Bare Marriage

By Sheila Gregoire

Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality Christianity

What's Bare Marriage about?

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

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Bare Marriage episodes:

05.02.2024
PODCAST: Wolves, Chimpanzees, and Deer: Let’s confront the Alpha Male Myth
Evangelical conservatives too often portray masculinity as if men are supposed to be the “Alpha male”—aloof, emotionless, vying for control, and bullying. Today we look at how, even in nature, this concept of the Alpha Male has been overblown. And...
04.25.2024
Episode 234: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life—and the search for authenticity and friendship
Church is messy. Friendships are hard to find. Life in a fishbowl is awkward. But what if…it’s worth it? Such a great convo with Stephanie, Jessica, and Jenna about their new book Pastors’ Wives Tell All! Whether you're a pastors' wife,...
04.18.2024
Episode 233: The Backlash from Those Defending Purity Culture feat. Zachary Wagner
With the release of so many books critiquing purity culture, what has the backlash been like? Well, let’s talk about it with Zachary Wagner, the author of Non-Toxic Masculinity as we celebrate the one-year anniversary of the launch of She...
04.11.2024
Episode 232: When Submission "Cults" Groom for Abuse: One Woman's Story
We've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's telling her story--and it's a mesmerizing one--of what happened as her family got more and more into the Bill Gothard movement (and she was eventually...
04.04.2024
Episode 231: Are We Saying that Wives Don't Have to Have Sex?
When we talk about how God made sex to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and how, if women don't want sex, the answer is to figure out why, we invariably get people saying, "so you think women don't...
03.28.2024
Episode 230: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer
Recently Texas SBC megachurch pastor Josh Howerton told brides that on the wedding night, they should "stand where he wants you to stand, wear what he wants you to wear, and do what he wants you to do." Sex was...
03.21.2024
Episode 229: A Victim-Centered Approach to Forgiveness After Trauma
Forgiveness is so often weaponized against victims in the church. But what does the Bible really say about forgiveness, especially when trauma is involved? How can we value our own mental health but also follow Jesus? This is a fascinating...
03.14.2024
Episode 228: How Our Stories Influence Our Marriage Choices feat. Natalie Hoffman
Natalie Hoffman joins us today to talk about her INCREDIBLE memoir All the Scary Little Gods. Natalie escaped an abusive marriage, and now coaches other women in similar situations. In her memoir, she invites us to listen to the story...
03.07.2024
Episode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to Critics
So many people resist admitting that they are actually egalitarians, because they think they have to be complementarian--even if they don't act like it. Today Sheila and her husband Keith dissect the arguments that are often used to say "we're...
02.29.2024
Episode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex Rescue
The Great Sex Rescue turns 3 this week! And it's been a super eventful three years. So much has changed. So let's talk about the feedback we've had, what we've done since, what people are saying--and where we're going from...
02.22.2024
Episode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?
Would our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process...
02.15.2024
Episode 224: Lies Women Believe Part 2: Is God a Monster?
Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth taught concerning things about shame, trauma, and even what God is like. On today's podcast, we're joined by Becky Castle Miller, a doctoral student looking at emotions in the Bible, and Helen Blake,...
02.08.2024
Episode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth
Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth is one of the most popular women’s bible study books used in churches across North America. But what does the book actually teach about marriage? About sex? About divorce and abuse? It’s scary,...
02.01.2024
Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee–and Other New Research Findings!
Links to things mentioned: First, support us! Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation Check out our...
01.25.2024
Episode 221: Let Men Be Dads! Why Do So Many Evangelical Resources Portray Men as Pathetic Dads?
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriage Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruits Check out our...
01.18.2024
Episode 220: Why is Emerson Eggerichs Afraid of Women Talking? A Deep Dive into Love & Respect
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriage Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruits Check out our...
01.11.2024
Episode 219: Let Men be Men - Because We Believe Men are Great!
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our Facbook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Thanks to everyone who helped us reach our fundraising goal! You can give to our work and...
12.14.2023
Episode 218: Let’s Pivot to Healthy Churches feat. Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer
Links to things mentioned: Partner with us at Good Fruit Faith, an initiative of the Bosko Foundation, as we help impact future church leaders with our data and our message (tax receiptable within the U.S.): https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruits Join our Patreon for as...
12.07.2023
Episode 217: When Religion Hurts You feat. Laura Anderson
