In this very first episode of my podcast, I share my personal story and the experiences that shaped the work I do today. When this show originally launched, I opened with my journey because I wanted listeners to understand not only what I teach, but why I teach it.

Today, I'm presenting this episode again as an encore because so many new listeners have joined us, and this story continues to be the foundation for everything we talk about on the podcast. My hope is that hearing where I came from will help you feel more grounded, more supported, and less alone in your own healing.

In this encore replay, I walk through the early years of my marriage, the painful moments that led to my awakening, and the decision to rebuild my life from the inside out. I also share the fears, doubts, and turning points that taught me how to trust myself again and ultimately led me to coaching.

Takeaways:

• Why my personal story is the foundation of this podcast
• How fear and indecision kept me stuck for years
• What finally empowered me to rebuild my life
• Why I'm sharing this as an encore for new listeners

If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/

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• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
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• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I'm diving into a topic that sits quietly underneath so many of the patterns that show up after infidelity: codependency. This isn't about weakness or being "too much." It's about the survival strategies many of us learned long before betrayal ever entered our lives. For me, this past year has been one of shedding—shedding identities, patterns, and ways of disappearing inside relationships. I'm inviting you into that same gentle, honest exploration so you can begin reclaiming your own energy, boundaries, and clarity.

I share the real signs of codependency, why it intensifies after infidelity, and how to begin unhooking from patterns that pull you away from yourself. You'll learn how to shift from survival mode into a grounded, independent place where your choices come from truth, not fear.

Takeaways:

• How codependent patterns form (and why they're not your fault)
• Seven signs you're losing yourself in the relationship
• How to begin reclaiming your energy and boundaries
• Why independence is a necessary step before rebuilding trust

If something in this episode stirs something in you, that is not a problem. It means you're waking up. If you're ready to untangle these patterns and rebuild trust in yourself, I'm here to support you. Reach out — I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/

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• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
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• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I dive deeper into a topic that has the power to change the way we move through our lives: our energetic yes and our energetic no. After betrayal or years of people-pleasing, it's common to lose touch with the truth your body is trying to communicate. Today, I explore how to recognize the physical signatures of alignment — the openness of a yes, the contraction of a no — long before the logical mind tries to negotiate, justify, or override them.

I share examples from my own life, moments when choosing alignment meant disappointing others, and why honoring my energetic truth has become a key part of rebuilding self-trust. I also offer practical guidance for how to pause, listen, and make decisions in real time, even when fear or doubt follow closely behind.

If you're trying to navigate life after infidelity or simply want to reconnect with your inner guidance, this episode will help you listen more closely and lead yourself with integrity.

Takeaways:

• How your body signals yes and no in real time
• Why your first sensation is more honest than your thoughts
• How honoring your truth rebuilds self-trust
• Practical steps for tuning into your energetic signals

If you want support applying this work to your own healing, reach out. I would love to help. https://andreagiles.com/.

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• Protect Your Peace Through the Holidays - Free Live Class: Tuesday, November 25, 2025: 10 am MT /12 pm ET Register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/november-25-live-class
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I'm diving into a topic I've been learning on a much deeper level: energetic boundaries. After betrayal, it's common to feel like your energy is everywhere except inside your own body. You might find yourself over-functioning, scanning for danger, tracking moods, or trying to manage other people's emotional states. Even when someone is doing everything "right" on paper, your energy may still feel drained or scattered.

In this conversation, I break down what energetic boundaries actually are, why they matter, and how to recognize the signs that yours have become thin or compromised. I share examples from my own life and from the healing work I do with clients, especially around emotional fusion, hyper-attunement, and the feeling of losing your clarity or intuition.

I also walk you through simple but powerful practices to call your energy back, create more groundedness, and reconnect with your own truth so you can make decisions from a place of strength rather than depletion.

Takeaways:

• What energetic boundaries are and why they matter
• Signs your energy is being pulled outward
• How to ground yourself and restore your own energetic field
• Why reclaiming your energy strengthens clarity and intimacy

If you want help building strong internal boundaries and restoring your sense of self, please reach out. I would love to support you https://andreagiles.com/.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

There are moments when the pain feels too deep to describe — when every step forward feels impossible and healing seems out of reach. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to those of you who are there right now, carrying heartbreak that feels unbearable.

I'll walk with you through the truth about pain — how it's not a sign that you're broken, but a sacred invitation to healing. You'll learn why pain isn't an interruption to your growth, but the very doorway to it. Together, we'll explore how to stop circling your wounds and instead tend to them with compassion, so that the pain can finally release what's ready to be freed.

