Resentment and bitterness can feel impossible to escape after betrayal. They’re natural responses to deep hurt, broken trust, and the unfairness of it all. But what if these emotions aren’t just obstacles—they’re actually messengers? What if they’re pointing to unmet needs, unresolved grief, or fears about the future?

In this episode, we dive into the deeper meaning behind resentment, why it lingers, and how to move forward without bypassing your pain. If you feel stuck in bitterness, this conversation will help you find clarity, validation, and practical ways to release the weight of resentment—on your terms.

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In this episode, we dive into the vital role that listening plays when navigating the difficult decision to stay in a relationship after infidelity and betrayal. Whether you're the one betrayed or the one seeking to rebuild trust, the way you listen to your partner can make all the difference in the healing process.We explore powerful listening techniques and how they can help restore connection, foster empathy, and rebuild trust. These tools are essential for creating a safe space for difficult conversations, acknowledging emotions, and ultimately finding a path forward together.

Resources Discussed in today’s episode: 

Brene Brown’s Empathy video

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Pain is often seen as something to be avoided, suppressed, or overcome—but what if we could reframe it as a powerful signal? In this episode, we explore how pain, especially after betrayal, can be a guide rather than a burden. Instead of viewing it as a problem to be fixed, we can use it to uncover unmet needs, deepen self-awareness, and step into advocacy for ourselves and others.

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

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In today’s episode ofChoosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we’re sharing a special recording from our monthlyRoad to Recovery webinar, where Hali sits down with Amie Woolsey to discuss the vital role of somatic healing after betrayal—for both partners.

Betrayal trauma doesn’t just affect the mind; it lives in the body. Understanding how trauma is stored physically is essential to the healing process, yet it’s often overlooked. In this conversation, we explore various healing modalities, with a deep dive into the power of brainspotting—a transformative tool for processing painful experiences and releasing stored trauma.

🔹 Why somatic healing is crucial for both the betrayed and the one who acted out🔹 The impact of trauma on the nervous system and physical body🔹 How unprocessed betrayal trauma can manifest in physical symptoms🔹 An introduction to brainspotting and how it helps release stored trauma🔹 Other powerful body-based healing modalities to support recovery

If you’ve been struggling to fully process your emotions or feel stuck in your healing journey, this episode will provide valuable insights into how your body plays a key role in recovery.

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To connect with Amie Woolsey: 

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https://amiewoolsey.com/brainspotting

The Body Awakened Brainspotting Intensive - April 10-12, 2025

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In this special crossover episode, Hali joins Valerie Rubin, host of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, to dive deep into the impact of betrayal and infidelity on both our nervous system and sense of safety. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal in a relationship or simply trying to regain trust in yourself, this episode offers invaluable insights into how to begin healing.

Together, Hali and Valerie discuss the powerful ways that betrayal affects us emotionally and physically, with a particular focus on how it disrupts our sense of safety and trust in the world around us. They share practical tools and strategies for reconnecting with our inner selves, rebuilding trust, and regaining control over our responses to trauma.

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If you've ever struggled with rebuilding trust after betrayal, this episode is a must-listen. Valerie and Hali offer real, actionable advice that can help you move forward with clarity and confidence, starting with trusting yourself first.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Connect with Valerie Rubin:

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

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Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

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In this special bonus episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali sits down with Alana Gordon to dive deep into the ins and outs of couples work after betrayal. We break down the different phases of healing, what each phase entails, and how to know when you're ready to move forward.

We discuss:✔️ The importance of slowing down the healing process✔️ Why individual work is essential before deep couples healing✔️ How to recognize when you're ready for the next phase of repair and reconnection✔️ Details about our upcoming Couples Intensive designed for couples ready to take the next steps 

If you and your partner are navigating the aftermath of betrayal, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand where you are and how to move forward with intention.

Ready to take the next step? Learn more about our upcoming Rebuilding Us Couples Intensive to be held in Mesa, Arizona on March 26-29, 2025. 

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive into the emotional shields we build to protect ourselves after betrayal—and how those same shields can keep us from truly reconnecting with our partner. We explore the delicate balance of leaning in versus leaning back, understanding the role of defensiveness, and the importance of emotional vulnerability in rebuilding trust. Together, we’ll discuss practical strategies for creating emotional safety, recognizing our own defenses, and the slow but powerful process of rebuilding connection. If you’re feeling emotionally distant or stuck in a cycle of hurt, this episode is for you.

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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Hali Roderick

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Certified Relational Recovery Coach

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In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the critical role of self-advocacy in the healing process. Recovery is a deeply personal journey, and learning to advocate for yourself—whether with professionals, your spouse, or even with yourself—is essential for moving forward. Join us as we dive into:

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Trusting Your Gut

Advocating with Your Spouse

Overcoming External Pressures

Encouraging Listeners

This episode will empower you to stand up for yourself and trust that you know what is best for your healing process. Whether you're just starting or are well into your journey, these insights and strategies will help you take ownership of your recovery.

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the complex and often unspoken topic of shame for the betrayed partner who chooses to stay. Choosing to stay after betrayal can feel isolating, especially in a world that often labels this decision as weak or misguided. But staying is a courageous choice, rooted in love, resilience, and hope. Together, we’ll unpack the origins of shame, its impact on your healing journey, and practical ways to overcome it so you can reclaim your power and peace. We also share ways that the spouse seeking recovery can acknowledge and support their betrayed partner through these difficult emotions. 

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

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In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the profound journey of rediscovering oneself and rebuilding identity in the aftermath of betrayal. Whether you're navigating the impact of disclosure or grappling with the ripple effects of past choices, this episode offers insights and tools for self-reflection, healing, and growth.

We discuss:

Rediscovering yourself after betrayal is not only possible but essential for moving forward. Tune in to learn how to embrace your true identity and heal—individually and together.

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

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