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Can a pastor bounce back from scandal and reclaim the spotlight? Sheila and Rebecca unpack Carl & Laura Lentz’s book Overcoming Infidelity, exploring the difference between forgiveness and accountability, the privilege of celebrity pastors, and what genuine healing after betrayal requires. We also ask some bigger questions about evangelical celebrity culture, who deserves a platform, and why supporting the betrayed partner matters just as much as believing in redemption.

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LINKS MENTIONED: 

• People Magazine article on Carl Lentz
• Carl & Laura Lentz’s book, “Overcoming Infidelity”
• The Whole Story puberty course
• Daniel Silliman’s book analysis article on Roy’s Report
• Jay Mallow substack article 
• Carl's convo with Lauren DeMoss

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What do we do with Bible passages that seem to portray God as indifferent to violence against women? Sheila sits down with Dr. Helen Paynter of the Centre for the Study of Bible and Violence to explore disturbing Old Testament stories, the historical context of biblical laws, and the difference between describing violence and endorsing it. Together, they consider how reading Scripture through the lens of Jesus can help us wrestle honestly with difficult questions, take survivors' experiences seriously, and rediscover God's care for the vulnerable.

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Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book
Our Spanish Site is live!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Journal for the Study of Bible & Violence
• Rev. Dr. Helen Paynter’s bio
• Dr. Helen’s book on Judges 19
• Dr. Helen’s blog post on Judges 19
• Bare Marriage Podcast Episode 299 with Dr. Helen Paynter
• The Miss.Judged study on marginalized women of the Bible

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Is Philippians 2 a biblical argument for male headship, or is it a call for ALL Christians to give up status and power in the way Jesus did? In this episode we unpack Kathy Keller’s teaching in “The Meaning of Marriage,” examining the assumptions behind complementarianism, the difference between sacrificial love and unequal authority, and what it really means to take Scripture seriously. Join us as we ask whether our ideas about gender roles reflect the upside-down kingdom of Jesus - or preserve the very power structures He came to challenge.

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Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book
Our Spanish Site is live!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• CBE International Paper
• N.T. Wright podcast
• Mr. Jambo reel
• The Marriage You Want, our book with a study guide, small group resources, premarital curriculum, and more!

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What happens when women who simply want to serve Jesus keep running into barriers to ministry? First, Hannah Hunt joins us as we hear the remarkable stories behind Called to Serve. Then we talk with Dr. Adam Harbaugh about what it actually takes for churches to rethink theology, history, bylaws, and leadership structures around women in ministry. It's an episode about calling, courage, disruption, and the hopeful possibility of a church where women and men can serve side by side - with Jesus at the center.

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Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book
Our Spanish Site is live!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Called to Serve book
• Called to Serve website
• Called to Serve stories & podcast
• The Whole Story Sex and Puberty Course
• Dr. Adam Harbaugh’s dissertation
• Dr. Adam Harbaugh’s website

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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 Mica Miller’s Death and “The Sex Is For Men” Problem

The tragic Mica Miller documentary The Death of a Pastor’s Wife reveals a deeply evil pastor husband with entitled, misogynistic views about sex. But those views didn’t come out of nowhere. In this interview that Sheila did with Called to Peace Ministries, she connects the dots of how evangelical teaching around sex centers the male experience, feeds entitlement, and creates breeding grounds for abuse.

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Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book
Our Spanish Site is live!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Called to Peace Ministries
• Called to Peace on Facebook
• Called to Peace on Instagram
• The Whole Story Sex and Puberty Course
• Friday Roundup on the Miller case

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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In this episode, we sit down with Dawn from The Minimal Mom to talk about the “dignity line,” a simple framework for recognizing if our relationships are characterized by respect, accountability, trust, and safety - and why patterns matter more than labels. We also dig into the complicated reality of marriage advice, boundaries, divorce, and the pressure Christian women can feel to keep trying no matter what. Then Rebecca joins in for a fiery discussion of a pastor’s sermon on sex and asking whether Christian conversations about sexual generosity actually account for women’s experiences. This week is a wide-ranging conversation about dignity, discernment, healthy relationships, and why sometimes the most important question isn’t “How do we save this marriage?” but “How do we help people become safe and whole?” This is one you don’t want to miss!

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Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book
Our Spanish Site is live!

CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT

We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.

Find the church info page here!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Dawn’s Website, “The Minimal Mom”
• Dawn’s Dignity Line Resources
• The Big Reasons For Divorce - Podcast Episode 212
• The Power of a Praying Wife Review - Podcast Episode 197 
• Our Love & Respect Deep Dive Series 
• Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s book, “Look Like a Lady”
• Friday Roundup on Ryan Visconti
• Ryan Visconti full sermon

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if many of the ideas we’ve been taught about “biblical womanhood” have a much stranger history than we realized? We sit down with historian & author Kristin Du Mez to unpack the fascinating—and sometimes surprising—story behind Christian womanhood, from Hannah Whittall Smith and Elisabeth Elliot to Christian fiction, publishing, blogging, and today’s influencer culture. What happens when we stop sanitizing the past, let go of formulas that promise happiness, and make room for a faith that can actually grapple with reality? Let’s find out together!

BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS

Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book
Our Spanish Site is live!

CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT

We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.

Find the church info page here!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Kristin Du Mez’s book, "Live, Laugh, Love"
• Kristin’s Website
• Kristin’s Substack
• Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s website
• Elissa’s book, “Look Like a Lady”
• The Whole Story
• Holding It Together: How Women Became America’s Safety Net 
• Episode 104: Jesus & John Wayne
• Katharine Bushnell Episode

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if some of the messages we've absorbed about “what it means to be a woman” have less to do with the Bible and more to do with centuries of art, culture, and storytelling? Today we have a fascinating conversation with art historian Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt about five powerful visual tropes—the Venus, Maiden, Vessel, Mother, and Monster—and the surprising, life-giving counter-stories that have been there all along. Together, we explore what happens when we stop seeing women as objects, prizes, symbols, perfect mothers, or threats, and start seeing them as whole people invited to witness, move, create, cultivate, and partner in God's kingdom.

CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT

We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.

Find the church info page here!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s website
• Elissa’s book, “Look Like a Lady”
• Elissa’s Instagram
• Elissa’s Substack

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if the Bible has been giving us maternal pictures of God all along—and we've simply been overlooking them? Today we talk with Elizabeth Berget, author of “Love Like a Mother,” about God's compassion, childbirth, motherhood, grief, protection, exhaustion, and the surprising ways women's embodied experiences can illuminate the character of God. Together, we explore how seeing God as both Father and Mother can offer women a deeper sense of belonging, challenge unhealthy ideas about motherhood and spiritual performance, and invite the church into a fuller, more expansive theology.

CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT

We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.

Find the church info page here!

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Elizabeth Berget’s Website
• Elizabeth’s book, “Love Like a Mother”
• Elizabeth’s Substack
• Elizabeth’s Instagram

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What happens when “protecting women” actually leaves them with fewer choices, less financial security, and nowhere to go when a marriage becomes unsafe? Today we unpack the hidden risks behind certain conservative Christian teachings about gender, money, work, and submission before sitting down with Sally Hope to talk about abuse, faith, anger, healing, and her survivor resource "No Visible Scars." It’s a thoughtful - and occasionally fiery - conversation about what genuine protection looks like when the goal is not female dependence, but healthy partnership, autonomy, justice, and healing.

CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT

We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.

Find the church info page here!

GET NO VISIBLE SCARS here

TO SUPPORT US: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
• Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
• Join our email list!

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• CortneyGetsFit TikTok
• Dynamics of Abusive Relationships Study
• Sally Hope’s Website
• Sally’s book “No Visible Scars”
• Sally’s Always Hopeful program
• Download the One-Sheet on The Empowered Wife
• Bare Marriage ToolKit

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.