Betrayal doesn’t just hurt—it changes how you attach, trust, and feel safe.

Dr. Laney Knowlton (LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CCPS, CST, CCRDS-S, RAE) joins Amie and Alana and explains how betrayal trauma impacts attachment styles, why disorganized attachment is so common after infidelity, and how healing can happen even if your relationship doesn’t survive.

If you’ve ever wondered “Am I broken forever?”—this episode is for you.

Together, we unpack:

• Why betrayal often creates disorganized attachment

• How attachment styles shift after trauma

• The difference between innocent trust and earned trust

• Why healing is possible—even if your partner never changes

• How recovery can lead to deeper connection, confidence, and joy

Connect with Dr. Knowlton by visiting her website, checking out her worksheets, or reading her book, Healing From Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors

 Chapters

• 00:54 Introducing Dr. Laney Knowlton

• 04:07 Understanding Attachment Styles

• 09:59 Impact of Betrayal on Attachment

• 14:06 Navigating Betrayal and Recovery

• 17:06 Challenges in Seeking Support

• 22:15 Understanding Normal Responses to Trauma

• 24:46 Stages of Recovery

• 25:08 The Role of Healthy Sexuality

• 37:58 The Path to Self-Connection and Joy

Register Now!

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

The stories we tell ourselves after trauma shape everything—our relationships, boundaries, and sense of worth.

In this episode, Bella shares her raw and transformative recovery journey, revealing how childhood trauma, shame, and survival defenses silently guided her life until everything fell apart. Through therapy, inner child healing, and radical self-honesty, she learned to rewrite the story—and reclaim herself.

A must-listen for anyone seeking healing, post-traumatic growth, or freedom from shame-based narratives.

Chapters

• 01:44 Bella’s Traumatic Experience

• 02:49 The Journey to Recovery

• 04:08 Understanding Childhood Patterns

• 04:32 Facing Family of Origin Work

• 09:40 The Turning Point in Therapy

• 19:07 Living in Reality and Self-Acceptance

• 22:19 Tools for Healing and Growth

• 27:26 Gratitude and Love as Recovery Tools

Register Now!

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

Holidays can be triggering when you’re healing from betrayal or navigating a tender recovery season. Your body remembers the pain, even when your mind wants to enjoy the good moments.

This episode offers grounding tools, emotional validation, and practical strategies to move through the season without shame, self-judgment, or overwhelm. Learn why your reactions make sense and how to support yourself one moment at a time.

Chapters

• 00:13 Confusing Emotions During the Holidays

• 02:00 Holding It All Together

• 04:30 Your Nervous System Is Trying to Protect You

• 05:55 Validation That You Are Enough

• 10:21 Slow Down and Believe Your Body

• 15:05 Your Presence Matters

• 16:26 Season of Support Webinar Series Information

Register Now!

• Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

What happens after betrayal turns your life upside down? In this hope-filled episode, Amie and Alana talk with author and expert Tammy Gustafson, LPC, whose new book Broken to Brave maps out the four phases of healing after intimate betrayal.

Together they explore:

• Why early urgency (“Should I stay or go?”) can derail healing

• What the nervous system needs after relational trauma

• Why trust isn't yours to “give back” — it’s his to earn

• The most common places betrayed partners get stuck

• How post-traumatic growth reshapes your entire sense of self

Connect with Tammy:

• Tammy’s website

• Broken to Brave book

Chapters

02:17 Shock and Overwhelm04:21 Why Slowing Down Matters05:19 Stay or Go? 08:08 The Rumble16:47 Trusting Too Soon20:51 He Broke It - He Has to Fix It21:49 What Betrayed Partners Can Control24:02 Post-Traumatic Growth27:43 Permission to Heal Your Way29:49 Rise, Renew, and Restore Retreat

Register Now!

• Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

When betrayal trauma enters a relationship, the question “Should I stay or should I go?” becomes unavoidable—even if it feels terrifying to consider. In this episode, Amie explores trauma-informed ways to evaluate safety, patterns, repair, and whether healing is possible inside the relationship.

You’ll learn why considering divorce is not the same as choosing it, how to assess real change, and how to reclaim agency, clarity, and emotional safety.

Chapters

• 02:07 The Fear and Stigma of Divorce

• 04:36 Freedom to Consider Divorce

• 05:54 Two Realities

• 10:17 Impact on Children and Personal Well-Being

• 19:44 Pattern Journaling

• 21:01 Season of Support: Holiday Webinar Series

• 25:21 When the Damage is Too Great

• 27:00 Reclaiming Agency 

• 39:40 The Cost of Staying vs. Leaving

Register Now!

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

In this episode, Amie and Alana unpack what a couple check-in really is, why so many partners feel confused or re-injured during them, and how to structure check-ins in a way that protects emotional safety.

They discuss readiness, timing, frequency, boundaries, and why the betraying partner must lead the process—not as a checkbox, but as genuine accountability. If your check-ins feel tense, weaponized, or performative, this episode offers clarity and validation.

Chapters

• 02:49 Understanding Couples Check-ins

• 03:58 Purpose and Timing of Check-ins

• 06:06 Navigating Early Stages of Recovery

• 08:50 Challenges and Misconceptions

• 18:42 Different Models of Check-ins

• 22:05 The Pitfalls of Check-ins

• 23:04 Managing Expectations in Recovery

• 28:27 Taking Responsibility

• 35:20 Avoiding Weaponization in Check-ins

Register Now!

• Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

Trauma lives in the body—sometimes long after the crisis ends. In this episode, nutritionist and trauma specialist Meg Bowman (MS, CNS, LDN, CHES) breaks down how food, stress, safety, and the nervous system are woven together.

You’ll learn why your body might still feel unsafe, how trauma impacts digestion and hunger, and what compassionate nutrition can do to support betrayal trauma recovery. We also explore simple practices to help your body shift out of survival mode.

Perfect for anyone navigating relational trauma, burnout, chronic stress, or dysregulation.

Connect with Meg:

• This Is Your Body on Trauma book

• Website

Chapters

• 00:16 Introducing Meg Bowman

• 01:47 Holistic Healing and Trauma

• 02:44 Nutrition and Trauma Recovery

• 04:09 Practical Tips for Nutrition and Safety

• 08:08 Challenges and Self-Compassion

• 11:59 Polyvagal Theory

• 27:44 Holiday Nutrition and Emotional Triggers

Register Now!

• Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  
  

Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

What if “calm” isn’t emotional regulation — but a trauma response? In this compassionate teaching episode, Amie Woolsey clarifies what emotional regulation really is (and isn’t). Discover how to recognize suppression, spiritual bypassing, and fawning patterns — and learn how to come back to safety in your body without pretending to be “okay.”

Perfect for anyone healing from betrayal trauma, addiction dynamics, or relational wounds.

👉 Explore more healing tools at www.chooserecoveryservices.com

Referenced in this episode:

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - by Lindsay C. Gibson

• Feelings Wheel

Chapters

• 00:53 Clarifying Misconceptions About Emotional Regulation

• 02:15 What Emotional Regulation Is Not

• 05:34 Understanding True Emotional Regulation

• 16:28 Challenges in Practicing Emotional Regulation

• 27:10 Tools for Emotional Regulation

Register Now!

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

Your body has been holding the truth all along—through chronic pain, gut instincts, and nervous system activation that won't settle. Learn why listening to your body is essential for healing from betrayal trauma, even when you're still waiting for full disclosure or struggling with hypervigilance. 

Discover how to find closure without confession, reconnect with your body's wisdom, and move from seeking external proof to reclaiming your internal knowing.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How trauma shows up as chronic illness and what your body is trying to tell you

• Why healing from betrayal doesn't depend on your partner's honesty

• 5 somatic practices to rebuild trust with yourself and calm your nervous system

Referenced in this episode:

• The Elements of Abuse podcast series with Kim Day and Amie - Part 1: The Power of Awareness, Part 2: The Power of Accepting Reality, Part 3: The Power to Act

Chapters

• 01:36 Listening to Your Body

• 02:47 Chronic Pain

• 05:30 Disconnecting From the Body

• 07:12 Consequences of Ignoring the Body

• 11:09 Somatic Work and Healing

• 21:45 Practical Steps for Body Awareness

Register Now!

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica: Ready to experience the deep somatic healing discussed in this episode? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Book a Brainspotting session with Amie.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

*Get our FREE eBook⁠ “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?”⁠⁠ delivered straight to your inbox.⁠ Sign up here!⁠*

When your partner reveals information bit by bit instead of all at once, it's called trickle disclosure, and it's retraumatizing your body with every new revelation. 

This episode validates the exhausting cycle of partial truths and discoveries, explains why your nervous system can't stabilize in this chaos, and empowers you with concrete steps to protect yourself. You deserve full truth, not scattered pieces that keep you waiting for the other shoe to drop.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between discovery and disclosure—and why it matters

• How trickle disclosures keep your nervous system stuck in threat mode

• Practical boundaries you can set to protect yourself and require full truth

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

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More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

• Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.