Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

I hear it all the time: "I don't know what to do." And I get it — it feels honest and real. But what if that thought is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I explore how "I don't know" is often a softer way of avoiding what we do know deep down. Whether it's fear of conflict, uncertainty about outcomes, or not wanting to face what comes next, we can hide behind indecision and stay stuck far longer than we need to.

I walk you through the subtle ways we delay action — waiting for more time, more clarity, or for someone else to change — and how those patterns slowly erode our self-trust. The truth is, healing and movement don't come from waiting. They come from honoring even the smallest piece of truth within you.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why "I don't know what to do" often isn't true
• How waiting and avoidance keep you stuck
• The connection between truth and self-trust
• Small, powerful ways to start moving forward

If you're ready to stop spinning and start rebuilding trust with yourself, reach out and I'll help you take that first step.

More from me:

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm diving into something that quietly keeps so many of us stuck: the cost of staying the same, especially when we already know better. There comes a point where the confusion lifts and clarity is there. You can see the patterns, you understand what's happening, and yet… you don't move. I've been there, too.

What I want you to see is that the real cost isn't just that your situation doesn't change. It's what happens inside of you when you ignore what you know to be true. Every time you override your truth, you chip away at your self-trust. You start to feel disconnected, resentful, and out of alignment.

This episode is an invitation to look honestly at where you might be choosing comfort over truth. Not with judgment, but with awareness — and a willingness to take small, honest steps forward.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why awareness alone doesn't create change
• The hidden cost of ignoring your truth
• How self-trust erodes when you don't follow through
• Small ways to begin choosing truth over comfort

If you're ready to stop negotiating with what you know and start living in alignment, I'd love to help you. Reach out and let's take that next step together.

More from me:

• Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions
• If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching
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• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I sit down with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin to talk about what it really takes to heal and rebuild after infidelity. We explore the truth that love alone is not enough — and why real growth requires deep self-reflection, emotional safety, and intentional skill-building.

E.J. and Tarah don't pretend to have it all figured out — they've lived it. From navigating their own intense early challenges to helping hundreds of couples each week, they bring both expertise and humanity into this conversation.

We talk about betrayal trauma, the importance of radical honesty, and how healing isn't just about saving the relationship — it's about becoming a healthier, more empowered version of yourself.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, unsure whether to stay or go, or stuck in painful patterns, this episode will give you clarity and hope.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why love is not enough to sustain a relationship
• How betrayal trauma impacts your nervous system
• The role of radical honesty in rebuilding trust
• Why individual growth changes the entire relationship dynamic
• What the "messy middle" of healing looks like

Reach out if you need support — you don't have to navigate this alone.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Untethered Soul – https://untetheredsoul.com

More on E.J. and Tarah:

EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and creators of the Relationship Renovation Model™, as well as hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. They blend raw honesty, humor, and decades of combined experience to help couples deepen intimacy and build emotional safety. Known for their vulnerability and real-life storytelling, they share practical, research-backed tools rooted in attachment science and nervous system regulation.

EJ is also the founder of Men Who Do the Work, a group helping thousands of men create emotional safety and show up more intentionally in their relationships.

Together, their work includes the nationally recognized Relationship Renovation Counseling Center in Tucson, Arizona, a globally ranked top 1% podcast, the Relationship Renovation @ Home manual (available on Amazon), a global online community, and private coaching for couples and individuals.

They are passionate about helping partners break old patterns, rebuild trust, and create lasting, intentional connection.

• Relationship Renovation website - https://relationshiprenovation.com
• Relationship Renovation Podcast - https://relationshiprenovation.com/podcast/
• The Relationship Renovation At Home Manual: A Guided Journey for Couples to Rebuild Trust, Communication, and Thrive Together - https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Renovation-Home-Manual-Communication/dp/B0FWMGQP8D/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiprenovationcounseling
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/

More from me:

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

Fear can feel so real — so urgent — that it's easy to believe every emotional "rustle" is a threat. In this episode, I walk through how fear actually works in the brain and why so much of what we react to isn't what's truly happening in the present moment.

I share personal stories and real-life examples to help you understand how your nervous system is trying to protect you — but may also be keeping you stuck. Whether you've been betrayed or you're the one who broke trust, fear shows up in powerful ways. And until you learn how to examine it, it can quietly run your life.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, pull the thread, and look deeper. Because when you're willing to follow fear all the way to its source, you gain clarity, self-trust, and the ability to move forward with intention instead of panic.

In this episode, we cover:

• How fear is often based on prediction, not reality
• Why your brain keeps sounding alarms from old pain
• The difference between reacting and examining
• How to "pull the thread" to uncover truth
• Building self-trust so fear no longer controls you

If you're ready to stop living in reaction and start living in truth, this work will change everything.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I take you deeper into what it really means to tell your truth all the way out — especially the parts we keep hidden. I share what I've been discovering in my own life as I slow down and begin to look honestly at what's been "living in the corners." These are the patterns, beliefs, and versions of myself that once felt like strength — but may actually be rooted in survival.

I explore the difference between survival strength and what I'm calling examined strength — the kind that comes from truly knowing yourself and standing in that truth, even when it's uncomfortable. This process has required me to question everything: my choices, my relationships, my work, and the version of me that created them.

If you're navigating infidelity or any kind of personal upheaval, this is your invitation to look inward with honesty and compassion.

In this episode, we cover:

• There's a difference between survival strength and examined strength
• Real vulnerability happens in real time, not after it's "resolved"
• You are allowed to re-evaluate the life you've built
• Slowing down is essential to seeing what's been hidden

If this resonates, I invite you to reach out and connect with me. You don't have to navigate this alone.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I'm sharing what led me to step back — and what I discovered when I finally slowed down and got honest with myself. After years of building, producing, and helping others, I realized I had been operating from a place that looked like strength… but was actually rooted in survival.

This season of my life has been about something deeper: telling the truth all the way out. Not the polished version. Not the "this should be enough" version. But the real truth about what I want, what I feel, and who I actually am.

If you've been circling your own truth — avoiding hard conversations, silencing your needs, or settling for what looks "good enough" — this episode is an invitation to stop. To listen inward. To get radically honest.

Because real healing, especially after infidelity, doesn't come from checking boxes. It comes from truth.

In this episode, we cover:

• Strength rooted in survival can keep you stuck
• Truth creates alignment—even when life feels uncertain
• Avoiding your truth prolongs pain
• Real healing requires radical honesty

If you're ready to stop circling and start moving forward, I invite you to reach out and take the next step with me.

If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

If you've ever felt stuck in the question of whether to stay or leave, this encore episode is for you. I'm sharing some of the most common concerns I see when women are facing this deeply personal decision — and I'm also opening up about my own story in a way I haven't before.

This isn't about giving you a checklist or telling you what you "should" do. It's about helping you come back to yourself. I walk through what it really means to show up with integrity, to self-confront, and to take ownership of your emotional growth — regardless of what your partner is doing.

I also explore the questions that matter most: Are you being honest with yourself? Are you in a place where you can truly thrive? And do you genuinely like your reasons for staying or leaving?

This work is not easy — but it is powerful. And it's yours to keep, no matter what you decide.

In this episode, we cover:

• You leave when you feel at peace with how you've shown up
• Self-confrontation leads to real clarity and growth
• Emotional self-regulation is essential for decision-making
• Your reasons matter more than anyone else's approval
• You deserve a life where you can truly thrive

If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

What if the discomfort you feel isn't confusion… but clarity trying to break through?

In this encore episode, I walk you through one of the most powerful shifts in healing from infidelity: learning how to recognize truth. I share a personal analogy that completely changed how I see betrayal, trust, and decision-making — the idea of your life as a puzzle that gets blown apart, and the process of deciding which pieces actually belong as you rebuild.

I open up about my own experience of trying to force things to fit, ignoring what I knew deep down, and what finally changed when I chose to trust myself instead. This conversation is about learning to listen — not just to words, but to your body, your intuition, and your inner knowing.

If you've ever questioned yourself, minimized what felt off, or wondered whether to stay or go, this episode will help you reconnect to your truth.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why forcing "pieces" to fit keeps you stuck
• How your body reveals truth before your mind accepts it
• The difference between discomfort and misalignment
• Why honoring truth leads to real peace and clarity

If this resonates with you and you're ready for support in sorting through your own puzzle, I invite you to reach out. You don't have to do this alone.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

Healing from infidelity isn't about waiting for time to pass — it's about what we choose to do with that time. In this encore episode, I walk through what I've seen truly create healing, both in my own life and in the lives of the women I work with.

I invite you to look inward as you listen. Where are you in your healing process? What might you be avoiding? What could you lean into just a little more?

We talk about the real work of healing — allowing emotions instead of suppressing them, creating a new identity after betrayal, and building the discipline to stop harmful thought patterns. I also share why patience matters more than perfection and why courage is the foundation of it all.

Healing is available to you, no matter where you are right now. And it doesn't require you to be perfect — it just requires you to be willing.

In this episode, we cover:

• Time alone doesn't heal — your actions and thoughts do
• Allowing your emotions is essential for processing trauma
• You have the power to create a new identity and story
• Discipline helps break cycles of painful thinking
• Courage is required to truly heal and move forward

If this resonates, I invite you to reach out and take the next step in your healing.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I talk about a concept that can completely change the way you approach healing after infidelity: sustainability.

Many of us try to push through the pain, distract ourselves, or convince ourselves that we should already be "over it." But healing doesn't work that way. When we ignore our emotions, silence our questions, or avoid difficult conversations, we often create patterns that simply aren't sustainable in the long run.

In this conversation, I invite you to take a deeper look at how you are currently navigating life after betrayal. Are the things you're doing now actually helping you heal, or are they just helping you survive today?

I share examples of what unsustainable healing can look like—stuffing emotions, avoiding conversations, or white-knuckling your way through recovery—and I offer a different path forward: slow, intentional, honest healing that creates lasting change.

When we choose courage over avoidance, we create the possibility for deeper intimacy, stronger self-trust, and a future that truly feels aligned with who we are becoming.

In this episode, we cover:

• Healing after infidelity must be sustainable, not just temporary relief
• Avoiding emotions or conversations often prolongs pain
• Honest communication builds deeper intimacy in relationships
• Sustainable healing requires courage, self-responsibility, and patience

If this episode resonates with you, I encourage you to reach out, learn more, and take the next step in your healing journey.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles