Bare Marriage

By Sheila Gregoire

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love,... more

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How many episodes does Bare Marriage have?

The podcast currently has 290 episodes available.

Bare Marriage episodes:

March 06, 2025Episode 273: Are Traditionally Christian Marriages Linked to More Immaturity? The Data Speaks!
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It's episode 273 of the Bare Marriage podcast! We found that certain beliefs are correlated most with emotional immaturity--passive aggressiveness; outbursts of anger; emotional dysregulation. In our research for our book The Marriage You Want, we found that when couples believe the husband should have the tie breaking vote, they score lower on maturity.

Is this because emotionally immature people are drawn to these beliefs? Or do these beliefs hamper maturity? Today we talk about why it's actually both, and what that means for our own personal responsibility.

THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
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TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
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THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
Download our healthy sexuality rubric and see how the bestselling marriage books fared!
Check out our post on why complementarianism is linked to emotional immaturity and toxic church cultures

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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58min
February 27, 2025Episode 272: Is "Acts of Service" Love Language Really a Cry for Help? All New Bonus Stats!
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What if the "acts of service" love language is masking something else--the totally unequal division of labor that many couples have, and Gary Chapman ignores? Plus does the "physical touch" love language mask something wrong in the bedroom? ALL NEW BONUS STATS today! Some of them aren't even in the new book!
PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
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Send in your preorder receipt to [email protected]
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED
Our post about the study showing that the love languages are junk science
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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42min
February 20, 2025Episode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)
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PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
Pre-Order on Amazon
Get other links to Pre-Order
Send in your preorder receipt to [email protected]
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
...more
58min
February 13, 2025Episode 270: What Does Prioritizing Marriage Look Like? Plus Do You Have to Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom?
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Prioritizing your marriage can be tough. How do we spend enough time together? Do we need more date nights? And MOMS—don’t forget to be a wife first and a mom second! But in all this talk, are we missing the bigger point? If we’re functioning as a team, doing life together, then affection will grow. But if you see your kids as threats to your marriage, or think you can connect with a date night when you haven’t been in the trenches together all week, you’re not going to feel close. A new way of thinking about prioritizing your relationship—without the GUILT! Based on new stats from The Marriage You Want!

PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
Pre-Order on Amazon
Get other links to Pre-Order
Send in your preorder receipt to [email protected]
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
...more
1h 16min
February 06, 2025Episode 269: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs—and Why Compromise Doesn’t Work
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Ever tried to find a compromise when you’re having an argument—but even the compromise doesn’t seem fair? In today’s podcast we explain why—using what we call The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs. We talk about this in our new book The Marriage You Want! Basically, compromise only works if you both start off on equal footing. But if one of you is already doing more than their fair share, compromise just makes it even more unequal. So let’s talk about foundation vs. frills, how to overcome entitlement, and why unfairness can’t go on forever!

PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
Pre-Order on Amazon
Get other links to Pre-Order
Send in your preorder receipt to [email protected]
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
...more
55min
January 30, 2025Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!
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What is the biggest key to a great marriage? Teamwork! Let’s talk about how teamwork is associated with all the good outcomes we want for marriage—better sex; feeling close; resolving conflict—everything! But complementarianism, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad outcomes. Good outcomes and bad outcomes tend to travel together—and complementarianism travels with the bad stuff! Hear about all our new data from our new book The Marriage You Want!

LINKS

PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
Pre-Order on Amazon
Get other links to Pre-Order
Send in your preorder receipt to [email protected]
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
Reel from BrandonTalksMarriage
Our reel on whether women want leaders or someone to take initiative
The podcast that reel was based on (Marriage on the Rock)
The Gospel Coalition reel about doing “risky” things
The original podcast where Cynthia Westfall appeared
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
...more
59min
January 23, 2025Episode 267: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires
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In our research looking at marital and sexual satisfaction among evangelicals, we’ve found that over and over again our best-selling books, and our megachurch pastors, teach things that are shown to lead to worse outcomes. Why? What’s going on? In today’s podcast we share the faulty premise that is at the heart of evangelical marriage advice, and the four toxic teachings that flow from that false premise. But when we fix that first premise—then our advice can finally get healthy (and Jesus-centered!)

