Hope For Wives

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today, we are continuing our discussion around lament. Listen in as we talk about some lived experience, and practical tips or tools around lament and lamenting.

We Will be Discussing:

1. How did you (or women you know) realize that lament can become a pathway to connection—with God, with self, and even with others—rather than just a place of sorrow?
2. What does it actually look like to practice lament in real life?
3. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Redeemed Hope Healing Intensive Retreat

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today, we are exploring a spiritual practice that has typically been underdeveloped, uncomfortable and quietly avoided in the western world. This spiritual practice is lament. Listen in as we discuss the importance of lament for healing even when in a crisis of faith.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Let's start by defining what lament is?
2. Have you experienced lament?
3. Why do so many people struggle to practice lament, and what gets in the way of it feeling "allowed"?
4. What makes lament different from simply venting or expressing grief?
5. What hope can we leave our listeners?

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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Today, we introduce our newest permanent hostess, UK-based therapist and director of recovery for Naked Truth Project, Cat Etherington!!!

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest, Amy Matters from MattersWellness

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This is our last episode with Amy Matter. She has been a phenomenal addition to our healing conversations here at Hope For Wives.

As a reminder, Amy is a holistic health practitioner, she guides betrayed women toward wholeness from the inside out. We are finishing our discussion around this important topic, Beyond Coping, The path to THRIVING after betrayal trauma.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What common myths about healing keep women stuck in survival mode?
2. What does it take to move from burnout and overwhelm into energy and thriving?
3. What HOPE can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

Scripture references: Malachi 4:1-3, "For indeed, the day is coming, burning like a furnace, when all the arrogant and everyone who commits wickedness will become stubble. The coming day will consume them," says the Lord of Hosts, "not leaving them root or branches. 2 But for you who fear My name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings, and you will go out and playfully jump like calves from the stall. You will trample the wicked, for they will be ashes under the soles of your feet on the day I am preparing," says the Lord of Hosts."

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest - Amy Matters from MattersWellness

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We are so happy that Amy Matters adds her voice to this important topic, Beyond Coping, The path to THRIVING after betrayal trauma. And, as a reminder, Amy is a holistic health practitioner, she guides betrayed women toward wholeness from the inside out.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Why isn't coping enough for long-term healing after betrayal?
2. What's the difference between symptom management and true transformation?
3. What HOPE can we leave?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope for Wives. Because we are working on some really big things in the background of Hope For Wives, we're doing something a little different today. We are resharing a presentation that Bonny did for the Daring Ventures' 2025 Choose Connection Summit. Bonny chats with Connie Spiegel around, "A Partner's guide to trusting herself with healthy sexuality.

We Will be Discussing:

1. How does sexual betrayal impact a betrayed partner's sense of trust in themselves?
2. What steps can someone take to regain trust with themselves in relation to sexual intimacy?
3. What are the key differences between a porn-related mindset and healthy holistic sexual intimacy?
4. And others…

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Get Your Ticket to the 2025 Daring Ventures Choose Connection Summit

• Sexual Clarity Class with Bonny Logsdon Burns

  Healthy Sexuality Podcast for General Population – Sex Chat for Christian Wives

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest - Amy Matters from MattersWellness

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, Amy Matters is here with Lyschel and I, again, and we are so excited to continue our healing conversation with Amy Matters!

In this conversation, we're exploring how trauma doesn't just live in your memories—it lingers in your energy. Today, we'll talk about how to recognize where your energy's been hijacked—and practical ways to reclaim it, piece by piece, with compassion and courage.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What role does nervous system regulation play in reclaiming vitality after trauma?
2. What actually works to heal this damage
3. Why is "pushing through" or just adding more sleep/supplements not enough to restore energy?
4. What if that sounds overwhelming and they feel too exhausted to even begin healing?
5. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest - Amy Matters from MattersWellness

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, Amy Matters is here us and we are so excited to continue our healing conversations!

In this conversation, we're exploring how trauma doesn't just live in your memories—it lingers in your energy. You may feel it as fatigue, tension, or that constant edge of hypervigilance that never quite lets you rest. But here's the good news: the same body that absorbed the shock of trauma also holds the power to release and restore.

We Will be Discussing:

1. How does trauma physically impact the body's ability to produce and sustain energy?
2. What are some common signs that trauma is still draining a person's energy, even years later?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are welcoming one of our favorite people in the world, Dr. Barb Steffens, director emeritus of APSATS, to join us as we explore, "Surviving Relapse." Almost weekly, there is news of yet another ministry leader caught in a sex scandal or a Christian recovery leader having relapsed. Being in this field of work, the three of us are keenly aware of the fact that behind each scandal and each relapse there is, typically, a partner who is traumatically impacted.

Relapse, specifically, is terrifying for partners because it reopens the wound they worked so hard to stabilize, instantly bringing back fear, shock, and a sense of lost ground. It's not just about his behavior returning—it's the nervous system remembering how unsafe and unprotected it once felt.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Does relapse have to be a part of recovery?
2. What is HER relapse safety play?
3. Forgiveness does not replace accountability or override safety of betrayed spouses and the broader community. So, when a ministry leader relapses, how do we distinguish between grace and wisdom?
4. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• APSATS Radio with Lyschel Burket (Relapse Safety Plan for Her)

With your co-hostesses:

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and Special Guest - Amy Matters from matterswellness.com

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Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are continuing our discussion around finding safety and healing in our bodies after betrayal with Amy Matters, a holistic wellness specialist. Remember, betrayal affects our physical selves, just as much as our emotional and mental selves.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Why do so many women get stuck in survival mode after betrayal?
2. What are some practical first steps women can take to begin feeling safe in their bodies again?
3. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Escaping Enemy Mode by Dr. Jim Wilder

• Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness

  Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness

Scripture references:

1 Peter 5:10-11 (The Passion Translation), "And then, after your brief suffering, the God of all loving grace, who has called you to share in his eternal glory in Christ, will personally and powerfully restore you and make you stronger than ever. Yes, he will set you firmly in place and build you up. And he has all the power needed to do this —forever! Amen."