Links to things mentioned: Our marriage survey is still open! We’re looking for married couples to take it. https://baremarriage.com/grim Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our incredible Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!...
11.30.2023
Episode 216: Perceived Autonomy vs. Actual Autonomy: It’s Okay to Say No to Controlling Church Spaces
Things mentioned in this podcast: Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and...
11.22.2023
Episode 215: A Jesus-Centered Faith vs. Nationalism feat. Andrew Whitehead
Links to things mentioned: Take our marriage survey! We’re looking for couples to fill out our marriage survey: https://baremarriage.com/grim Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and support our work, while getting access to our awesome Facebook community! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Our...
11.16.2023
Episode 214: What if Momma Ain’t Happy? Why It’s Okay to Sweat the Small Stuff
Links to things mentioned: Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim/ Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work!...
11.09.2023
Episode 213: Stained Glass Ceilings: How the church does gender ft. Lisa Swartz
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Lisa Weaver Swartz’ book Stained Glass Ceilings: https://amzn.to/3suzUfJ A write-up of the amicus brief submitted on behalf of...
11.02.2023
Episode 212: Do Women Really Initiate 70% of Divorces for Frivolous Reasons?
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and support our work and research, while getting access to our Facebook group, unfiltered podcast, merch discounts, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Sign up for our email list to...
10.26.2023
Episode 211: Bullied for Leaving an Abusive Husband ft. Naghmeh Panahi
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon and get access to the best place on the internet! https://patreon.com/baremarriageCheck out our Domestic Violence Awareness Merch and our Breast Cancer Awareness Merch--20% of profits go to support charities involved in fighting DV and...
10.19.2023
Episode 210: The Enneagram and Marriage ft. Christa Hardin
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our amazing Facebook group and unfiltered Sheila & Rebecca! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Christa Hardin's new book The Enneagram in Marriage: https://amzn.to/3SmZyxR Christa's podcast The Enneagram and Marriage: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/pod Christa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/ The study...
10.12.2023
Episode 209: Why Don't Evangelical Sex Teachers Know What They Don't Know?
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon group for as little as $5 a month and be part of the most amazing place on the internet: https://patreon.com/baremarriage Join our email list so that you'll be notified when I'm in your area--and so...
10.05.2023
Episode 208: What Happens When a Pastor Sets Out to Prove Complementarianism? ft. Terran Williams
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon and support our work for as little as $5 a month! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Check out our new Biblical Manhood Merch! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/ Terran Williams’ Book How God Sees Women: https://amzn.to/3PJjwQ2 Terran’s book What’s So Amazing About...
09.28.2023
Episode 207: The Ultimate Anti 'Obligation Sex' Episode
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts, merch, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Check out our Biblical Womanhood merch, and our new Biblical Manhood merch! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-womanhood-collection-merchandise/ https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/be-a-biblical-woman-collection/ https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/...
09.21.2023
Episode 206: A Deep Dive into 'For Women Only' by Shaunti Feldhahn ft. Meghan Tschanz + Devi Abraham
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon and support our research, plus hear me working through future posts and wondering what I should do next! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Our summary of all the issues in this podcast, plus a downloadable one sheet! https://baremarriage.com/2023/09/review-of-the-problems-with-for-women-only-by-shaunti-feldhahn-with-download/...
09.14.2023
Episode 205: Do Complementarian Men Make the Best Husbands? A response to Nancy Pearcey
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon and support our research for as little as $5 a month! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Our op ed with Baptist News that goes over the points in this podcast: https://baptistnews.com/article/do-complementarian-men-do-better-a-response-to-nancy-pearcey/ Our initial article responding to Josh Howerton's claim that...
09.07.2023
Episode 204: Untangling Toxic Teachings on Suffering ft. Rebecca Davis
Links to things mentioned:Get a FREE copy of Rebecca's new book, Untwisting the Scriptures #5 when it launches September 11! Just sign up for her FREE ebook now and you'll be notified on September 11! https://sendfox.com/heresthejoyJoin our Patreon for as...
08.31.2023
Episode 203: Parenting without Yelling: Discipline & Kindness Can Go Together! ft. Wendy Snyder
Links to things mentioned: Sign up for our FREE webinar with Wendy from Fresh Start Family: September 14 at 1 pm EST (recording will be available): https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/baremarriage/ Check out last year's podcasts with Wendy: Part 1 and Part 2 https://baremarriage.com/2022/05/podcast-how-to-misuse-statistics-for-dummies/ https://baremarriage.com/2022/05/podcast-connection-not-punishment-a-better-way-to-parent-feat-wendy-snyder/...
08.24.2023
Episode 202: The Barbie Movie, South Korean Women, and the Evangelical Church
Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon! Join for as little as $5 a month and support our research while getting access to our awesome Facebook group! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Our Limited Edition Merch--it's only available until the end of the month! Check out...
08.17.2023
Episode 201: What Does a Biblical Marriage Look Like?
Links to things mentioned: Our patreon! Join our exclusive, behind-the-scenes group and get extra access to Sheila, Rebecca, and Joanna for only $5 a month!Our amazing Insulated Travel Mugs, that keep water super cold, and keep things hot, too! We've got...
07.13.2023
Episode 200 Special! - Our "Brio Magazine Deep Dive" PJ Party!
Links to things mentioned: Join our Patreon and join our LIVE Brio magazine pajama party! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Get our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit, to explain our findings to your friends: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product/great-sex-rescue-toolkit/ See our She Should Know merch, based on She Deserves Better:...
07.06.2023
Episode 199: Jane Austen, Pride & Prejudice, and Marriage Advice!
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our amazing behind-the-scenes Facebook group, and more.Our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit–help for you as you talk about healthy teachings to your friends...
06.29.2023
Episode 198: The 4 Ways Complementarian Marriages Can Go Wrong (Keith Takes on the Danvers Statement)
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our amazing behind-the-scenes Facebook group, and more.Our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit--help for you as you talk about healthy teachings to your friends...
06.22.2023
Episode 197: How The Power of a Praying Wife Can Go Horribly Wrong
Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get exclusive access to our Facebook group--and even free merch!A Synopsis of all the problems in Power of a Praying Wife--with an optional downloadGretchen...
06.15.2023
Episode 196: New Research on the Effects of Obligation Sex! (It's Bad...)
Links to things mentioned:Sign up for our FREE webinar on June 21! https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_odcOvC0uTzugaA7JvnUe1wOur book The Great Sex Rescue!Join our Patreon and support our work for as little as $5 a month. Plus gain access to our exclusive Facebook group, exclusive merch,...
06.08.2023
Episode 195: How To Support Your Wife in an Equal Relationship feat. Todd Korpi
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Get free merch, access to our Facebook group, discounts on courses, and more! Todd Korpi's book Your Daughters Shall Prophesy: Amplifying the Voice and Place of Christian Women (https://amzn.to/3MWkPtH)Follow Todd on Twitter and InstagramOur new "She...
06.01.2023
Episode 194: Male-Centric Sex vs. the Female Sexual Response Cycle
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon community! It's super fun, and it helps fund our research! Join us for as little as $5 a month.Our book The Great Sex Rescue, plus our two books that look into the sexual response cycle...
05.25.2023
Episode 193: Tell Her Story: The Forgotten Women of the Bible with Nijay Gupta
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Join us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to exclusive content while also supporting our research.Nijay's new book Tell Her Story Our podcast looking at how Emerson Eggerichs mishandles Scripture, featuring Nijay...
05.18.2023
Episode 192: How 'Every Young Man's Battle' Makes Everything Worse ft. Andrew Bauman & Zachary Wagner
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and join our exclusive Facebook group, plus help support our research!Our new book She Deserves Better--the audio has now launched!Our one-sheet download of the problems with...
05.11.2023
Episode 191: Finding a Healthy Church with Beth Allison Barr
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our unfiltered podcasts and more. Your donations help support our next big survey coming this summer!Our new book She Deserves BetterBeth Allison...
05.04.2023
Episode 190: 'Pink' and 'Blue' Faith -- Plus we take a submission quiz! ft. Aimee Byrd
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Our new book She Deserves Better!Aimee Byrd's book Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and...
04.27.2023
Episode 189: Non-Toxic Masculinity ft. Zachary Wagner
Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Our new book She Deserves Better!Zachary Wagner's book Non-Toxic Masculinity, plus find Zachary on TwitterOur...
04.20.2023
Episode 188: What We're Fighting For: A Glimpse 20 Years Down the Road
Links to things mentioned: Our new book She Deserves Better: https://baremarriage.com/she-deserves-better/ Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to unfiltered podcasts, our exclusive Facebook group, and more. Join our Patreon! https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Instagram Reel from 247 Marriage: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CnetOgDhM1S/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link The podcast where we...
04.13.2023
Episode 187: 'Nice Guy' Syndrome & Drawing Boundaries: What Girls Need to Know
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCASTOur new book She Deserves BetterSupport us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to unfiltered podcasts, our exclusive Facebook group, and more. Join our Patreon!Article on the problem with “Nice Guy” behavior...
04.06.2023
Episode 186: Shame, DARVO & Spiritual Bypassing - Let's get to the bottom of it! ft. Jasmine Holmes
Things mentioned in our Podcast!Our Patreon! Thank you for supporting us and helping us fund our research. You can join us for as little as $5 a month!Jasmine Holmes’ new book Never Cast Out! Plus find her on Instagram. Jasmine on...

