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Read about the woman's story at FBC Beggs here: https://tinyurl.com/5x7w6ddj

 In this episode I spoke with repeat guest Cait West, a woman whose marriage and church (FBC Beggs in Beggs, Oklahoma, led by pastor Chris Gore) was taken over by the patriarchy, and Zach Wagner (author of "Non-Toxic Masculinity") about the Patriarchy.

Patriarchy is not only toxic for the women subjugated under it, it's an impossible system for the men to exercise. It's a reaction to the perceived feminization of the church, of culture, and of society. It's an ideology wherein it's not enough to *be* a man, you must *do* manly things to prove it.

And therein lies the problem, an identity wrapped up in performance rather than the gospel.

Buy Cait's book here: https://tinyurl.com/27nvt34h

Buy Zach's book here: https://tinyurl.com/6pt73vsb

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Read the woman's story at FBC Beggs here: A Timeline Statement.

In this episode I spoke with repeat guest Cait West, a woman whose marriage and church (FBC Beggs in Beggs, Oklahoma, led by pastor Chris Gore) was taken over by the patriarchy, and Zach Wagner (author of "Non-Toxic Masculinity") about the Patriarchy.

Patriarchy is not only toxic for the women subjugated under it, it's an impossible system for the men to exercise. It's a reaction to the perceived feminization of the church, of culture, and of society. It's an ideology wherein it's not enough to *be* a man, you must *do* manly things to prove it.

And therein lies the problem, an identity wrapped up in performance rather than the gospel.

Buy Cait's book here: Rift

Buy Zach's book here: Non-Toxic Masculinity

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Meet Rachel Curtiss, former member of Cities Church in St. Paul, Minnesota, and Cait West, former member of the PCA, RPCNA, and OPC in Pennsylvania and Colorado.

Rachel was publicly excommunicated by Joe Rigney (now at Christ Church Moscow) because she left an abusive marriage and church. Cait West, author of the book Rift, was entrenched in the "stay-at-home-daughter" movement, and managed to escape.

They have both found their voice.

Resource mentioned in this episode:

Rift by Cait West

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Join us as we talk with repeat guest Jeff Moss, a former CREC Minister, who has over a decade of experience "in the system."

The Trinity is the bedrock of the Christian faith: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. The Father is God, the Son is God, and the Holy Spirit is God. But what happens when you've entered into a culture war? The perceived "feminization" of the Evangelical church presents to you a problem: how do we fight this? Enter the old heresy of the Father as "authority" and the Son as "submission." The man in the marriage mirrors God the Father's role, while the wife is subjugated to that of the Son.

What better to keep women under control than to tell them to "suffer like Jesus." The Trinity then becomes the foundation for gender roles.

Let's fix this.

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Both stories are coming on anonymously. The first is a couple who attended a CREC in the Southeast, and the second is a woman who grew up at Harvest OPC, near Grand Rapids, Michigan.

The first story is about spiritual abuse and gaslighting, the second story is the outworking of Nancy Wilson's disgusting quip, "of course a husband is never trespassing his own garden" in this woman's life.

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Join Dr. R. Scott Clark and I as we discuss Federal Vision, it's various off-shoots and internecine debates, amber ale and oatmeal stout "versions," engage with clips from Douglas Wilson, Richard Lusk (among other CREC ministers who have blocked us), and look at the original statements and lectures from Auburn Avenue in 2002. This is our most theologically dense episode of the series. It's a beatdown of "Federal Vision," a works-based Christianity. We end by describing how this system of doctrine necessarily leads to abuse and obedience that is "cloaked" in submission. Let's make the gospel scandalous, not scandalized. That which leads to human flourishing, not fear.

Find R. Scott Clark here: Westminster Seminary California

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Meet Aimee Byrd (a former member of the OPC in the Northeast and prolific author), Ali LeReaux (a former member of the OPC in the Southeast), and Heather Nadreau (a former member of Christ Church Spokane, CREC).

Spiritual abuse so often gets short shrift, but it upends everything you think about the gospel, the church, Jesus, and the pastors who are commanded to shepherd your soul.

The gospel ceases being a salve in favor for a rod. It ceases building you up, by beating you down.

⁠Aimee Byrd⁠'s books mentioned in the episode:

⁠The Hope in Our Scars⁠

⁠The Sexual Reformation⁠

⁠Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood⁠

⁠Why Can't We Be Friends?⁠

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Join us as we talk with Aimee Byrd, and repeat guests Kristin Kobes du Mez and Nathan & Christiana Wells about the marketing that "bites back."

From subversive marketing tactics, to slick production. From rhetorical flair, to retro design. Canon Press, Canon Plus, New Saint Andrews, and Christ Church are the bad boys on the block. The bad boys who know how to market, because the "good" boys are scared of it.

But these bad boys created a beast they no longer control.

Let's get under the hood.

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Enjoy this BONUS episode with ⁠Rachael Denhollander.

Our first of two conversations on reporting abuse, how churches should handle abuse allegations, the "2 or 3 witnesses" argument, using "non Christian" judges, and more.

Rachael's books:

What Is a Girl Worth?

How Much Is a Little Girl Worth?

How Much Is a Little Boy Worth?

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Meet Chelsea Gondrez (former member of the OPC and PCA), an anonymous woman who's known/known of Doug Wilson for decades, and Alaine and Fred Hofland (the parents of Chelsea Gondrez).

The standard for women in these churches is impossible, everything is their fault, and they're confronted with this daily.

Here's the video with Alaine and Fred (plus others on her page): Bringing Beauty out of the Ashes, Part 3

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SURVIVORS - THANK YOU, AND MAY YOU BE HEARD.