Hope For Wives

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are moving solidly into the second phase of healing by discussing all the ramifications of forgiveness.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What are some definitions of forgiveness?
2. What are some myths about forgiveness?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• What is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure?

  Full Therapeutic Disclosure (part 2)

Scripture references:

2 Peter 3:9

2 Chronicles 7:14

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we continue our discussion with Dr. Christy Bauman.

Christy is an author, teacher and psychotherapist. A mother of 4, fierce dreamer and passionate about advocating for women.

Christy received her Bachelors degree in Communication at Texas A&M in 2002 and then her Masters in Counseling at Reformed Theological Seminary in 2007. She published the book Unearth in 2008, A Brave Lament in 2018, and Her Rites in 2024. She is certified in Medical Family Therapy and Trauma and Abuse. She earned her doctorate at Seattle Pacific University. Her dissertation topic was Shame and Sexuality in Women.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Overcoming the shame of female sexuality
2. What's the first practical thing I can do to overcome shame?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Her Rites by Dr. Christy Bauman

• Safe Church Book , Safe Church Conference

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are talking with Dr. Christy Bauman about the female body, sexuality, and theology with the added layer of trauma.

Christy is an author, teacher and psychotherapist. A mother of 4, fierce dreamer and passionate about advocating for women.

Christy received her Bachelors degree in Communication at Texas A&M in 2002 and then her Masters in Counseling at Reformed Theological Seminary in 2007. She published the book Unearth in 2008, A Brave Lament in 2018, and Her Rites in 2024. She is certified in Medical Family Therapy and Trauma and Abuse. She earned her doctorate at Seattle Pacific University. Her dissertation topic was Shame and Sexuality in Women.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What would you want a betrayed woman to know about her identity as being a woman?
2. Anger is misunderstood.
3. Rootedness – Our Identity

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Contact Dr. Christy Bauman

• Book: Her Rites: A Sacred Journey for the Mind, Body, and Soul

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are continuing our conversation around relational safety with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith.

From their website, "It is a privilege that we get to use our experience, training, and talents to help others find what they have been desperately searching for: safe and supportive relationships which empowers them to not just survive, but thrive. Our growing team represents a community of dedicated professionals who passionately pursue a greater mastery of the very best tools and techniques to serve our clients faithfully."

We Will be Discussing:

1. Personal responsibility for each spouse
2. Can she use her voice? How?
3. What is a realistic healthy relationship?
4. Core values and boundaries

Resources mentioned in this show:

• • Building True Intimacy by Dan Drake, Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith

  • Connect with Matthew and Joanna's Couples Work Here

  • Free Resource Material from the Raabsmiths!

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we discuss the very important topic of relational safety with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith.

From their website, "It is a privilege that we get to use our experience, training, and talents to help others find what they have been desperately searching for: safe and supportive relationships which empowers them to not just survive, but thrive. Our growing team represents a community of dedicated professionals who passionately pursue a greater mastery of the very best tools and techniques to serve our clients faithfully."

We Will be Discussing:

1. Definition around relational safety
2. A scenario to explain relational safety more in depth
3. How to unpack an episode of disconnect/conflict
4. Practical ideas to grow self-awareness

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Building True Intimacy by Dan Drake, Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith

• Connect with Matthew and Joanna - https://www.raabsmithteam.com

• Free Resource Material from the Raabsmiths!

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today we discuss the upcoming Christmas season and how to, "Experiencing Christmas Well."

We Will be Discussing:

1. What are some things you navigated or things you've heard you clients navigate during Christmas while trying to heal from betrayal?
2. What are some ways you or your clients have navigated Christmas and found peace?
3. What hope would you like to leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• The Hidden Wounds Behind Triggers (ep. 27)

  The Spectrum of Triggers (ep. 28)

• Navigating the Holidays after Betrayal

Scripture references:

Matthew 12:20

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are talking with Stacey Smith, Chief Clinical Officer at Daring Ventures, about attachment and its role in healing. Stacey is an EMDR Certified Therapist and a Trainer for The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). In this 4-Day training she teaches coaches and clinicians how to ethically treat partners of sex addicts who are suffering from betrayal trauma. She is also a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) Candidate as well as PACT level one trained.

Stacey also speaks to groups on topics like betrayal trauma, single womanhood, divorce and intimacy in marriage. Her first book, Understanding and Loving Your Child as a Single Parent, co-authored with Steve Arterburn, was published in 2022. She received her undergraduate degree from Texas State in 1988. Her graduate degree is from Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia. She became an LPC in late 2010. She is recently married and lives in Galveston, Texas and spends her spare time fishing & enjoying the beach.

We Will be Discussing:

1. Does attachment styles affect all kinds of relationships?
2. How do you see a woman working on her identity in Christ help her to move toward a healthy attachment style?
3. How does our attachment style relate to our attachment to the Lord?
4. How can I self-assess to find my attachment style?
5. What's the goal when it comes to attachment?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Love Sculpture by Alexander Milov (Ukranian)

• Attached to God: A Practical Guide to Deeper Spiritual Experience by Krispin Mayfield

  Attachments: Why You Love, Feel, and Act the Way You Do by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Gary Sibcy

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, we are approaching another type of betrayal we hear far too often from women navigating their healing journey, being missed when going to their community of faith after betrayal. We thought we would approach this conversation a little differently and encourage faith communities. Many of us don't know what we don't know. When we learn and know better we can do better.

Dr. Barb Steffens is joining us today and helping us understand how a faith community can be a safe and responsive community for betrayed partners.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What are some common experiences for women being "missed" by their faith community.
2. What should a care pastor/faith leader/community do when meeting with a betrayed wife or the couple after discovery?
3. What to do when they want you to fix it? What resources can they offer?
4. What do you do when a woman doesn't understand her impact, yet?
5. What if a woman reaches a brick wall with getting support from her faith community, should she stay where is, or to seek a new faith community? Other options?
6. What hope can we leave for our listeners today?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Dr. Barb Steffens

Scripture references:

Deuteronomy 31:8

Philippians 1:6

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Support HFW through a donation Listen now: In episode 12, we first explored the concept of therapeutic or healing separations. Since two years has passed since we published that episode, we want to revisit this topic and share a little more around a couple of questions. We Will be Discussing:

1. She kicked him out in the heat of the moment and now she wants to transform the separation into therapeutic, what would you say to her?
2. How is a therapeutic separation a form of mental health care?
3. What do you tell the kids about the separation?
4. What hope can we leave?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Episode 12: Therapeutic or Healing Separation

• Separation Documents and Guides to purchase by Shawna Meek

  Healing Separation Document example – pdf

  Covenant Eyes blog – Can A Therapeutic Separation Help?

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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Today, Lyschel and Kathy Reynolds, APSATS-cpc/PSAP, finish their discussion around the shame a wife experiences, whether she stays or goes.

We Will be Discussing:

1. What about stay shame?
2. What if your decision changes?
3. What hope can we offer our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Recalibrate Coaching Services with Kathy and Conrad Reynolds

• Serenity Prayer

Scripture references:

Psalm 18:1-2