In this episode, we look at the concepts of transactional versus generous giving in relationships, particularly in the context of healing after infidelity. We discuss the motivations behind giving, the emotional toll of transactional giving, and the importance of genuine generosity without expectations. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness and communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy after betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• Transactional giving seeks control or an outcome.
• Generous giving is rooted in love and authenticity.
• Trust is rebuilt through consistent, small gestures.
• Expectations can complicate the act of giving.
• Generosity should not come at the expense of one's own needs.
• Self-awareness is key in understanding motivations for giving.
• Both partners can struggle with feelings of insecurity after infidelity.
• Genuine giving fosters connection and mutual respect.
• It's important to communicate expectations honestly.
• Shifting from transactional to generous giving is a courageous act.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
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In this episode we discuss the challenges of navigating personal change and grief after infidelity. I share my own experiences of emotional upheaval as my son leaves for college, exploring the triggers that arise during significant life transitions. We'll emphasize the importance of self-awareness, healthy communication, and grounding techniques to manage intense emotions. 

Please embrace your healing journey and consider joining my transformative program for support and growth.

In this episode:

• Navigating Personal Change and Grief
• Understanding Triggers and Emotional Responses
• Tools for Managing Change and Grief
• Embracing Healing and Growth

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, we discuss the concept of false confidence, particularly in the context of healing from infidelity. We explore the difference between true empowerment and the illusion of strength, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in the healing process. The episode highlights how performative behaviors can hinder emotional recovery and the significance of assertiveness over control in rebuilding trust. I provide actionable steps for listeners to cultivate true confidence, including acknowledging pain, taking ownership of healing, and focusing on personal growth.

In this episode:

• The Illusion of Strength vs. True Empowerment
• The Impact of Performative Behavior
• Understanding Remorse and Authenticity
• Navigating Control and Assertiveness
• Building True Confidence After Betrayal

Mentioned in this episode:

Ep #149 - The Three Phases of Recovery

More from me:

• The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, Kendra Last and I delve into the complexities of narcissism in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal and infidelity. Kendra shares her personal experiences with narcissistic partners, highlighting the signs and traits of narcissism, the impact it has on individuals, and the importance of recognizing one's worth in the healing process. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-love, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, and the journey towards healing and empowerment.

In this episode:

• Understanding Narcissism in Relationships
• Kendra's Personal Journey with Narcissism
• Identifying Narcissistic Traits and Behaviors
• The Impact of Narcissism on Relationships
• Differentiating Between Narcissistic Traits and Disorder
• The Love Bombing Phase of Narcissistic Relationships
• Recognizing Vulnerabilities to Narcissistic Partners
• Healing and Moving Forward After Narcissistic Abuse

About Kendra:

Kendra Last is a Certified Life Coach who specializes in helping women thrive after experiencing narcissistic abuse and/or betrayal trauma.  She has a gentle yet direct approach to help you really understand what you have been through, process it and then see your options for moving forward.  She helps her clients really understand the "WHY" behind the choices they make.  This helps her clients heal faster, and feel empowered to finally see all of the options available to them.  She is a single mom to 3 awesome teenagers, loves the beach and sewing and enjoys living with her kids in Lawrence, Kansas.

To learn more from Kendra go here: https://linkr.bio/luxuryladiesretreats

More from Andrea:

• The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout
• The price for my program "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" goes up January 1st. Email me at [email protected] for more information.
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, we discuss the critical role of remorse in healing from infidelity. I'll emphasize the importance of genuine apologies, the characteristics of real remorse, and how to advocate for meaningful communication in relationships. The conversation provides insights into what constitutes true remorse and the steps necessary for rebuilding trust after betrayal.

In this episode:

• Understanding Remorse After Betrayal
• Defining Real Remorse
• The Importance of Genuine Apologies
• Characteristics of Real Remorse
• What Real Remorse Does Not Look Like
• How to Ask for a Meaningful Apology

More from Andrea:

• The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout
• The price for my program "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" goes up January 1st. Email me at [email protected] for more information.
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today let's delve into the complexities of commitment, especially in the wake of infidelity. We'll discover how committing can feel like a terrifying free fall and learn strategies to navigate these intense emotions. I'll share insights from coaching sessions, emphasizing the importance of going all in to find personal empowerment and growth. Whether you're deciding to stay in or leave a relationship, this episode offers valuable guidance on embracing vulnerability and finding grounding in uncertainty. Join me as I help you transform fear into a path of healing and self-discovery.

In this episode:

• The Anatomy of Commitment
• Why We Avoid Commitment
• Personal Stories and Insights
• Embracing Vulnerability and Growth

More from Andrea:

• The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout
• The price for my program "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" goes up January 1st. Email me at [email protected] for more information.
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Join Andrea in episode 167 of the Heal From Infidelity podcast as she explores the power of making choices, one at a time. Discover how each decision, big or small, can shape your life and lead to personal growth and healing. Andrea shares personal reflections from her busy Thanksgiving weekend, including the importance of advocating for oneself and the profound impact of life-altering decisions. She also announces an upcoming workshop on the decision to stay or go, offering guidance for those at a crossroads. Tune in to learn how to embrace your choices and create a life that truly reflects your values.

In this episode:

• Workshop Announcement
• Thanksgiving Reflections
• Choices and Consequences
• Big Decisions and Their Impact
• Personal Growth and Coaching
• Embracing Unexpected Outcomes

More from Andrea:

• The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout
• Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, Andrea shares personal experiences and insights that show how letting go of the need for certainty can lead to profound personal growth and self-discovery. She discusses the costs of clinging to the familiar and the steps needed to embrace the unknown, offering listeners a pathway to rebuild self-trust and create a life filled with possibility. Tune in to discover how stepping into the unknown can help you become the boldest, truest version of yourself.

In this episode:

• Program Updates
• The Importance of Uncertainty
• Clinging to Familiarity
• Embracing the Unknown
• Personal Growth and Self-Trust

More from Andrea:

• Ready to join? Sign up here!
• Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

In this episode, Andrea delves into the complex relationship between escapism and infidelity. Discover why individuals turn to escapism, how it manifests in both betrayed and betraying partners, and the long-term impact on relationships. Andrea offers insights into identifying escapism tendencies, confronting them, and fostering personal growth and healing. Tune in to learn how to face personal struggles and relationship challenges head-on, and explore healthier coping strategies for a more fulfilling life.

In this episode:

• Black Friday Specials Announcement
• Understanding Escapism
• Escapism Examples
• Impact on Relationships
• Healing and Confronting Escapism

More from Andrea:

• Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

Andrea explores the profound impact of judgment on relationships, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. Discover how judgment can hinder healing and connection, and learn the difference between judgment and discernment. Andrea discusses empathy and self-compassion as powerful tools to overcome judgment and foster communication. Whether you're working to rebuild a relationship or deciding to move on, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice to help you navigate the complex emotions of betrayal.

In this episode:

• Announcement: Free Class on Handling Triggers
• The Price of Judgment
• Types of Judgment
• Judgment vs. Discernment
• Impact on Relationships
• Empathy and Self-Compassion
• Open Communication

More from Andrea:

• Free Masterclass: How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity ... Whether You Stay or Go: https://portal.andreagiles.com/gylb-webinar
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles