Today's Scripture: Hebrews 2:14–18

Sometimes fear doesn’t feel like fear. It looks like staying ahead, planning for every possibility, holding people tightly, or never quite letting yourself rest. Hebrews 2 names a deeper fear beneath much of our striving: the fear of loss and death.

Today, we’ll explore how that fear quietly shapes our lives—and why Jesus frees us to loosen our grip and live more fully.

*How fear of loss can disguise itself as responsibility or control

*Why avoiding what we fear can actually give it more power

*The “smaller deaths” we brace against in everyday life

*What Jesus’ death and resurrection mean for the things we fear losing

*How to loosen your grip without pretending you’re not afraid

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What if the way you pray has more to do with your attachment patterns than you realize?

In this episode, Dr. Alison shares how her own prayer life changed as she became more securely attached—and the surprising shift that she didn’t understand at first. We’ll look at what attachment theory can teach us about the way we experience closeness, why deeply feeling or anxiously attached parts of us may equate intensity with love, and how healing can lead to a steadier, more integrated way of relating—with other people and with God.

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Today's Scripture: Isaiah 42:1–4

Sometimes you’re not falling apart—you’re simply bruised. You’re still functioning and showing up, but certain places inside feel tender, weary, or easily overwhelmed.

Today, we’ll explore what it means to receive God’s gentleness in the places where you’re hurting.

*Why being tender doesn’t mean you’re weak
*How hurt can cause us to guard or criticize vulnerable parts of ourselves
*What the bruised reed reveals about the character of Jesus
*Why God’s strength and gentleness belong together
*One way to treat your own soul with greater tenderness today

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Today's Scripture: Matthew 9:9-13

Shame tells you to hide the parts of yourself that feel messy, reactive, needy, or disappointing. But Jesus does the opposite of what we often expect: He moves toward Matthew before Matthew has cleaned up his life. Today, we’ll look at what this story reveals about the heart of God and why the places you most want to hide may be the very places where mercy wants to meet you.

*Why Jesus didn’t wait for Matthew to become respectable

*How shame teaches us to hide the parts of ourselves that need care

*Why God’s holiness moves toward human need rather than away from it

*The difference between mercy and spiritually proving yourself

*How to let Jesus meet you in a place you don’t feel proud of

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Today's Scripture: Psalm 30:1–5

Sometimes the hardest part of a painful season isn’t simply surviving it—it’s discovering that joy still feels far away even after the worst has passed. In Psalm 30, David makes room for both realities: the night is real, and it doesn’t get the final word.

Today, we’ll explore why joy can feel risky after grief or disappointment and how to begin receiving goodness again without denying what still hurts. You'll learn:

*Why Psalm 30 doesn’t minimize grief or rush you toward happiness

*Why prolonged hardship can make joy harder to receive

*How joy and grief can exist together

*Why some parts of you may feel safer expecting disappointment

*A gentle practice for noticing one small sign of “morning” today

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Today's Scripture: 1 Corinthians 12:14–26

What do you do when you feel like you don’t belong — or when you’ve learned to protect yourself by pretending you don’t need anyone? Today’s Scripture gives us Paul’s picture of the body, where every part matters and no part can say, “I don’t belong” or “I don’t need you.” This episode helps you recognize the strategies you use around belonging, stop measuring your worth by comparison, and practice showing up in the body as someone who is already needed and loved.

You’ll learn:

*Why feeling like you don’t belong does not make it true

*How exclusion can register in the body like real pain

*Why some of us try to earn belonging while others avoid it

*How community helps regulate what we were never meant to carry alone

*One small way to let someone else show up for you today

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What happens when the faith that once held you no longer feels like it can carry the questions you’re asking now?

You may still love God. You don’t want to leave your faith behind. But the beliefs, practices, or ways of relating to God that once sustained you begin to feel too small for the life you’re living.

In this week’s conversation, Dr. Alison is joined by bestselling author, psychotherapist, and spiritual director Ian Morgan Cron to explore the tender space between silencing your questions and burning everything down.

Through Ian’s brand-new novel Chasing Francis, they discuss how a crisis of faith can become an invitation to spiritual growth, deeper intimacy with God, and a faith that is more fully your own.

Your questions do not necessarily mean that you are losing your faith.

They may be an invitation to examine what you inherited, hold on to what is true, and allow God to build something deeper.

As Ian reminds us, sometimes the work is not forcing yourself back into a previous expression of faith. It is asking:

What is the invitation here?

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Today's Scripture: 2 Samuel 9:1–8
What do you do when shame tells you that you are too damaged, too much, or too far behind to belong? Today’s Scripture tells the story of a wounded man who is hiding, and King David’s kindness that brings him back to the table. This episode helps you recognize the hiding place inside your soul, receive kindness without self-evisceration, and begin to trust that belonging can meet you wounds and all.

You’ll learn:
*Why shame drives us into hiding and withdrawal
*How belonging can feel threatening when your history with power has been painful
*Why kindness often has to be received repeatedly over time
*How wounded younger parts of us learn to stay hidden
*What it means to believe the seat at the table is actually yours

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Listen to the daily episode on Mark 5: When Your Pain Becomes Your Identity: How Jesus Gives You a New Name

Episode 160: When You Feel Unwanted—Meeting the Parts of You That Long to Belong with IFS Therapist Tammy Sollenberger

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Today's Scripture: Luke 11:9–13

What do you do when you believe God is good, but your body still braces when it’s time to ask him for help? Today’s Scripture speaks to the history beneath our prayers — the early experiences that taught us whether asking was safe, ignored, punished, or met with care. This episode helps you notice the inner flinch, honor the part of you that stopped asking, and begin rebuilding trust with God one small request at a time.

You’ll learn:

*Why asking God for help can feel risky

*How early attachment wounds shape what you expect from God

*Why what you believe and what you feel can be different systems

*How to notice the inner flinch without shaming it

*One small way to practice asking God for something real

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Today's Scripture: Psalm 107:4–9

What do you do when your soul feels empty, disoriented, or far from anything that feels like home? Today’s Scripture gives language for the part of us that is hungry, thirsty, wandering, and running on empty. This episode helps you stop shaming your depletion, recognize hunger as a signal, and cry out to the God who meets us with direction, belonging, and good things.

You’ll learn:

*Why emptiness and disorientation are not failures

*How Scripture names the soul’s hunger without shame

*Why depletion can make life feel flat or colorless

*How crying out can become an attachment move

*One honest need you can bring to God and someone safe

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