Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you.

1. What are some practical tips and tools for healing from shame?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you.

1. Cat explains the very interesting, "shame containment theory."
2. How does shame show up for partners?

• Lisa Etherson – The Shame Training Company

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  and special guest Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

Our guest-rockstar, Cat Etherington, is with us as we continue the discussion around how cultural complexities can create additional layers to navigate in a betrayed wife's healing and recovery.

1. How can she navigate this and empower herself?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners around cultural complexities?

• Naked Truth Project

• Redeemed Hope Healing Intensive Retreat

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  and special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com

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Our guest-rockstar, Cat Etherington is with us as we dive into our next discussion.

Today we're leaning into a tender but important conversation: the impact of betrayal—and how culture makes that even more complicated. Because betrayal doesn't happen in a vacuum. It collides with family expectations, faith communities, cultural norms, and even those unspoken rules we grew up with about what we 'should' feel, behave, or forgive. 

So in this episode, we're going to talk about how cultural layers can influence healing from the impact of betrayal trauma.

1. What are some cultural complexities betrayed women might navigate?
2. Where have we seen this played out?

• Naked Truth Project

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest host: Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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We are continuing our discussion with Cat Etherington around, "Parenting Lessons from the Trenches." 

1. How do we repair and apologize (practical tools)?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners?

• Naked Truth Project Parenting Resources

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest host: Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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Today, Cat Etherington is helping us dive into a topic "Parenting Lessons from the Trenches," how do you show up as an attuned and emotionally regulated mama when you feel like you're living in an episode of the walking dead –  you're not thriving, you're surviving. Survival parenting isn't perfect parenting, but it's still parenting. You're not alone, and you're not failing. You're human, and you're doing your best in really tough circumstances.

1. What is one of your worst parenting moments when parenting out of survival?

2. What is one of your parenting wins in spite of parenting out of survival?

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Lyschel and divorce coach, Kim Petroni, take advantage of time together at a conference to explore the question, "When do you know it's time to move toward divorce?"

1. When do you know it's time to let the marriage go?

2. As a divorced woman, how do you see God's love for you?

• You can find Kim Petroni here – Coaching Hope 4 U

• Not a Casserole Widow Workbook

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are answering a listener who has several questions.

We Discuss:

1. How do we balance taking responsibility for our own safety while growing our window of tolerance around our husbands who are gradually learning to become safe?
2. How do we lean into the discomfort of being somewhat vulnerable with them while remaining boundaried?
3. How do we care for ourselves and do our own work while our husbands are in early recovery and maybe not very safe.

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Episode 27: The Hidden Wounds Under Triggers

• Episode 28: The Spectrum of Triggers

• Submit a question to be answered on a future podcast.

• The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown

• Info for the Redeemed Hope Retreat

Welcome to Hope for Wives

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

We continue our discussion of, "How a woman can heal when fantasy was a part of his acting out behaviors?"

This type of fantasy is more than just an innocent daydream anticipating your upcoming vacation, Patrick Carnes, in his book Out of the Shadows, defines fantasy as, "…the altered [mental] state where anticipation and planning override conscience and consequence." In other words, this type of fantasy goes against values and ignores the relational consequences that can come if this fantasy is acted out.

1. How does comparison play into this scenario for her?
2. What steps can she take to build her confidence and security in who she is?
3. What hope can we leave?

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Our topic of discussion, today, is how a woman can heal when fantasy was a part of his acting out behaviors? This type of fantasy is more than just an innocent daydream anticipating your upcoming vacation, Patrick Carnes, in his book Out of the Shadows, defines fantasy as, "…the altered [mental] state where anticipation and planning override conscience and consequence." In other words, this type of fantasy goes against values and ignores the relational consequences that can come if this fantasy is acted out.

1. Definitions of fantasy
2. What about fantasy impacts a partner so greatly?
3. How does comparison play into this scenario for her?