If you're tired, scared, or wondering if you'll ever feel peace again, this episode is for you. Take a breath, lean in, and remember — you don't have to do this alone. Healing begins when you stop abandoning yourself and let others walk beside you.

Takeaways:

• Pain is not proof of brokenness — it's a signal to heal.
• Avoiding pain prolongs suffering; facing it opens peace.
• Healing requires compassion, patience, and presence.
• You don't have to heal alone — support is available.

If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Emotional affairs can be one of the most confusing and painful experiences in a relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down what they really are — and what they're actually about. So many people believe emotional affairs are about the "other person," but I'll show you why they're often rooted in something deeper: unmet emotional hunger, self-abandonment, and the longing to feel fully alive again.

You'll learn why these relationships can feel electric, why secrecy distorts truth, and how both partners can begin to heal — not by policing behavior, but by learning to be honest without self-abandonment. Whether you've been betrayed or have strayed yourself, this conversation will help you understand what your deeper needs are and how to meet them with integrity.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional affairs are about unmet needs, not just betrayal.
• The healing path begins with radical self-honesty.
• Integrity isn't the absence of desire — it's staying present with it.
• Growth means learning to choose yourself without self-rejection.

If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful.

I walk through how shame forms, what the "shame loop" looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others.

Key Takeaways:

• Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it's a lie.
• Recognizing the "shame loop" is the first step out of it.
• Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame's grip.
• Healing begins when we stop proving shame right.

If you're ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/.

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• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven't arrived yet, or when we know what's true but acting on it feels terrifying, our nervous systems crave safety and control. But the in-between isn't a punishment — it's a teacher.

I open up about my own discomfort with waiting and how I've learned to anchor into safety inside myself instead of rushing for external clarity. You'll learn why slowing your timeline, grounding into your body, and naming what's true right now can shift the way you experience uncertainty.

The in-between may feel shaky, but it's also where growth and truth emerge. You're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be.

In this episode, I share:

• How to stop making uncertainty mean something's wrong with you
• Simple tools to ground yourself in the present moment
• Why waiting doesn't mean nothing is happening
• A compassionate perspective on in-between seasons

If you're tired of spinning in "not knowing," I'd love to help you walk through it with strength and support. Apply to work with me and let's do this together. https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite? In this episode, I explore the power of vulnerability and surrender—two qualities that may feel impossible after infidelity, yet are essential for real transformation.

I share how surrender isn't submission—it's the courageous act of dropping the fight with reality so you can finally see things clearly and choose from strength. Vulnerability, meanwhile, is about daring to show up fully, to feel your feelings, and to trust yourself again—even when there are no guarantees.

You'll learn how to recognize your armor, soften it, and reconnect with your heart so you can reclaim your authority over your healing and your future.

Takeaways:

• The difference between surrender and submission
• Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness
• How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal
• Practical steps to release resistance and lean into healing

Ready to go deeper? Apply to join my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program and start your healing today at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night after night—your mind racing, your body restless, and your heart heavy with unanswered questions. In this episode, I sit down with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga, who not only brings professional expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia but also personal experience of navigating sleepless nights after infidelity.

Yana shares her journey of turning her own struggle into a calling to help others, and she gives us practical, compassionate tools to reclaim restful nights. Together, we talk about why sleep matters so deeply in the healing process, the three "dials" you can adjust to improve your sleep, and how to shift from anxious, perfectionistic thinking into gentle, supportive habits that allow your body to rest.

If you've been battling insomnia after betrayal, this episode is for you. Healing is possible—and peaceful sleep can return.

Takeaways:

• Why insomnia is so common after infidelity
• The three dials that influence healthy sleep
• How to calm nighttime anxiety and surrender to rest
• Practical habits to gently reset your sleep rhythm

If you're ready to find hope, rest, and resilience, reach out—I'd love to support you on your journey.

YANA'S INFORMATION:

Yana Vriesinga is a journalist turned certified sleep coach, specializing in helping people reclaim their nights after the shock of infidelity. She knows firsthand how betrayal can hijack the nervous system, leaving even the strongest sleepers among us wide awake at 3 a.m.

Drawing on her own story, her background in health reporting, and certification in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), Yana has developed a clear, compassionate approach to what she calls post-infidelity insomnia.

Through her coaching and her free email course, 'Sleep More, Heal Stronger', she equips betrayed partners with practical tools to calm their bodies, quiet their thoughts, and finally get the restorative sleep they need to stay resilient.

Join her free course at ResilientDays.com (https://www.resilientdays.com) and start sleeping better tonight.

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• October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles