How do you define masculinity? In this episode, we explore the inherited beliefs about what it means to be a man and discuss how to reclaim masculinity by embracing vulnerability and authenticity. 

Discover the intersection of toxic masculinity, recovery, and feminism, and learn practical tools for fostering genuine connections and healing from systemic shame. Join us as we redefine what it truly means to be strong.

Chapters

• 03:15 Defining Toxic Masculinity

• 04:11 Linking Masculinity to Addiction and Recovery

• 04:28 Understanding Feminism

• 08:37 The Three Circles

• 13:17 Weekly Practice and Reflection

Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE⁠

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.

• Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives. Email us at [email protected] to learn more.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Does it feel like your partner is more likely to take advice from others rather than you? In this episode Alana Gordon (LMFT, founder of Choose Recovery Services, and co-host of the Choose To Be podcast) joins Luke and they unpack the complexities of why men often don’t accept feedback from their partners.

(Hint: It has a lot to do with shame and values.)

Chapters

00:50 The Communication Gap

02:32 Root Causes

07:24 Addressing Shame

08:59 Practical Advice

Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE⁠

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, mindfulness, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.

• Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives. Email us at [email protected] to learn more.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

  
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

What does it mean to be masculine? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, CCPS, Director of Choose Recovery Services, and co-host of the Choose To Be podcast) joins Luke and together they explore the line between healthy masculinity and toxic behaviors.

They shed light on vulnerability, emotional suppression, and how to reclaim a healthier version of manhood. 

Chapters

01:28 Defining Masculinity vs. Healthy Masculinity

06:35 Impact of Toxic Masculinity

14:46 The Pendulum Swing

18:22 The Role of Vulnerability

23:09 Balance of Power

Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE⁠

Last change to register - Get $200 off!

• Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. Learn more and register HERE. Use code thriveapril2025 to receive $200 off.

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Heal the Healer - Join us June 12–15 in Mapleton, UT for a luxurious, all-inclusive retreat for women who give endlessly to release your burdens and reconnect with yourself. Enjoy restorative experiences like yoga, somatic healing, music therapy, rafting, a waterfall hike, a sound bath, and a salt cave, all while being nourished with delicious meals and relaxing in beautiful accommodations.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - View our intensive calendar and find the right experience for you.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Have you ever wondered why lying feels like a reflex? This week Luke dives deep into the neuroscience and psychology behind dishonesty. 

Discover how lying serves as a survival mechanism, and learn practical strategies for building boundaries that bring us back into integrity. Through personal stories and expert insights, find out how to manage and reduce dishonest behavior in yourself and your relationships.

Chapters

• 01:38 The Struggle with Lying

• 04:39 The Neuroscience of Lying

• 06:38 Psychological Insights and Self-Boundaries

• 10:02 The Harm of White Lies

• 14:36 Facts About Lies

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. Learn more and register HERE.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Do you know what happens in your brain when you experience attraction, fantasy, or addictive behaviors? Do you wonder if your thoughts are even normal? This week Luke explains the six levels of sexual response, from initial noticing to compulsive behavior.

Understand more how your brain works and learn how to think and communicate authentically about your experiences.

Chapters

• 01:08 Understanding the Brain

• 04:52 Awareness and Acknowledgement

• 07:36 Interest and Engagement

• 09:04 Cognitive Engagement and Fantasy

• 11:01 Fixation and Obsession

• 11:58 Compulsive Acting Out

• 13:24 Rewiring the Brain

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. Learn more and register HERE.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Feeling scattered or disconnected from your authentic self? This week Luke is joined by his guest, Darren, and together they delve into the power of daily rituals for stability and self-care. 

Learn actionable steps to incorporate dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin-enhancing activities into your routine to aid in recovery. Discover the profound impact of intentionality and consistency over perfectionism in your journey towards holistic well-being.

Referenced in this episode:

•  Atomic Habits by James Clear

Chapters

• 01:22 Introducing Darren

• 02:48 Monastic Discipline

• 03:53 Healthy Rituals vs. Compulsive Behaviors

• 11:01 The Importance of Consistency Over Perfectionism

• 21:47 Examples of Daily Rituals

• 29:42 Why Daily Rituals Matter

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive for women on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Learn more and register HERE.

• Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. Learn more and register HERE.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Have you ever questioned if you're with the right therapist or coach? In this episode Luke welcomes back Gary Katz (LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, and Director at Center for Intimacy Recovery) and together they discuss the essentials of finding the right therapeutic fit, the signs of a good therapeutic relationship, and challenges specific to betrayal trauma and sexual addiction therapy.

Connect with Gary by visiting his website or emailing him at [email protected].

Listen to our past episode with Gary: What is Process Addiction?

Chapters

• 01:03 Introducing Gary Katz

• 05:45 Signs of a Good Therapist

• 17:01 Differentiating Recovery Roles

• 21:57 Navigating Partner’s Therapy and Safety-Seeking Behaviors

• 26:01 Addressing Fears and Building Trust in Therapy

• 27:53 Joint Sessions

• 33:07 Challenges in the Healing Process

Register Now!

• ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠⁠ - This is a four-day in-person intensive designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 13th-16th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive for women on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically. Learn more and register HERE.

• Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on April 23rd-26th. Learn more and register HERE.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Have you ever felt like a part of you is holding you back? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, founder of Choose Recovery Services, and co-host of the Choose To Be podcast) joins Luke, and together they explore the transformative journey of parts work and the power of self-acceptance in healing. Luke courageously shares his own story of how understanding his protective parts led to breakthrough moments in his recovery. 

Discover powerful insights on acknowledging and understanding the different parts of yourself to promote deeper connection and authentic living. 

Ready to do your own parts work? Register now!

• Men’s Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. 

Referenced in this episode:

• No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

• Altogether You and Altogether Us by Jenna Riemersma and Dr. Richard Schwartz

Coming Up!

• The Body Awakened: A Brainspotting Journey to Healing - Join Amie for a three-day, in-person intensive on April 10-12, 2025. Experience Brainspotting, learn how to get back into your body, and heal somatically.

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Have you ever noticed that anger often leads to sexually acting out? In this episode, Luke and guest Gene Huneycutt (Choose Recovery Services coach and storywork practitioner) dive into the rarely discussed link between anger and lust. 

Through personal stories and insightful commentary, they examine how unresolved anger can fuel sexual acting out, and how recognizing this pattern is essential for stopping the behavior and responding in a way that aligns with your values. 

Learn more about Gene and book a complimentary consult with him HERE. 

Watch or listen to our past episode with Gene: Lust’s Roots in Trauma.

Chapters

01:10 Welcoming Gene

03:35 Gene’s Personal Story

11:17 Exploring the Cycle of Lust and Anger

17:44 Understanding the Link Between Lust and Anger

27:27 The Role of Righteous Anger

Intensive for Couples:

• Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - Register by 2/28/25 and use the promo code rebuildus500 for $500 off! This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th. Payment plans available by emailing [email protected]. 

Register Now!

• Men’s Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. 

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke⁠here⁠. 

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

This week Alana Gordon (LMFT and co-host of the Choose To Bepodcast) joins Luke as they explore the crucial first step in overcoming compulsive behavior: breaking through denial. 

Learn about the importance of accepting feedback, taking responsibility, and facing discomfort to become your true self and transform your relationships.

Chapters

• 01:03 Breaking Through Denial: The First Step

• 02:12 Understanding Denial and Levels of Awareness

• 07:02 Personal Responsibility and Self-Assessment

• 17:52 The Importance of Feedback and Narrative Control

• 23:00 Identifying and Breaking Patterns

• 27:34 Accepting the Full Scope of the Problem

• 30:45 Feeling Discomfort and Taking Action

• 35:41 Upcoming Events

Intensive for Couples:

• Rebuilding Us: A Path to Deeper Connection - Register by 2/28/25 and use the promo code rebuildus500 for $500 off! This four-day intensive is for couples in recovery who have completed at least a year of active healing and are ready to strengthen their relationship. Experienced therapists and coaches will guide couples through private sessions and group activities to foster deeper connection and intimacy in their relationship. Intensive will be in Mesa, AZ March 26th-29th. Payment plans available by emailing [email protected]. 

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• Men’s Journey to Wholeness: Healing All of Our Parts – Join us March 12th–14th, 2025 in Spanish Fork, UT for a next-level recovery experience designed to help you build a deeper relationship with yourself and others. This intensive offers transformational connection, deep self-exploration, and guided support to help you heal and move forward with greater freedom. 

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group starts in March! Led by Rachel Strong Smith, this group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. Build connections while deepening your understanding of healing resources.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke⁠here⁠. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke⁠here⁠.

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Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com