With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest - Amy Matters from matterswellness.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, Amy Matters is here us and we are so excited to continue our healing conversations!

In this conversation, we're exploring how trauma doesn't just live in your memories—it lingers in your energy. You may feel it as fatigue, tension, or that constant edge of hypervigilance that never quite lets you rest. But here's the good news: the same body that absorbed the shock of trauma also holds the power to release and restore.

We Will be Discussing:

1. How does trauma physically impact the body's ability to produce and sustain energy?
2. What are some common signs that trauma is still draining a person's energy, even years later?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are welcoming one of our favorite people in the world, Dr. Barb Steffens, director emeritus of APSATS, to join us as we explore, "Surviving Relapse." Almost weekly, there is news of yet another ministry leader caught in a sex scandal or a Christian recovery leader having relapsed. Being in this field of work, the three of us are keenly aware of the fact that behind each scandal and each relapse there is, typically, a partner who is traumatically impacted.

Relapse, specifically, is terrifying for partners because it reopens the wound they worked so hard to stabilize, instantly bringing back fear, shock, and a sense of lost ground. It's not just about his behavior returning—it's the nervous system remembering how unsafe and unprotected it once felt.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Does relapse have to be a part of recovery?
2. What is HER relapse safety play?
3. Forgiveness does not replace accountability or override safety of betrayed spouses and the broader community. So, when a ministry leader relapses, how do we distinguish between grace and wisdom?
4. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• APSATS Radio with Lyschel Burket (Relapse Safety Plan for Her)

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest - Amy Matters from matterswellness.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are continuing our discussion around finding safety and healing in our bodies after betrayal with Amy Matters, a holistic wellness specialist. Remember, betrayal affects our physical selves, just as much as our emotional and mental selves.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Why do so many women get stuck in survival mode after betrayal?
2. What are some practical first steps women can take to begin feeling safe in their bodies again?
3. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Escaping Enemy Mode by Dr. Jim Wilder

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

Scripture references:

1 Peter 5:10-11 (The Passion Translation), "And then, after your brief suffering, the God of all loving grace, who has called you to share in his eternal glory in Christ, will personally and powerfully restore you and make you stronger than ever. Yes, he will set you firmly in place and build you up. And he has all the power needed to do this —forever! Amen."

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are so excited to continue our the healing conversation with, Amy Matters! Amy is a holistic health practitioner, she guides betrayed women toward wholeness from the inside out.

We are, again, diving into Amy's strengths as we discuss finding safety and healing in our bodies after betrayal. Safety is an important, although sometimes elusive, concept for those who are trying to heal from the traumatic impact of betrayal.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What does "safety" really mean in recovery terms?
2. Can you explain how the nervous system responds to relational trauma?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Connect with Amy here – Matters Wellness

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, Lyschel talks with Donna Dixon, a pillar of the betrayal trauma healing community and the founder of the non-profit, A Doorway of Hope. A Doorway of Hope is trauma-informed peer facilitator training that better equips partners lead support groups.

If you are considering leading a support group or interacting with betrayed partners on a regular basis in some other capacity, you will glean so much from this conversation!!!

We Will be Discussing:

1. Overview of the A Doorway of Hope peer-facilitator training for partners who wish to help lead groups.
2. How does a betrayed partner know she's ready to walk alongside other partners in their healing journey.
3. How does A Doorway of Hope work?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Life Is Ahead (A Doorway of Hope website)

Scripture Reference

"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God," 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com

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Welcome to part 2 of our discussion around betrayal trauma and what's really happening inside our bodies. Our holistic wellness expert, Amy Matters, is here with us to talk about the rest of the story.

We are continuing to dive into Amy's strengths as we discuss the biology of betrayal trauma. Many think that betrayal trauma is only a mental and emotional experience. It's more than that. Betrayal trauma causes physical changes, as well.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What are some of the most overlooked biological effects of trauma that you see in your clients?
2. How can understanding the biology of betrayal help women heal more effectively?
3. What are some practical tips and tools for how a woman can support her mitochondria?
4. What hope can we offer our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Amy Matters Holistic Functional Health Practitioner Website

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are so excited to introduce you to another extended guest host, Amy Matters! This is Amy's first time with us and while some people chase the spotlight, as a functional health practitioner, she is guiding others toward wholeness from the inside out. Thank you for being with us, Amy!

We are diving into Amy's strengths in this episode as we discuss the biology of betrayal trauma. Many think that betrayal trauma is only a mental and emotional experience. It's more than that. Betrayal trauma causes physical changes, as well.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What's actually happening inside the body when someone experiences betrayal trauma?
2. Why do symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, and exhaustion show up after betrayal?
3. How does betrayal impact hormones and the stress response system?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Amy Matters Holistic Functional Health Practitioner Website

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com

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Today, Cat, Lyschel and I are tackling the very relevant topic of self-blame and victim-blaming. These are common responses to betrayal and trauma, and blame distorts the truth of what's really happening.In this episode, we'll look at why people blame themselves, why others sometimes shift blame onto victims, and how these patterns affect healing. By raising awareness, we can challenge harmful narratives and move toward healthier, more accurate ways of understanding of where the responsibility truly lies.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Let's define what types of blame we are focusing on in this episode?
2. What is the role of empathy in feeling responsible for blame?
3. How do we give back the responsibility so we don't hold blame?
4. What hope can we leave with our listeners?

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you.

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1. What are some practical tips and tools for healing from shame?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners?

2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!"

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you.

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1. Cat explains the very interesting, "shame containment theory."
2. How does shame show up for partners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Lisa Etherson – The Shame Training Company