What if the behaviors you turn to for comfort—whether it’s overworking, people-pleasing, or numbing out—aren’t the real problem, but rather a signal from a part of you that’s desperately trying to help?

In this powerful and delightful episode, I sit down with Ian Morgan Cron—bestselling author and renowned Enneagram expert—to explore the fascinating intersections between Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the 12 Steps.

Here's what we cover. . .

* Why we’re all addicts in some way—and how the 12 Steps apply to everyone

* What “firefighters” are in Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how they work to protect us

* The true source of numbing behaviors

* The surprising and liberating goal of the 12 Steps and what it means for all of us

* Practical ways to find a safe person to share your struggles honestly and vulnerably

* How we can all achieve emotional sobriety

Pick up Ian's new book The Fix wherever books are sold.

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Are you always the one taking care of and fixing problems for everyone else?

Today, I'm taking a deep dive into the heart of overfunctioning—exploring why so many of us feel compelled to take on excessive responsibilities, often at the cost of our own well-being. I delve into parentification, which I believe often lies at the root of overfunctioning. I also share how understanding these dynamics through Mel Robbins' "Let Them Theory" can offer powerful insights for change.

Whether you're tired of always being 'the responsible one' or you're seeking to understand your deep-seated need to please others, this discussion will clarify the roots of these behaviors and guide you toward a path of healing and freedom.

Here’s what we cover:

*What is overfunctioning, and how does it impact your life?

*How childhood parentification fuels overfunctioning in adulthood

*5 clear signs you were parentified as a child

*3 practical steps to start healing

*How Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory transforms boundary setting

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If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 5: What is Codependency and Why Does it Matter?

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What’s the secret to healing marriage struggles and fostering deep connection?

In this heartfelt and incredibly vulnerable conversation, Ron and Nan Deal share their journey of rebuilding a marriage that almost unraveled. Drawing from their new book, The Mindful Marriage, they reveal how understanding and managing your own pain cycles can transform relationships. Whether you’re married, single, or navigating any relationship, this episode offers profound wisdom and practical tools for emotional and personal growth.

Episode Highlights:

* Explore one couple's journey through shame, blame, and rediscovering connection.

* Learn 4 Pain Cycles that disrupt relationships and how to break free from them.

* Uncover practical steps to nurture your relationship’s “us-ness” without losing yourself.

* Learn what to do when you're willing to do the work—but your partner isn't.

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How do you experience loving attachment when trauma leaves you feeling shattered?

In this incredibly profound and insightful episode, therapist and author of the brand new book, Sacred Attachment, Michael Cusick joins us to explore how our darkest moments of brokenness are not just moments of pain, but pivotal opportunities for forming a deeper, more secure attachment with God. Michael shares about his own healing journey as a result of complex trauma, and we unpack how our pain can bring us even closer to encounters with God’s love. Today’s episode is for everyone who has ever felt broken. We discuss. . .

*5 way of understanding brokenness (and why the "sin" paradigm falls short)

*Why mystical encounters are for all of us

*A jaw-dropping moment when Michael experienced God's love

*The role of imagination in healing

*How to restore exiled and wounded parts of us

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Feeling exhaustion or post-holiday blues? How can we step into the New Year feeling refreshed and empowered?

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In this honest and vulnerable conversation, spiritual director and author Anjuli Paschall and I unpack our own journeys through holiday people-pleasing and how to reset for the New Year. As we close out the year, many of us grapple with a mix of relief and disappointment, compounded by the pressure of New Year's resolutions and the desire to start fresh. Anjuli offers her expert guidance on understanding these dynamics and introduces practical steps and spiritual practices to help us move forward with hope and clarity.

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Here’s what we cover:‍

* How to break free from holiday people-pleasing

* The #1 way to stop trying to control other people’s feelings

* Why post-holiday let down happens & what to do

* How to develop and cultivate aspirational feelings in your body

* Why the hope of a new year sometimes hurts & how to navigate those feelings

* Prayers to move through complicated emotions

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Are you curious about how science and spirituality intersect in understanding and treating mental health conditions like OCD?

This week, therapist and spiritual director Ryan Kuja shares his incredible journey through the complex world of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). From a young age, Ryan battled intrusive thoughts and repetitive behaviors. Feeling isolated and overwhelmed, at 17, he cried out to God—a pivotal moment that launched him into an unexpected exploration of mysticism, neurobiology, and the intricacies of diagnosis. This episode is designed for everyone, whether you or someone you love is dealing with OCD, or you're simply interested in gaining a deeper understanding of the diverse human experience.

Here’s what we cover:

* Ryan recounts the pivotal moment at 17 when his struggle with OCD drove him to seek divine intervention

* The difference between OCD and common intrusive thoughts—what sets them apart?

* An overview of the latest and most effective treatments for OCD, from clinical approaches to innovative therapies

* Ryan shares the spiritual practices that have not only helped manage his OCD but also enriched his spiritual journey

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How do you move from feeling stuck to finding meaning and healing in your grief?

In today’s episode, I’m honored to speak with David Kessler, one of the world’s foremost experts on grief and the author who expanded Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s original five stages of grief by adding a sixth stage: meaning. We explore how common reactions like avoidance, blame, and bargaining are a normal part of the grieving process, and how finding meaning can be a transformative step toward healing. Whether you’re grieving a loss or supporting someone who is, this conversation will help you better understand the continuum of grief and the power of creating meaning.

Here's what we cover:

* The 5 stages of grief and how different parts of us experience loss

* David’s 6th stage of grief and how it developed out of his own story

* The most important question to ask someone who is grieving

* David’s 7 guidelines for creating meaning after loss

* Why grief is intimately linked to joy

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Do you feel like you’re constantly caring for others, whether it’s aging parents, your kids, or even your career—and there’s little time left for you?

Women in the sandwich generation, particularly those aged 35-54, report higher stress levels than any other age group. If you’re juggling a heavy load of responsibilities as you care for others, you’re not alone. In this episode, you’ll gain practical tools to help you navigate this season with compassion and healthy boundaries, empowering you with the support and nourishment you need.

Here's what we cover:

* Why caring for others can stir up unresolved emotions and how to address them

* 3 key strategies to help you through stressful seasons

* The antidote for constant guilt

* How to set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being

* Practical ways to invite God into your daily routine

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Episode 6: Do I Really Have an Inner Child? What It Means to Reparent Yourself

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Do the holidays bring a mix of joy and complicated emotions for you?

We're supposed to feel grateful, and parts of us do. But other parts of us feel nostalgic, driven by guilt, exhausted, or even angry. In this honest, vulnerable conversation, author and spiritual director Anjuli Paschall joins me to explore the emotions that surface during the holiday season. We talk about how to navigate these feelings with grace, and how these emotions can be gifts in disguise. We cover. . .

* How to distinguish between true guilt and false guilt

* The surprising connection between anger and exhaustion

* Why nostalgia can be both comforting and bittersweet

* Practical ways to honor all your feelings during this emotionally complex season

* Anjuli’s practice of praying through complicated emotions and finding God’s presence in them

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Episode 30: Protecting What’s Good Without Denying What’s Hard at the Holidays

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Have you ever wondered if someone you know might be on the autism spectrum—or even questioned it about yourself?

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is often misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or even missed entirely, especially in those who don’t fit common stereotypes. In this episode, neuropsychologist Dr. Donna Henderson joins us to unpack the complexities of autism, neurodiversity, and how we can better understand and support those around us.

What You’ll Learn:

* The 7 key criteria for identifying autism

* When to pursue a neuropsychological evaluation

* Why talk therapy often falls short for neurodivergent individuals

* How someone can exhibit an "autistic nervous system" without having ASD

* Practical ways to support loved ones

This conversation will deepen your understanding of neurodiversity and help you see the world - and those you love - in a new light.

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