Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

Sexual betrayal and deception is harmful to both the betrayer and the betrayed in so many ways. When a person is being betrayed sexually by their intimate partner, they are also being abused sexually. Identifying the sexual abuse is an important aspect of healing from betrayal and moving a relationship from unhealthy to healthy sexuality. Oftentimes, the betrayer and betrayed are unaware that the words, behaviors, and tactics taking place is abuse. Coach Tiffany and Dr. Hollenbeck are going to discuss ways a betrayed partner can be experiencing sexual abuse in their relationship with their betrayer.

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Consent Videos

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLKWEUhOHss

Intimate Partner Violence Prevention

https://www.cdc.gov/intimate-partner-violence/about/index.html

National Domestic Abuse Hotline

https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaig =domestic_violence

National Sexual Assault Hotline

https://rainn.org/

Tiffany Comiskey

https://www.hopecfl.com/coach-tiffany

Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck

https://crystalhollenbeck.com/

In this episode, I sit down with Adam and Judith Nisenson to discuss the often overlooked experiences of women who betray and men who are betrayed.

Cheating doesn’t just happen to women, men get betrayed too.

Links:

Apsats.org

https://www.betrayalshrink.com/

https://open.spotify.com/show/1MQanETH3GogBFRhyx4lE9

https://www.womenswrk.com/

https://www.betrayalshrink.com/blog-resources/categories/men-get-cheated-on-too-podcast

What happens when one research study challenges an entire field?

In this episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, Dr. Jake Porter sits down with Barb Steffens, founding president of APSATS, to discuss the origins of betrayal trauma treatment and the research that helped transform how betrayed partners are understood and supported.

Barb shares the story behind her groundbreaking doctoral research, which found that a significant majority of partners discovering hidden sexual betrayal exhibited symptoms consistent with PTSD. At a time when betrayed partners were often viewed through a codependency lens, her work helped establish a trauma-informed framework that would eventually reshape treatment, training, and advocacy efforts across the field.

Together, Jake and Barb explore the development of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, the founding of APSATS, the challenges of introducing a new paradigm, and the remarkable growth of a movement that continues to impact betrayed partners and professionals around the world.

Whether you're a betrayed partner, a helping professional, or simply interested in the history of betrayal trauma recovery, this conversation offers an inspiring look at how courage, research, and advocacy helped change the conversation for countless individuals and couples.

Links:

https://apsats.org

https://daringventures.com

Empathy is often praised as the key to connection—but why does it sometimes fail? This episode introduces a more nuanced and multidimensional understanding of empathy—one that distinguishes between knowing, feeling, and responding. Drawing from research, clinical insight, and real-world examples, the conversation examines how empathy can succeed, where it often breaks down, and how a deeper understanding of empathy can lead to stronger connection, clearer communication, and healthier relationships.

Links:

https://apsats.org

https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevie-cotet-hall-phd-lpc-s-csat-s-694a0044/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/stevie-cotet-hall-dallas-tx/364054

What happens when betrayal is no longer just about safety, but about justice?

In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter sits down with Janice Caudill and Dorit Reichental to explore post-traumatic embitterment and why some betrayed partners feel stuck long after the initial trauma. They unpack the difference between fear-based trauma and injustice-based suffering, and why traditional healing approaches sometimes fall short.

Links:

https://apsats.org

https://drjakeporter.comhttps://intensivehope.com/pages/about/people/janice-caudill.html

https://www.doritreichental.com

In this episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, Dr. Jake Porter and Elia Markham discuss the complexities of betrayal, particularly focusing on its impact on adolescents. Elia shares her personal experiences with betrayal and how it shaped her understanding as both a coach and a parent. The conversation delves into the emotional turmoil faced by teens in high-conflict family situations, the importance of maintaining normalcy, and the need for parents to create a safe and stable environment. They emphasize the significance of empathy, setting boundaries, and the resilience of children amidst chaos. Elia also introduces Turning to Peace Magazine, a resource aimed at supporting those affected by betrayal.

Ellia Marcum works one on one with teens impacted by the rupture of betrayal trauma, helping them rebuild emotional safety, regulation, and trust after family and relational disruption. Through Mood Well Coaching, she offers trauma informed support that meets teens where they are developmentally while guiding them toward resilience, clarity, and healthy coping.

Ellia is the editor of Turning To Peace, a digital magazine that centralizes resources and expert guidance for partners healing from betrayal trauma. The publication offers faith grounded education, practical tools, and compassionate support designed to help individuals move forward with greater stability and understanding.

Links:

⁠http://apsats.org⁠

⁠http://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers⁠

Find more on Ellia:

moodwellcoaching.com

https://ttpmagazine.gumroad.com/l/turningtopeace

This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In this episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, Dr. Jake Porter and Kim Hansen Petroni discuss the concept of 'Not a Casserole Widow,' exploring the unique challenges faced by women navigating divorce and betrayal. They delve into the emotional complexities of disenfranchised grief, the disorienting experience of the court system, and the importance of support systems. Kim shares insights from her own journey, emphasizing the need for women to advocate for themselves and find new ways to reframe their realities during this challenging time. The conversation also highlights the significance of understanding the difference between justice and fairness in legal proceedings, and the importance of emotional regulation throughout the divorce process.

Links:

⁠http://apsats.org⁠

https://helpafterbetrayal.com

Find more on Kim:

https://www.coachinghope4u.com

https://www.coachinghope4u.com/notacasserolewidow

https://www.instagram.com/coachinghope4u

This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In this episode, I talk with Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein about their new book Finding the Way Through. We explore how recovery from sexual addiction must include partner sensitivity from the very beginning, not just to support the partner, but to build empathy and relational integrity in the addict. We also talk about their “fence” metaphor, how couples can heal while staying differentiated, and how real transformation goes far beyond sobriety.

APSATS Links:

⁠http://apsats.org⁠

⁠http://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers⁠

Tim and Jeanne:

https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Way-Through-Pornography-Sensitivity/dp/B0DTFM2VHK

https://iitap.com/page/vattuone_stein

This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In this episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, Dr. Jake Porter and Carol Sheets discuss the complexities of infidelity and its distinction from compulsive sexual behavior. They explore the emotional impact of betrayal on relationships, the importance of rebuilding trust and values, and the role of empathy in the healing process. The conversation also delves into post-traumatic growth, emphasizing how couples can emerge stronger from their experiences. Practical tools and strategies for couples navigating recovery are shared, highlighting the importance of gratitude and meaningful connections in the healing journey.

Carol Juergensen Sheets, ACSW, LCSW, CSAT, CCPS-C, PCC is a highly regarded social worker, personal life coach and a renowned self-help author who brings a variety of experiences to her clients and readers including having worked in schools, hospitals and in mental health for over 40 years. She has worked for 4 decades facilitating thousands of groups for women and teens. Additionally, Carol has devoted the last 2 decades to helping men and women manage their sex addiction and helping betrayed partners work through the trauma of sexual and relational betrayal. She is a well respected sex and relationship therapist to individuals and couples across the country and beyond. Carol completed her master's degree at the honorable institution, Indiana University School of Social Work. She is currently facilitating popular workshops on relationships both statewide and nationally. Carol does annual workshops for the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals. She is also a revered trainer for the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists and is a consultant for clinicians and coaches for APSATS. Carol believes in teaching people how to live their best lives in romance and in life in general.

Links:

⁠http://apsats.org⁠

⁠http://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers⁠

Find more on Carol:

https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com

Carol's books!

This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In this episode of the Betrayal Recovery Radio podcast, Dr. Jake Porter speaks with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed marriage and family therapist, about her personal journey as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence. They discuss the importance of understanding the body in the healing process, the impact of trauma, and how to listen to one's body. Tabitha shares insights on navigating betrayal and abuse, reconnecting with oneself and others, and defining healthy sexuality. The conversation emphasizes the need for compassion, understanding, and the importance of addressing both emotional and physical aspects of healing.

APSATS.org

APSATS.org/podcast

drjakeporter.com

More of Tabitha:

https://www.tabithawestbrook.com

https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com

https://www.amazon.com/Body-Soul-Healed-Whole-Invitational/dp/1496490665

This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.