Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night after night—your mind racing, your body restless, and your heart heavy with unanswered questions. In this episode, I sit down with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga, who not only brings professional expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia but also personal experience of navigating sleepless nights after infidelity.

Yana shares her journey of turning her own struggle into a calling to help others, and she gives us practical, compassionate tools to reclaim restful nights. Together, we talk about why sleep matters so deeply in the healing process, the three “dials” you can adjust to improve your sleep, and how to shift from anxious, perfectionistic thinking into gentle, supportive habits that allow your body to rest.

If you’ve been battling insomnia after betrayal, this episode is for you. Healing is possible—and peaceful sleep can return.

Takeaways:

• Why insomnia is so common after infidelity
• The three dials that influence healthy sleep
• How to calm nighttime anxiety and surrender to rest
• Practical habits to gently reset your sleep rhythm

If you’re ready to find hope, rest, and resilience, reach out—I’d love to support you on your journey.

YANA'S INFORMATION:

Yana Vriesinga is a journalist turned certified sleep coach, specializing in helping people reclaim their nights after the shock of infidelity. She knows firsthand how betrayal can hijack the nervous system, leaving even the strongest sleepers among us wide awake at 3 a.m.

Drawing on her own story, her background in health reporting, and certification in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), Yana has developed a clear, compassionate approach to what she calls post-infidelity insomnia.

Through her coaching and her free email course, ‘Sleep More, Heal Stronger’, she equips betrayed partners with practical tools to calm their bodies, quiet their thoughts, and finally get the restorative sleep they need to stay resilient. 

Join her free course at ResilientDays.com (https://www.resilientdays.com) and start sleeping better tonight. 

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• October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout
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• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and mentor, Molly Claire, to talk about courage, resilience, and what it really means to rise from life’s hardest moments.

Molly has been a guiding light in my own journey—teaching me how to honor desire, trust myself, and step into a life I intentionally create. Today, she shares her story of transformation, from navigating divorce and single motherhood to building a thriving coaching practice, and how she now empowers other coaches to master themselves so they can better serve others.

Together, we dive into themes of self-trust, resilience, and inner authority, exploring how we can stop minimizing our feelings and start believing in our worth. Molly also introduces her new book, She Rises, a powerful anthology of stories from master coaches who’ve walked through some of life’s deepest challenges.

This conversation is an invitation to choose yourself again and again, to lean into your truth, and to believe in what’s possible—even when you can’t yet see it.

Takeaways:

• Why honoring desire is essential for healing and growth
• How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal and loss
• The power of resilience through shared stories

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• October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout
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• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I’m diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it’s making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these “power grabs” may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships.

I share both my own story and my clients’ experiences of trying to reclaim control after betrayal, and why these strategies rarely bring the connection we truly crave. Real power looks very different—it’s about honesty, integrity, vulnerability, and staying present with ourselves and our partners.

If you’ve ever felt caught between longing for closeness and pushing it away, this episode will help you recognize where false power shows up and how to move toward grounded intimacy instead.

Takeaways:

• Why “power grabs” sabotage the connection we want
• How false power erodes trust and safety
• The difference between control and real power
• Steps to cultivate intimacy through vulnerability

If this resonates, join me inside my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group to experience deeper transformation.

More from me:

• A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september
• October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister’s milestone birthday celebration and staying home to comfort my daughter who needed me. Both were “good” choices, but ultimately, I chose alignment with my values—being present where I was most needed.

Difficult decisions often force us to choose between equally meaningful paths. Whether it’s deciding to stay or leave a marriage, how much truth to share with children, or when to seek therapy, peace often comes from aligning with what matters most—not from finding the “perfect” answer.

Grief and peace can coexist, and learning to hold both allows us to move forward with confidence and compassion for ourselves.

Takeaways:

• Peace often comes from alignment, not perfection.
• Hard decisions can hold both grief and relief.
• Listening to your values helps anchor your choices.
• True confidence grows when you honor your own inner knowing.

If you’re ready to create peace even in difficult decisions, I’d love to help you. Reach out and let’s walk this journey together.

More from me:

• A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Register here for Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don’t seem to match the effort you’re putting in. Whether it’s journaling, therapy, coaching, or trying to rebuild trust, it’s easy to wonder if all your hard work is even making a difference. I’ve been there too, and I know how discouraging it can feel.

I share why this “lag phase” is actually part of growth, how seeds take time to take root, and why redefining success in small, everyday shifts can help you keep moving forward. You’ll hear personal stories from my own journey and learn how to stay grounded in your “why” even when outcomes aren’t immediate.

If you’ve ever felt stuck or questioned your worth because change wasn’t happening fast enough, this episode is for you.

Takeaways:

• Why progress often happens “underground” before you see it.
• How to recalibrate your expectations during healing.
• Why consistency matters more than quick results.
• Simple ways to redefine success and stay encouraged.

You don’t have to go through this alone. If you’re ready for real support, I invite you to apply to my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program today.

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• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I’ve used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it’s easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn’t about your value—it’s about which “team” each person chooses to play on.

I share insights from my own experiences and client conversations about what it means to hold yourself to a higher standard, to face pain instead of avoiding it, and to recognize when someone is willing—or unwilling—to meet you on the same field. Sometimes your partner may actually be on the same team but playing a different role. Other times, they may simply not be willing to put in the effort required to compete at that level.

This episode is a call to stand firmly in your truth, choose your team intentionally, and stop making someone else’s choices mean less about you.

Takeaways:

• Why your partner’s actions don’t define your worth
• How to recognize if you’re truly on the same “team”
• The role of resilience and facing pain in real healing
• Choosing higher standards without making yourself wrong

If you’re ready to find clarity and strength after betrayal, I’d love to walk alongside you. Reach out to me today for support.

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In this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about why silence can feel safe in the moment, but ultimately keeps us stuck in patterns that don’t serve us.

Through personal stories and practical tools, I share how learning to speak up and honor your true feelings can change not only your relationships but also your confidence in yourself. This is about finding the courage to be authentic and vulnerable—because that’s where real transformation begins.

If you’ve ever struggled with staying quiet when you know you need to speak your truth, this episode will guide you toward breaking free from that silence and stepping into a more empowered version of you.

Key Takeaways:

• The Cost of Silence: How staying quiet hurts emotional health and relationships.
• Embracing Imperfection: Speak your truth without waiting for the “right” moment.
• Courage to Speak Up: Build confidence to express feelings and strengthen connections.
• Self-awareness & Responsibility: Take ownership without losing your voice.
• Empowerment Through Vulnerability: Use authenticity to create deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
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In this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional toll of denial, the importance of addressing challenges quickly, and the role a supportive community can play in the healing process. This conversation is an invitation to face what’s really going on so you can prevent unnecessary heartache and move forward with clarity, strength, and peace.

Key Takeaways:

• Avoidance can lead to greater problems in relationships.
• Facing uncomfortable truths is essential for healing.
• Delaying action can cause emotional and relational tolls.
• Quickly addressing issues can prevent deeper damage.
• Community support is vital in facing difficult truths.
• Self-respect is eroded when we ignore our own feelings.
• Decisive action is necessary to reclaim peace.
• Recognizing signs of trouble early can save future pain.
• Therapists can help, but personal accountability is crucial.
• Building the muscle to face truths gets easier with practice.

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• Free class on August 19, 2025 at 10 am MT - "Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace" https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to gain clarity and retelling it in a way that keeps the pain alive. You’ll hear how to recognize when it’s time to release an old, harmful narrative and replace it with an empowering one that supports growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing after infidelity.

Key Takeaways:

• We tell stories to make sense of our experiences.
• Some stories can create more pain than they resolve.
• Exploring a story can lead to deeper understanding and healing.
• Repeating stories can keep us stuck in a painful loop.
• Letting go of a story doesn't mean it didn't matter.
• Identifying when a story no longer serves us is crucial.
• New narratives can empower us to move forward.
• Healing is a layered process, much like peeling an onion.
• We can hold both love and pain in our narratives.
• Our past does not have to define our future.

More from me:

• Free class on August 19, 2025 (NOTE A DATE CHANGE) at 10 am MT - "Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace" https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful topics, so let's discuss some effective communication strategies, and the importance of setting boundaries to foster healing. We have to own responsibility while moving forward and practice conscious communication while rebuilding trust and intimacy post-betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• It's common for partners to want to revisit the topic of infidelity.
• Conversations about infidelity can either help or hinder healing.
• Bringing up past pain does not mean one hasn't forgiven.
• Effective communication is key to moving forward.
• Setting boundaries is essential for both partners.
• Healing is a non-linear process that requires ongoing effort.
• Both partners have a role in creating a safe space for discussions.
• Pain can resurface unexpectedly, and it's important to address it.
• Conscious communication can strengthen relationships after betrayal.
• It's crucial to advocate for healthy communication in relationships.

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles