That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.

By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:

• Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)

• The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new

• What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)

• How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing

Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.  

Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too. 

I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com 

P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward.

In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free.

Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help.

First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it. 

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me.

Sending you warmth and support, always.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? 

I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way!

This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. 

Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten.

Chapters: 00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue 00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru 07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game 08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions 17:31 - What really works in tough conversations 28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you 31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding

36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations

37:49 - Resources for communication skill building

My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice.

So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way.

Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships.

Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it’s so easy to overlook.

In this podcast episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We’re talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We’re diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don’t worry, your sleep helpline is here! 

So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let’s talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this! 💖

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Tired and Stressed? Let’s Fix That!
• 00:41 –  Meet Dr. Michelle Okun
• 02:12 – The Surprising Ways Sleep Impacts Your Life
• 06:48 – Stress, Cortisol, and Sleep
• 09:56 – How Stress Keeps You Awake (and How to Fix It)
• 19:42 – Common Causes of Sleep Issues
• 23:40 – When to Consider a Sleep Study
• 32:09 – Practical Sleep Tips That Actually Work
• 50:08 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia
• 53:50 – Resources to Improve Your Life

I hope this podcast was as helpful for you as it was for me. I learned so much from Dr. Okun! If you’re ready to take the next step or just curious about what might be holding you back—whether it’s sleep-related or just something in your overall wellness—check out my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz. 

Gaining clarity and self-awareness around the places in my life where I needed some extra love and attention was a huge game changer for me. This quiz will give you the same insights so you can start taking steps to thrive in your life. 

If you have questions or want to chat with me more about this, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on Instagram and YouTube! I’m diving even deeper into how to improve your sleep and answering your questions live. 

Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell! I’m here every week sharing insights and resources with you so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success that you deserve. Let’s figure this out together, friend!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

PS: If you know someone who’s running on empty and could use this advice, send this podcast their way. Sleep is life-changing, and we all deserve to wake up feeling amazing! 😴✨

Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers!

In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you’re diagnosed as an adult.

Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it’s like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult
• 00:42 Meet Jesse S.!
• 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything
• 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse’s Journey
• 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis
• 17:06 ADHD and Relationships
• 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma
• 26:39 Thriving in School and Work
• 28:29 Finding Your Zone
• 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success
• 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration
• 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope

Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let’s be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem. 

The good news? Self-esteem isn’t a fixed trait—it’s something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you’re thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It’s quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all. 

And don’t forget to stay connected with me on social media! I’m always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let’s thrive together. 💖

Do you ever feel like “working” on your relationship just drains the joy out of it? You’re not alone— that “work on it” narrative is so common and in my experience as a marriage counselor…. some of the worst advice ever. 

Of course you want a better relationship, but there are much more effective ways of making that happen: Especially when you start prioritizing the parts that you enjoy.

In this podcast, I’ll show you why the idea that “relationships are hard work” might actually be sabotaging your connection and what to do instead. Learn how to bring more fun, positivity, and love into your relationship with simple, actionable steps. We’ll explore everything from changing your mindset to building better communication and adding joy to your everyday life.

Timestamps: 00:00 – The Worst Relationship Advice Ever 00:38 – Why Relationships Should Be Fun 01:34 – Shifting Your Mindset from Work to Joy 02:40 – Bringing Fun Back into Your Relationship 03:30 – How Personal Growth Improves Love 04:53 – Mastering Positive Communication 06:12 – Focus on What’s Good (And Watch it Grow!) 07:51 – Making Your Relationship Pleasurable Again 09:31 – Leading with Love 12:35 – Turning Mundane Tasks into Meaningful Moments

If you’ve been feeling like your relationship is more work than it should be, I’ve got something for you. My free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects, will help you shift out of that "hard work" mindset and give you tools to build a relationship that feels fun, loving, and easy again. Check it out here: https://www.growingself.com/communication. 💕

💬 Got questions? Join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube. Submit your questions anonymously ahead of time here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use this advice, share this video with them! Let’s create stronger, happier relationships together. 💕

Ever feel like you’re at war with yourself? This might change everything…

In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth. 🌟

We all have parts of us—the inner critic, the procrastinator, the overachiever. These parts aren’t flaws; they’re doing their best to protect us, even if their methods aren’t helpful. Dr. Schwartz explains how we can connect with these parts, heal the pain behind them, and step into the calm, confident Self that’s been there all along.

Plus, we’ll dive into practical tools from his new workbook, discuss how trauma impacts your inner world, and even demonstrate how to start connecting with your parts. This conversation is packed with insights you don’t want to miss.

Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Why You Feel Stuck 01:15 Meet Dr. Richard Schwartz: Founder of IFS 03:40 What Are “Parts” and Why Do They Matter? 08:20 The Healing Power of Your Self 12:45 Live Demo: Working with Your Parts 20:00 Balancing Inner Conflicts 30:50 When and How to Seek Professional Help 38:15 Insights from IFS 40:56 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz to help you gain personal insights and self-awareness around your inner world. This will shed a light on hidden obstacles within yourself so you can move forward into your best year yet with clairity and confidence. I hope you check it out. 

After you listen to this episode, join me LIVE this Thursday at 12 pm MT for an open Q&A on personal growth and Internal Family Systems. Submit your anonymous questions here, and I’ll answer them live on Thursday: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Don’t forget to share this podcast with someone who could use a little encouragement today. Let’s grow together! 💕

Ever feel stuck, like you're trying SO hard to change, but somehow end up back in the same place? You're not alone, and guess what—it's not your fault. In this episode, we'll unlock the secrets to reprogramming your subconscious mind to finally get the life you want. 🙌

Whether you're aiming to nail your New Year's resolutions or just break free from old patterns, this episode will give you the tools to make it happen. ✨

Timestamps to Transform Your Mindset:

00:00 – Why “Wanting It” Isn’t Enough

03:05 – Mind Wars: Conscious vs. Subconscious Goals

05:07 – Aligning Goals with Subconscious Needs

10:08 – How to Identify Limiting Beliefs

24:03 – Brain Rewiring 101 

41:14 – Building Self-Trust: Small Steps, Big Shifts

45:51 – Your Roadmap to Lasting Change

Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz for personalized insights into your subconscious blocks! This will help you start your new year off with clarity and confidence so you can achieve what matters most to you.

Wishing you all the best in this new chapter!

Xoxo 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growingself.com

P.S. Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who’s so ready to make a change—you might just change their life, and get an accountability partner in the process. Let’s do this together! 💪

Friend, this topic is SO important I'm putting it back in front of you again. Here's the deal: Even people in strong, satisfying relationships can develop feelings of attraction for another person. It's part of the human experience. These feelings can be transient and meaningless... OR they could destroy your life, if you follow them.  Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions!

It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships that they care about need to handle these maturely and with wisdom. That's what you'll learn how to do on today's show. We'll discuss: 

• The mechanics of a crush; how and why crushes develop
• The difference between a crush and a platonic friendship
• Why happy, committed married people can have crushes on others
• How crushes can turn into something more serious
• How to use self awareness, integrity, and honesty to protect your marriage
• How to use your crush experience in order to add energy and intimacy into your relationship
• Warning signs that your crush is developing into something else
• Why extramarital affairs are always a bad idea, and rarely end well
• How to stop having a crush on someone else
• How to avoid embarrassment and professional ruin if you have a crush on a coworker
• How to protect your relationship and stay true to your values even when you're having feelings for another.

All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Ps: As we discussed in this episode, part of your action plan needs to be leaning towards your partner in an authentic and emotionally intimate way, and that calls for excellent communication skills. To support you in this, please help yourself to my free two part communication skills training, "Communication That Connects." I made this for you!  ... LMB

How often do you say "yes" when you really want to say "no"? If you've ever felt that way, you're not alone! Today, we're diving into what happens when you stand up to someone in all areas of life—work, relationships, even healthcare. 

My guest is the incredible Dr. Sunita Sah, an award-winning professor at Cornell and author of Defy: The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes. Dr. Sah's research focuses on why so many of us feel pressured to go along with things we don't believe in and how we can cultivate the courage to say "no" when it matters most.

In this episode, you'll learn how social norms and "insinuation anxiety" hold us back from standing up for our true selves. You’ll walk away with the confidence to take small, powerful steps toward defiance in a way that feels authentic and empowering.

Timestamps

00:22 - Meet Dr. Sunita Sah: Her Story of Transformation

00:47 - The Psychology of Compliance and Defiance

01:31 - Defying Social Pressures: Real-Life Stories

02:07 - Why Compliance in the Workplace Hurts Us All

07:37 - A Fresh Take on Defiance: It’s Not What You Think

10:11 - The Social Roots of Compliance

17:51 - Facing the Inner Blocks to Standing Up for Yourself

25:32 - Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Defiance Muscle

33:23 - Living Authentically: The Real Benefits of Saying No

45:02 - Wrapping Up: Your Takeaways and Resources

Having low self esteem can make it hard to stand up for yourself. Is this true for you? Find out by taking my free Self Esteem Quiz! You’ll find out where your self esteem thrives and discover new areas for growth. Take it here. 

And, join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube, where we'll be talking all about self-advocacy. Want to submit a question anonymously? Use this link

PS: Think of someone who could use a boost in self-advocacy? Share this episode with them, and let’s help each other live authentically! ❤️