If you’ve ever found yourself wide awake at night replaying a conversation

If you spiral through guilt after setting even the gentlest boundary

If you carry everyone else’s emotions while losing sight of your own

You’re in good company.

In today’s episode, Dr. Alison shares personally about these moments in her own life and guides you through a real-time practice you can do right where you are.

It’s the most effective tool we’ve found to help when overwhelm rises, when you’re tempted to slip back into people-pleasing, or when conflict sends your nervous system into overdrive.

Instead of overthinking, overanalyzing, or pushing your feelings aside, this practice helps you:

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If you liked this episode, you’ll love: 

Episode 75: Your Secret Weapon Against Stress and Anxiety

Episode 171: Why People Pleasing Actually Makes You Feel More Alone, and 3 Steps to Create Real Connection

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We spend so much energy trying to silence anxiety. But what if it isn’t an enemy to defeat—what if it’s a signal to understand?

This week, Dr. Alison talks with Dr. Bethany Teachman, professor of clinical psychology at the University of Virginia and director of the PACT Lab, about what healthy anxiety looks like, why it’s actually useful, and how to stop letting it run your life. 

Dr. Teachman explains how to know when anxiety is becoming a problem and shares practical ways to calm anxious thoughts, build resilience, and approach your fears with curiosity instead of control. She says,

“Anxiety is uncomfortable, but it’s not dangerous, when you stop treating it like a threat, it loses its power over you.”

You'll learn:

Check out more free resources on anxiety:

TYDE (Thriving Youth in a Digital Environment) — A University of Virginia initiative co-directed by Dr. Teachman focused on youth, technology, and mental health.

MindTrails — A suite of digital and mobile interventions designed to help people manage anxiety and increase access to care, including. 

If you liked this episode, you’ll love: 

Episode 129: Understanding Your Anxiety

Episode 54: Can I Pray My Anxiety Away?

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It can happen so fast - you feel grateful one moment, and five minutes on Instagram later you’re suddenly feeling small or behind. But what if comparison isn’t the problem itself, but a messenger?

Dr. Alison explores how comparison, when we pause to listen, can actually reveal our deepest longings and lead us back to connection with God, with others, and with ourselves. She explains why comparison is wired into us, what it’s trying to show us, and how to shift from competition to curiosity and compassion.

This conversation invites you to slow down, notice what stirs inside you when comparison shows up, and remember: your story is unfolding at its own sacred pace.

In this episode, we cover:

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Other episodes you might like :

Episode 37: The Problem with Toxic Thinking

Episode 140: If You Struggle with Guilt and Second-Guessing Yourself, This Will Set You Free

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When insecurity takes over, most of us double down on self-improvement. But what if freedom doesn’t come from focusing more on yourself - but less?

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Alison and author of Free of Me and Gazing at God, Sharon Hodde Miller, discuss the promises and pitfalls of self-esteem culture - and why a bigger story of belovedness, stewardship, and connection sets us free.  We talk about how self-preoccupation doesn’t improve self-esteem, why “just love yourself more” can reinforce the problem, and how beholding God (not abandoning yourself) recenters your life with humility and purpose.

In this episode, we cover:

Get your hands on a copy of Sharon's books! You can find them here:

📚Free of Me: Why Life Is Better When It's Not about You

📚Gazing at God: A 40-Day Journey to Greater Freedom from Self

Here are some other episodes you might like :

Episode 99: I Shouldn’t Feel Like My Spirit is Broken

Episode 67: The Inextricable Link Between Faith & Emotional Healing with Cindy Gao

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What do you do when relationships feels risky after you’ve been hurt, betrayed, or let down, yet you still crave real connection?

This week, Dr. Alison is joined by speaker, and author Toni Collier, for a powerful and honest conversation about healing through community and learning how to trust again after deep pain. 

Toni shares her story of betrayal and loss, and how she discovered the power of safe people - the kind who can hold your heart without judgment and help you rebuild when life falls apart. Together, they unpack what real friendship looks like and why isolation, while it feels safe, can slowly destroy us.

You’ll walk away with language for repair, courage to take off your “strong friend” cape, and practical wisdom for finding (and becoming) the kind of people who can walk with you through both heartbreak and healing.

This episode explores:

You can find Toni’s powerful book here:

📚Don't Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain

Here are some other episodes you might like :

Episode 104: Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability

Episode 76: Finding the Faith & Strength to Move Forward after Loss & Heartache 

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What do you do when someone you love - whether it’s your kids, a spouse, or a friend - keeps doing the same maddening things? 

This week, we’re tackling how to approach the most frustrating dynamics in any relationship. Dr. Alison is joined by award-winning psychologist Dr. J. Stuart Ablon, founder of Think:Kids at Massachusetts General Hospital, and Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School. 

He shares a game-changing mindset shift: most challenging behavior is about skill, not will.

If you’ve ever thought, “They just don’t care,” about someone you love, this conversation provides a proven, practical path to real solutions. 

This episode explores:

For more from Dr. Stuart Ablon, check out his many free resources:

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🏥 Think: Kids at Massachusetts General Hospital 

📚Changeable: How Collaborative Problem Solving Changes Lives at Home, at School, and at Work

Here are some other episodes you might like :

Episode 86: Embracing Conflict—Why It's Essential & 4 Simple Ways to Tackle It

Episode 70: Mastering the Art of Emotional Intelligence—How to Harness the Power of Your Emotions to Improve Your Relationships

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What if you weren’t meant to trust blindly, but to trust wisely?

Trust is sacred - and when it’s broken, it’s easy to shut down or swing toward over-trusting. In this episode, Alison explores how to cultivate a steady, discerning trust, one that honors both your boundaries and your desire for connection.

Dr. Alison explores what it means to build wise trust: the kind that’s discerning but still open to love. You’ll learn practical steps to protect your heart without hardening it, and how to partner with God in cultivating grounded, courageous trust that leads to real connection.

In this episode, we explore:

If you’ve been hurt, disappointed, or afraid to let people in again, this episode will give you language, perspective, and hope for what it looks like to trust wisely - and love freely - again.

Follow Dr. Alison on Instagram @dralisoncook

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Here are some other episodes you might like :

Episode 22:  How to Build Trust With Yourself.

Episode 117: Healing in the Messy Middle

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The Best of You Podcast is your weekly space for wholehearted healing and soul-deep growth.

Every Thursday you'll learn from Dr. Alison Cook—a psychologist, author, and former teacher who’s passionate about breaking down complex ideas into simple, practical tools you can use every day.

You’ll find science-backed strategies and spiritual wisdom to help you:

Whether you’re navigating overwhelm, rebuilding trust, or learning to rest in a busy world, this podcast is here to help you cultivate the clarity, courage, and compassion it takes to live with wholeness.

Now with video episodes and fresh conversations for a new season, The Best of You is more than a podcast—it’s a community choosing hope, healing, and transformation together.

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What do you do when someone’s behavior leaves you feeling small, confused, or constantly on edge? 

That uneasy feeling isn’t random, it’s often a signal that something toxic is at play.

The Bible urges us to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves - to stay discerning, not naïve, in our relationships. Yet many of us brush off harmful patterns because we want to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or because our empathy and loyalty run deep. The problem? Those very strengths can make us more vulnerable to toxic strategies.

In this episode Dr. Alison names four of the most common toxic behaviors - manipulation, gaslighting, constant criticism, and triangulation - and shows you how to recognize them before they take root. She unpacks how to tell the difference between a one-time mistake and a repeated pattern of harm, and she offers practical tools to protect yourself without losing your compassion.

In this episode, we explore:

If you’ve ever struggled with guilt, second-guessed your instincts, or felt trapped in a cycle of blame, this conversation will give you language, clarity, and hope for moving forward with wisdom and strength.

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📥 Download Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools when you sign up for her weekly email.

Here are some other episodes you might like :

Episode 2: What Should I Know About Gaslighting?

Episode 110: How to Be Wise When People Are Difficult—Biblical Strategies For Keeping Your Emotional Health & Mental Sanity

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Where do you turn when heartache threatens to take over your whole life?

This week, Dr Alison is joined by Amber Smith to talk about her journey from crushing grief to quiet, hard-won hope. Many of you know part of her story: the unthinkable loss of her three-year-old son, River, in 2019. 

Together, they talk about the raw reality of grief; how faith can be both anchor and wrestle, how a marriage can survive when each person’s pain looks different, and why welcoming joy again is not a betrayal of what you’ve lost.

If you’ve ever faced heartbreak or walked alongside someone in deep pain, this conversation will meet you right where you are - whether you’re on your own bathroom floor or standing beside someone who is.

In this episode, we explore:

This episode blends honesty, tenderness, and practical wisdom, exploring what it means to choose life and love while discovering God’s presence in moments when hope feels distant.

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📥 Download Alison’s free printable with the five boundary tools when you sign up for her weekly email.

📚 Find Amber’s Book here:   The Girl on the Bathroom Floor by Amber Smith

Other episodes you might like :

Episode 76: Finding the Faith & Strength to Move Forward after Loss & Heartache With Granger Smith

Episode 133: From Feeling Numb to Meaning-Making — Navigating the 6 Stages of Grief 

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Music by Andy Luiten

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍

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