LINKS
Pre-Order The Marriage You Want!
Pre-Order on Amazon
Get other links to Pre-Order
Send in your preorder receipt to [email protected]
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
Access our rubric scoring the various best-selling marriage and sex books
Our podcast talking about the problems with the “research” supporting Love & Respect
Our podcast with the issues with Marriage on the Rock
The Voddie Baucham clip
Our round up of the issues with the book The Excellent Wife
The Jimmy Evans clip
The Tim Keller clip
The Lisa and Francis Chan clip #1
The Lisa and Francis Chan clip #2
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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1h 8min
January 16, 2025Episode 266: Demolishing the Love and Respect Dichotomy Definitively (with Data)
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The idea that men need respect while women need love has been treated as gospel truth in the evangelical world. Best-sellers have been written based on it; it informs almost every marriage sermon. What if it’s not true? Using data from our marriage survey of 7000 people, we show how reality is very different—and what this means for how we should talk about marriage!

TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
LINKS
Pre-order The Marriage You Want! https://amzn.to/3YQfqMy
Send your pre-order receipts to [email protected] to get our pre-order bonus and an invite to the launch team!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
Take our marriage survey yourself as a date night!
Our synopsis of everything wrong with Love & Respect (with other posts and podcasts linked in the bottom)
Our open letter to Focus on the Family
Jonathan Pokluda clip
Female Influencer clip #1
Female influencer clip #2
Josh and Jana Howerton
Josh Howerton “Give him a crown”
Steve Gaines’ sermon on respect

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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1h 39min
January 09, 2025Episode 265: Culture Wars vs. Jesus: How to Not Get Sucked in To Toxic Teachings
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So many of us got sucked into believing toxic stuff about marriage and sex in the evangelical church! But unless we figured out WHY we believed that, we’re likely to get suckered in again to toxic stuff—just DIFFERENT toxic stuff. So today, Rebecca and I are doing a postmortem, looking at what it is about church that leaves us vulnerable to believing things that are toxic and rather easy to see through. Let’s become critical thinkers, so we don’t get sucked in again!

TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
LINKS
The Marriage You Want. You can preorder it here!
Send your pre-order receipts to: [email protected] The preorder bonuses and invites to the launch team will be sent out next week.
Check out our new plans for 2025, with links to all our social media channels
The Great Sex Rescue--the Kindle sale is over but the paperback's on sale!
Focus on the Family posts about Jane and John
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
...more
1h 4min
December 19, 2024Episode 264: It’s the Peer Reviewed Celebration! Plus a Plea to Respect Science
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Our big announcement: We’re peer-reviewed! Our dataset for The Great Sex Rescue has now appeared in the November 2024 Sociology of Religion Journal. So let’s talk about what we found, but also ask: why are evangelicals so quick to dismiss science, but at the same time cling to bad interpretations of data if it suits their agenda? Can we become better critical thinkers?

COMING IN 2025
Pre-Order The Marriage You Want
Join our email list to be notified about the launch team
TO SUPPORT US
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Join our email list!
LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:
Our journal article Sanctified Sexism
The Great Sex Rescue (our book using this dataset)
Lisa Bevere Reel with misinformation
Fact Checking her claims
Shaunti Feldhahn claiming Christian researchers can’t be peer reviewed
Podcast where we dissected one of Shaunti Feldhahn’s survey questions
Dissecting another survey question
The One Sheet of the problems with For Women Only
Shaunti Feldhahn’s Statement about Us
Our statement in response
Analysis of Shaunti Feldhahn’s use of neuroscience research
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue

She Deserves Better

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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1h 22min

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How many episodes does Bare Marriage have?

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