Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

In this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You’ll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.

Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.

In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachment
  

• How core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationships
  

• Common behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidance
  

• The hidden anxiety behind emotional distance
  

• Practical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationships
  

• How to balance independence with authentic vulnerability
  

• Tools to repair connection after withdrawing

Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at [email protected] for more information. 

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay, certified relational and recovery coaches Halle Roddick and Stephanie Hamby continue their multi-part series on attachment styles, focusing on secure attachment — what it looks like, how it develops, and why it’s a vital goal after infidelity and betrayal.

They explore:

• What attachment theory is and the four main styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)
  

• How secure attachment shows up in healthy romantic relationships
  

• Why betrayal ruptures both real and perceived secure attachments
  

• The importance of building self-secure attachment before working on relational repair
  

• Practical ways to cultivate internal safety, self-worth, and groundedness
  

• The role of individual healing work for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery
  

• How rupture and repair cycles strengthen trust in secure relationships
  

Resources Mentioned:

• You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)
  

• No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)
  

• Altogether You – Jenna Riemersma (Book Link)
  

• Help.Her.Heal – Carol J. Sheets (Book Link)
  

• Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute (Website)
  

Connect with Us: Follow the podcast for candid discussions on healing, growth, and the journey of choosing to stay after betrayal.

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Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

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Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

The patterns we learned in childhood often become the lens through which we respond to betrayal. In this episode, we explore how your family of origin shapes the way you love, trust, and handle conflict—and why recognizing these patterns is essential for healing. From attachment styles to emotional suppression, we unpack common dynamics that show up after betrayal and share how awareness can lead to transformation.

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, healing isn’t about rushing to “get over it”—it’s about honoring what happened and who you’re becoming.

In this episode, we walk through the transformation from victim to survivor to thriver—not as a formula, but as a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming your peace, your power, and your partnership (if you choose to stay).

You’ll learn:

• What each phase really looks and feels like—emotionally, relationally, and somatically
  

• How to recognize if you're stuck in survival—and what might help you move forward
  

• Why thriving doesn't mean the betrayal disappears—but it stops defining you
  

• What relational thriving looks like when both partners commit to individual healing
  

• How the betrayer can move from shame to accountability and integrity
  

• How the betrayed can reclaim voice, body, and boundaries
  

Whether you’re in the earliest days of devastation or years into the work of rebuilding, this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and consider: What stage am I in—and what does healing on my terms look like? Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!

Betrayal doesn’t just damage trust—it disrupts the very foundation of fairness and emotional safety in a relationship. In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali and Stephanie unpack a critical truth that many couples overlook in the early stages of healing: true recovery begins when the betraying partner takes the lead.This episode explores why betrayal is not just a mistake but a relational injustice—and why expecting the betrayed partner to initiate healing only deepens that wound. We discuss how the power dynamic shifts after betrayal, what it means to take responsible leadership in the recovery process, and how consistent, vulnerable actions by the betraying partner can begin to restore a sense of safety and connection.Whether you’re the partner who’s been hurt or the one who caused the harm, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a grounded path forward.
We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing to Stay, Hali welcomes Stephen Thomas, a seasoned sexual recovery coach who brings years of experience and a deeply personal understanding of the recovery journey. Stephen specializes in helping men move beyond behavior-focused sobriety by adopting a partner-sensitive lens—one that centers empathy, honesty, and emotional connection.

Together, they unpack why true recovery must include the betrayed partner’s experience, how relational healing is possible when humility and transparency lead, and what it really means to develop healthy sexuality. If you've felt stuck in cycles or confused about the next step in recovery, this episode will give you clarity and hope.

👤 About Stephen Thomas: Stephen has coached men and couples professionally for over four years and previously led recovery work in ministry for several years. His approach combines trauma-awareness, deep empathy, and a commitment to helping men redefine sexuality in a way that strengthens—not severs—their most important relationships.

📩 Connect with Stephen: Stephen Thomas, Sexual Recovery Coach 📧 [email protected]

🎧 Listen now and share with someone who needs this conversation.

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!

​​Shame Resilience in Recovery with Joseph McKinley In this episode of Choosing to Stay, we sit down with coach Joseph McKinley to talk about the role of shame in recovery and relational repair. We explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships, and why vulnerability and ownership are key to healing. Joseph shares tools, insights from his coaching work, and personal reflections on building resilience through self-compassion and connection.

About Joseph McKinley: Joseph McKinley is a recovery coach specializing in overcoming unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors, intimacy anorexia, and partner betrayal trauma. He is certified as a Sexual Recovery Coach (SRC), Intimacy Anorexia Coach (IAC), Partners Recovery Coach (PRC), and Partner Betrayal Trauma Coach (PBTC) through the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). He is also a Certified Mental Health Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors. Joseph provides personalized coaching to help clients address the root causes of their struggles and heal from trauma, empowering both men and partners to reclaim their lives and relationships.

Contact Joseph: 📧 [email protected] 🌐 www.greenwayrecovery.com

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

Thank you for tuning in!

Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After Betrayal

When betrayal shatters your world, safety feels lost. In this episode, we explore how true safety begins within, not in someone else's behavior. Whether you’re the one healing or the one working to rebuild trust, internal grounding is key

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode, we explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system and what it truly means to feel safe again in a relationship. If you or your partner have been affected by betrayal—whether through infidelity, secrecy, or other trust ruptures—this conversation will help you understand why emotional reactions are not just “drama,” but deeply rooted in trauma physiology.

We’ll talk about what happens in the body after betrayal, how to recognize the signs that safety is still missing, and how both partners can support healing and trust-building in real, practical ways. We also mention the upcoming Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive on Aug. 26-28, 2025. 

🔍 What We Cover:

• When Safety Feels Out of Reach: Learn how betrayal trauma activates the nervous system, leading to anxiety, shutdown, or hyper-reactivity—not because your partner is “overreacting,” but because their body is trying to protect them.
  

• Signs the Nervous System Doesn’t Feel Safe: From flinching at a tone of voice to needing constant reassurance, we’ll walk through common signs of nervous system dysregulation and how to respond with empathy instead of defensiveness.
  

• Why This Happens—It’s Not Just Emotional, It’s Physiological: Discover how betrayal disrupts the brain’s ability to predict safety, and why true healing requires consistency, transparency, and time—not pressure to “just move on.”
  

• What the Betrayed Partner Can Do: Gentle strategies to help you tune into your body, identify what feels unsafe, and take empowered steps toward self-awareness and grounding—without self-blame.
  

• What the Partner in Recovery Can Do to Rebuild Trust: Learn how to become a safe, steady presence in your relationship by telling the truth, staying present, and witnessing pain without trying to fix it.
  

💬 Final Words of Encouragement: To the one healing from betrayal: Your body isn’t broken—it’s wise. To the one seeking to rebuild trust: You are not powerless. Your steady presence matters. To both: Healing is possible. Safety is possible. It begins with compassion, honesty, and showing up—again and again.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!