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Bare Marriage episodes:

PODCAST: Wolves, Chimpanzees, and Deer: Let’s confront the Alpha Male Myth

Episode 234: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life—and the search for authenticity and friendship

Episode 233: The Backlash from Those Defending Purity Culture feat. Zachary Wagner

Episode 232: When Submission "Cults" Groom for Abuse: One Woman's Story

Episode 231: Are We Saying that Wives Don't Have to Have Sex?

Episode 230: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer

Episode 229: A Victim-Centered Approach to Forgiveness After Trauma

Episode 228: How Our Stories Influence Our Marriage Choices feat. Natalie Hoffman

Episode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to Critics

Episode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex Rescue

Episode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?

Episode 224: Lies Women Believe Part 2: Is God a Monster?

Episode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee–and Other New Research Findings!

Episode 221: Let Men Be Dads! Why Do So Many Evangelical Resources Portray Men as Pathetic Dads?

Episode 220: Why is Emerson Eggerichs Afraid of Women Talking? A Deep Dive into Love & Respect

Episode 219: Let Men be Men - Because We Believe Men are Great!

Episode 218: Let’s Pivot to Healthy Churches feat. Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer

Episode 217: When Religion Hurts You feat. Laura Anderson

Episode 216: Perceived Autonomy vs. Actual Autonomy: It’s Okay to Say No to Controlling Church Spaces

Episode 215: A Jesus-Centered Faith vs. Nationalism feat. Andrew Whitehead

Episode 214: What if Momma Ain’t Happy? Why It’s Okay to Sweat the Small Stuff

Episode 213: Stained Glass Ceilings: How the church does gender ft. Lisa Swartz

Episode 212: Do Women Really Initiate 70% of Divorces for Frivolous Reasons?

Episode 211: Bullied for Leaving an Abusive Husband ft. Naghmeh Panahi

Episode 210: The Enneagram and Marriage ft. Christa Hardin

Episode 209: Why Don't Evangelical Sex Teachers Know What They Don't Know?

Episode 208: What Happens When a Pastor Sets Out to Prove Complementarianism? ft. Terran Williams

Episode 207: The Ultimate Anti 'Obligation Sex' Episode

Episode 206: A Deep Dive into 'For Women Only' by Shaunti Feldhahn ft. Meghan Tschanz + Devi Abraham

Episode 205: Do Complementarian Men Make the Best Husbands? A response to Nancy Pearcey

Episode 204: Untangling Toxic Teachings on Suffering ft. Rebecca Davis

Episode 203: Parenting without Yelling: Discipline & Kindness Can Go Together! ft. Wendy Snyder

Episode 202: The Barbie Movie, South Korean Women, and the Evangelical Church

Episode 201: What Does a Biblical Marriage Look Like?

Episode 200 Special! - Our "Brio Magazine Deep Dive" PJ Party!

Episode 199: Jane Austen, Pride & Prejudice, and Marriage Advice!

Episode 198: The 4 Ways Complementarian Marriages Can Go Wrong (Keith Takes on the Danvers Statement)

Episode 197: How The Power of a Praying Wife Can Go Horribly Wrong

Episode 196: New Research on the Effects of Obligation Sex! (It's Bad...)

Episode 195: How To Support Your Wife in an Equal Relationship feat. Todd Korpi

Episode 194: Male-Centric Sex vs. the Female Sexual Response Cycle

Episode 193: Tell Her Story: The Forgotten Women of the Bible with Nijay Gupta

Episode 192: How 'Every Young Man's Battle' Makes Everything Worse ft. Andrew Bauman & Zachary Wagner

Episode 191: Finding a Healthy Church with Beth Allison Barr

Episode 190: 'Pink' and 'Blue' Faith -- Plus we take a submission quiz! ft. Aimee Byrd

Episode 189: Non-Toxic Masculinity ft. Zachary Wagner

Episode 188: What We're Fighting For: A Glimpse 20 Years Down the Road

Episode 187: 'Nice Guy' Syndrome & Drawing Boundaries: What Girls Need to Know

Episode 186: Shame, DARVO & Spiritual Bypassing - Let's get to the bottom of it! ft. Jasmine Holmes

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