Hope For Wives

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com

Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are so excited to continue our the healing conversation with, Amy Matters! Amy is a holistic health practitioner, she guides betrayed women toward wholeness from the inside out.

We are, again, diving into Amy's strengths as we discuss finding safety and healing in our bodies after betrayal. Safety is an important, although sometimes elusive, concept for those who are trying to heal from the traumatic impact of betrayal.

1. What does "safety" really mean in recovery terms?
2. Can you explain how the nervous system responds to relational trauma?

• Connect with Amy here – Matters Wellness

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today, Lyschel talks with Donna Dixon, a pillar of the betrayal trauma healing community and the founder of the non-profit, A Doorway of Hope. A Doorway of Hope is trauma-informed peer facilitator training that better equips partners lead support groups.

If you are considering leading a support group or interacting with betrayed partners on a regular basis in some other capacity, you will glean so much from this conversation!!!

1. Overview of the A Doorway of Hope peer-facilitator training for partners who wish to help lead groups.
2. How does a betrayed partner know she's ready to walk alongside other partners in their healing journey.
3. How does A Doorway of Hope work?

• Life Is Ahead (A Doorway of Hope website)

"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God," 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com

Welcome to part 2 of our discussion around betrayal trauma and what's really happening inside our bodies. Our holistic wellness expert, Amy Matters, is here with us to talk about the rest of the story.

We are continuing to dive into Amy's strengths as we discuss the biology of betrayal trauma. Many think that betrayal trauma is only a mental and emotional experience. It's more than that. Betrayal trauma causes physical changes, as well.

1. What are some of the most overlooked biological effects of trauma that you see in your clients?
2. How can understanding the biology of betrayal help women heal more effectively?
3. What are some practical tips and tools for how a woman can support her mitochondria?
4. What hope can we offer our listeners?

• Amy Matters Holistic Functional Health Practitioner Website

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com

Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are so excited to introduce you to another extended guest host, Amy Matters! This is Amy's first time with us and while some people chase the spotlight, as a functional health practitioner, she is guiding others toward wholeness from the inside out. Thank you for being with us, Amy!

We are diving into Amy's strengths in this episode as we discuss the biology of betrayal trauma. Many think that betrayal trauma is only a mental and emotional experience. It's more than that. Betrayal trauma causes physical changes, as well.

1. What's actually happening inside the body when someone experiences betrayal trauma?
2. Why do symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, and exhaustion show up after betrayal?
3. How does betrayal impact hormones and the stress response system?

• Amy Matters Holistic Functional Health Practitioner Website

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com

Today, Cat, Lyschel and I are tackling the very relevant topic of self-blame and victim-blaming. These are common responses to betrayal and trauma, and blame distorts the truth of what's really happening.In this episode, we'll look at why people blame themselves, why others sometimes shift blame onto victims, and how these patterns affect healing. By raising awareness, we can challenge harmful narratives and move toward healthier, more accurate ways of understanding of where the responsibility truly lies.

1. Let's define what types of blame we are focusing on in this episode?
2. What is the role of empathy in feeling responsible for blame?
3. How do we give back the responsibility so we don't hold blame?
4. What hope can we leave with our listeners?

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you.

1. What are some practical tips and tools for healing from shame?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you.

1. Cat explains the very interesting, "shame containment theory."
2. How does shame show up for partners?

• Lisa Etherson – The Shame Training Company

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

Our guest-rockstar, Cat Etherington, is with us as we continue the discussion around how cultural complexities can create additional layers to navigate in a betrayed wife's healing and recovery.

1. How can she navigate this and empower herself?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners around cultural complexities?

• Naked Truth Project

• Redeemed Hope Healing Intensive Retreat

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com

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Our guest-rockstar, Cat Etherington is with us as we dive into our next discussion.

Today we're leaning into a tender but important conversation: the impact of betrayal—and how culture makes that even more complicated. Because betrayal doesn't happen in a vacuum. It collides with family expectations, faith communities, cultural norms, and even those unspoken rules we grew up with about what we 'should' feel, behave, or forgive.

So in this episode, we're going to talk about how cultural layers can influence healing from the impact of betrayal trauma.

1. What are some cultural complexities betrayed women might navigate?
2. Where have we seen this played out?

• Naked Truth Project

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest host: Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com

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We are continuing our discussion with Cat Etherington around, "Parenting Lessons from the Trenches."

1. How do we repair and apologize (practical tools)?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners?

• Naked Truth Project Parenting Resources