sleep
• 09:56 – How Stress Keeps You Awake (and How to Fix It)
• 19:42 – Common Causes of Sleep Issues
• 23:40 – When to Consider a Sleep Study
• 32:09 – Practical Sleep Tips That Actually Work
• 50:08 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia
• 53:50 – Resources to Improve Your Life

I hope this podcast was as helpful for you as it was for me. I learned so much from Dr. Okun! If you’re ready to take the next step or just curious about what might be holding you back—whether it’s sleep-related or just something in your overall wellness—check out my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz. 

Gaining clarity and self-awareness around the places in my life where I needed some extra love and attention was a huge game changer for me. This quiz will give you the same insights so you can start taking steps to thrive in your life. 

If you have questions or want to chat with me more about this, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on Instagram and YouTube! I’m diving even deeper into how to improve your sleep and answering your questions live. 

Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell! I’m here every week sharing insights and resources with you so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success that you deserve. Let’s figure this out together, friend!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

PS: If you know someone who’s running on empty and could use this advice, send this podcast their way. Sleep is life-changing, and we all deserve to wake up feeling amazing! 😴✨

Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers!

In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you’re diagnosed as an adult.

Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it’s like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult
• 00:42 Meet Jesse S.!
• 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything
• 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse’s Journey
• 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis
• 17:06 ADHD and Relationships
• 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma
• 26:39 Thriving in School and Work
• 28:29 Finding Your Zone
• 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success
• 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration
• 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope

Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let’s be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem. 

The good news? Self-esteem isn’t a fixed trait—it’s something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you’re thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It’s quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all. 

And don’t forget to stay connected with me on social media! I’m always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let’s thrive together. 💖