Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Have you ever found out that a Christian leader you trusted had a major moral or sexual failure…and suddenly wondered, What am I supposed to do with everything they taught me?

Can I still read their books? Can I trust what I learned? Does this mean I could fall too?

This week, we get honest about what happens when someone who shaped your faith falls, and how to remember that Jesus—not our favorite pastor, author, or teacher—is the one we ultimately follow.

Guests: Hannah Nitz, Josiah Bogue

Follow-up Resources:

Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery

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Follow Josiah at @josiahdlb

Sex is never just about sex. That's why simple conversations about it can bring up shame, rejection, past wounds, and seriously different expectations. In this classic Java with Juli conversation with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, he and Juli talk about why couples need more than a shared bedroom—they need a shared language.

You'll learn how to: • Talk about sex when it feels awkward • Create words that feel safe and meaningful to both of you • Know what to do when a word or request becomes triggering

Listen in now! (Even better—grab your spouse and listen together!)

Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau

Follow-up Resources:

Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Doug Rosenau

What if the question your teenager is asking isn't really the question they need you to answer?

This week, we're talking with Val O'Brien of the 10,000 Questions Project about what she's learned from collecting thousands of questions from teens. And here's the surprising part: some of the hardest questions about sex and God are really questions about pain. Instead of jumping straight to an answer, what would happen if we got curious? Asked another question?

Sometimes the most important thing a teen needs isn't more information. It's to know, "Do you still love me? Do you see me? Can I tell you the truth?"

Guests: Val O'Brien, Hannah Nitz

Follow-up Resources:

The 10,000 Questions Project

Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery (updated & expanded edition)

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Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz

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What happens when a pastor has no accountability?

Or when scripture is used to justify sexual abuse within marraige?

When mental health problems are overlooked?

Netflix's Death of the Pastor's Wife raises some hard questions—and they're questions the church can't afford to shy away from. So we're talking about them.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Follow-up Resources:

Ep. #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage?

Video Q&A: We Have Sex Regularly But My Spouse Isn't Satisfied. What Do I Do?

Video Q&A: Is It My Responsibility to Meet My Spouse's Needs?

A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer

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The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE, or you can text START to 88788

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We're taking a break for Labor Day Weekend and we hope you'll get some rest too. In the meantime, check out these popular episodes from this year:

#595 4 Lies We Believe About Sex

#603 5 Ways to Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marriage

#612 How Your Story Shapes the Way You Approach Sex & Intimacy

We'll be back right here next week. See you then!

We all do it—the little "tests" we give our spouses without ever telling them they're being tested.

Will he notice? Will she remember? Does he even see me? Does she even care?

Maybe it's the party we planned, the extra hours we put in at work, or that new haircut or dress we're hoping they'll notice. We put in the effort…and then quietly wait to see if they pass the test.

And when they don't? Well, let's just say it doesn't always go the way we hoped.

So why do we do this? And is there a better way to get the connection and attention we're really longing for?

Grab your Java and join us for the conversation.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Follow-up Resources:

Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery

What's It Like to Be Married to Me? And Other Dangerous Questions by Linda Dillow

Blog: Did He Pass the Test? by Juli Slattery

Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Your sex life shouldn't be the one area of marriage you never discuss.

It's awkward—we get it. And you probably don't think talking about it will help. But research shows that talking about sex is strongly associated with a more thriving sex life. So, how do you actually have the conversation?

This week, Juli walks through five conversations couples should be having about sex. If you've ever thought, "We should probably talk about this…" this episode is for you.

Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Josiah Bogue

Follow-up Resources:

Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Research cited in this episode is from The Secrets of Sex in Marriage by Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn.

What do you do when your child tells you something that changes everything?

What constitutes abuse? And, when should you report it?

This week, Juli sits down with trauma expert Dr. Debi Grebenik to talk about how parents can respond when a child has experienced sexual abuse. They discuss what signs to watch for, how trauma affects children, why empathy is more powerful than panic, and how parents can protect their kids while raising them with confidence—not fear.

Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik

Follow-up Resources:

National Children's Advocacy Center

Java #460, How to Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality with Your Kids

God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)

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After eight weeks away, Juli is back—and she's sharing what really happened on her sabbatical.

This week, Juli opens her journal and shares the biggest lessons God taught her about burnout, rest, leadership, and learning to live within the limits He designed for us. We also talk about why so many of us struggle to slow down, how Sabbath is more than a day off, and what it looks like to build rhythms of rest into everyday life.

Plus, you'll get a first look at an exciting new vision for Authentic Intimacy and what's ahead for the ministry.

If you've been feeling exhausted, spiritually dry, or like you're running on empty, this conversation is for you.

Guest: Hannah Nitz

Follow-up resources:

Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)

5 Secrets to Intimacy With God by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)

Satisfy My Thirsty Soul by Linda Dillow

This week, Juli and her husband, Mike, share lessons they've learned about navigating disagreements, understanding each other's perspectives, avoiding manipulation, and seeking God's wisdom together.

Whether you're newly married or decades into your relationship, this conversation will encourage you to build healthier patterns for making decisions as a team.

Follow-up Resources:

Java #603 5 Ways to Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marrige with Juli & Mike Slattery

Cruise with Juli on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise! Save $600 per couple on regular cabins or $400 per couple on suites with code JAVAWITHJULI27.

The Very Important Difference Between Conflict & Fighting by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)

Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery

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