Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Even after trust is rebuilt, many couples still struggle to feel deeply connected.

In this episode, Alana and Hali, Choose Recovery Services coach, explore the hidden barriers to intimacy after betrayal trauma — including nervous system dysregulation, vulnerability fears, protector parts, and power dynamics in recovery.

You’ll learn:

• What true emotional safety looks like

• Why conflict isn’t always the problem

• How co-regulation strengthens intimacy

• The next stage of healing after stabilization

If you want to connect deeper with your partner, consider joining us for our Rise and Renew couples retreat in Costa Rica this summer. If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!

• Making Sense of His Behavior - NEW group designed for anyone who is trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. 

• Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Are you helping… or are you overfunctioning?

This week Amie is joined by psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about the hidden emotional pattern so many women live inside: high functioning codependency.

This conversation is especially powerful for women navigating betrayal trauma, divorce, parallel parenting, emotional exhaustion, and the deep work of rebuilding boundaries.

Listen to learn:

• Why strong women become overfunctioners

• How betrayal trauma fuels codependent patterns

• What boundaries actually look like

• Why self-trust starts small

• How to stop rescuing everyone around you

• What healing really requires

Connect with Terri: website, Instagram

Take the boundary quiz

Get the HFC Toolkit 

Chapters

• 01:51 Meet Terri Cole

• 05:18 Defining High Functioning Codependency

• 13:01 Anticipatory Anxiety Control

• 19:30 Boundaries Quiz

• 26:27 What Am I Tolerating?

• 31:07 VIP Section Relationships

• 39:45 Mourning the Dream

• 43:43 Chosen Me Mindset

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!

• Making Sense of His Behavior - NEW 8-week group designed for anyone who is trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Start the group at any time and stay for eight weeks.

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

When betrayal trauma enters a family, children feel it—even when no one says a word.

In this episode, Amie and Alana answer a powerful listener question: What would you do differently with your kids if you could go back?

This honest conversation explores the parenting mistakes, emotional repair, boundaries, and healing work that matter most after betrayal trauma.

They talk honestly about:

• validating your child’s experience without correcting it

• avoiding emotional over-sharing

• protecting children without secrecy

• helping kids process tension they can already feel

• boundaries with extended family

• emotional repair after mistakes

• why your children need their story, not yours

Chapters

• 00:50 Listener Question

• 4:44 Kids Own Their Story

• 06:12 Validate; Don’t Correct

• 10:04 Secrecy vs Oversharing

• 14:31 Isolation and Support

• 15:22 Boundaries

• 18:04 Kids Feel Everything

• 20:00 Repair

• 22:35 Self-Compassion and Growth

• 24:31 Common Mistakes and Wins

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

When betrayal impacts a marriage, children feel it too. But how do you protect your kids without pulling them into adult pain?

In this episode, betrayal trauma expert Sarah McDugal (MSA-ID, MCPC, High-Conflict Divorce and Custody Coach) shares how parents can teach children to recognize manipulation, unhealthy behaviors, and emotional red flags—without trashing the other parent.

We explore:

• how betrayal impacts children

• what NOT to say to your kids

• how to teach emotional boundaries

• how to recognize manipulation and gaslighting

• how to help children trust their intuition

• how to protect kids without parental alienation

Connect with Sarah: Facebook, Instagram, website

Chapters

• 00:46 Introducing Sarah McDugal

• 01:44 Parenting Without Trash Talk

• 05:05 Teach Red Flags Not Blame

• 09:07 Kids Tools Help Recovery

• 12:42 Using Movies to Teach

• 23:05 Age-Appropriate Answers

• 25:55 Don’t Speak For Others

• 31:34 Someday Journal Method

• 40:15 Breaking Generational Cycles

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Why does joy feel dangerous after betrayal?

If you find yourself bracing for something bad—even in your happiest moments—this episode will help you understand why.

We’re diving into:

• Hypervigilance and trauma survival patterns

• The fear of being blindsided again

• Why your brain clings to predictability

• The hidden cost of “waiting for the shoe to drop”

• How to slowly rebuild safety and emotional freedom

Chapters

• 00:37 Hypervigilance After Betrayal

• 03:20 Survival Mode Explained

• 06:41 Choosing Joy Again

• 11:45 Wiggle Out Slowly

• 17:07 Brain Versus Soul

• 18:52 The Cost of Vigilance

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

4/21/26 - For the Parent

When betrayal enters a family, children often carry invisible pain. This week Luke Gordon joins Amie and Alana to talk about his personal experience with how to repair after betrayal.

Listen in as he shares what his experience was like trying to reconnect with his children and rebuild trust.

In this episode, we break down:

• Why kids react strongly (and sometimes unexpectedly)

• How betrayal trauma affects attachment and trust

• What parents can do to rebuild safety and connection

• The difference between supporting vs. overwhelming your child

If you want to learn more about helping children and teens heal after betrayal, listen to Part 1,  Part 2, and Part 3. 

Tune in to Morgan Ellsworth’s podcast: Healing Betrayed Families

Chapters

• 01:28 Hannah’s Anger and Boundaries

• 05:10 Teens and Ongoing Impact

• 08:25 Attunement and Vulnerability

• 17:44 Make It About the Kids

• 23:18 Radical Transparency

• 30:02 Validate Their Reality

• 39:19 Grace for Parents

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

• FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time.

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Betrayal trauma doesn’t just affect couples—it impacts children in ways many families don’t fully understand. This week we welcome Morgan Ellsworth, a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach and expert in helping children, teens, and families find clarity and hope after betrayal.

In Part 3 of this series, we explore:

• The emotional world of teens navigating betrayal

• Why kids create their own narratives (and often blame themselves)

• How to give your children clarity without overwhelming them

• What healthy emotional support actually looks like

If you’re a parent trying to protect your kids while healing yourself, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools.

Listen to Part 1 and Part 2.

Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: Healing Betrayed Families podcast

Chapters

• 1:12 Meet Morgan Ellsworth

• 10:12 Kids Mirror Trauma Responses

• 12:31 Giving Teens Language

• 16:05 Communication

• 26:19 Validating Kids’ Emotions

• 31:35 Kids Process Reality Differently

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

• 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

• FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time.

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

• Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.

• Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.

• Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

• Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

“I thought it was my fault.”

In this powerful episode, Hannah Gordon, Alana’s daughter, shares what it’s like to grow up in a home impacted by betrayal trauma—and how that experience shaped her identity, relationships, and healing journey.

From silent shame to emotional clarity, this conversation highlights:

• The reality of how kids internalize family pain

• The importance of giving children space to feel

• Why healing doesn’t mean “feeling better” right away—but feeling lighter

This is a must-listen for parents, partners, and anyone navigating the long-term impact of relational trauma.

Chapters

• 04:22 Hannah Finding Her Voice

• 06:25 Kids Internalize the Pain

• 13:39 Necessary Hard and Growth

• 19:33 Healing Was Not Linear

• 22:32 Building Self Trust

• 23:40 Therapy and Self Awareness

• 28:44 Advice for Betrayed Partners

• 32:07 Message to Hurting Dads

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• NEW Help Her Heal Support Group for Men starting in April! - Register now to experience the deep healing that can come from learning about empathy, communication, and relational repair.

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

•  ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.

• 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

• FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time.

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.

• Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

When betrayal hits a relationship, children often feel the ripple effects—sometimes in ways parents don’t immediately recognize. This week we welcome Ellia Marcum (CPC, BSP, CYPFC, CMHC) to help us understand the impact betrayal can have on the whole family system.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The hidden impact of betrayal trauma on kids

• Warning signs your teen may need extra support

• Why teens often hide their pain

• How community and mentorship help children heal

• Building emotional safety and resilience in teens

Connect with Ellia: 

• Mood Well Coaching 

• Turning to Peace magazine - Use the discount code HEALING10 to get 10% off

• Free resource: How to Talk to Your Children About Family Infidelity

Chapters

• 03:48 Teens and Mental Health Shift

• 05:16 Hidden Hurt and Stress Signs

• 09:16 Real Family Examples

• 12:47 What to Watch For

• 16:51 Sibling and Peer Support

• 25:25 Mentors and Asking for Help

• 31:06 Safety in the Body

• 35:58 Boundaries and What’s Mine

Register Now!

• ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

• NEW Help Her Heal Support Group for Men starting in April! - Register now to experience the deep healing that can come from learning about empathy, communication, and relational repair.

• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

•  ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.

• 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

• FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time.

Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. 

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• Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.

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• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.

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If you’ve done the work — therapy, somatic healing, journaling, inner reflection — yet still feel a part of you is collapsed, disconnected, or joyless, you’re not alone...and you’re not done healing yet.

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