Lying often begins as self-protection—but in the aftermath of betrayal, it becomes one of the biggest barriers to rebuilding connection. In this solo episode, Hali explores why lying becomes a habit, how it deepens disconnection, and what it takes to courageously choose honesty as part of the healing journey. Whether you’re the partner in recovery or the betrayed partner navigating trust issues, this conversation is about more than just telling the truth—it’s about reclaiming integrity, safety, and authentic connection. “Honesty isn’t just about facts. It’s about aligning your inner and outer world—and that’s where real healing begins.”

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why lying becomes a default pattern in betrayal
  
• The hidden fears that fuel dishonesty (rejection, shame, loss of control)
  
• How dishonesty creates a cycle of disconnection and mistrust
  
• Practical steps to build honesty like a muscle—even in low-stakes moments
  

• How to repair trust through accountability and consistent truth-telling
  
• Why support systems matter in sustaining honesty and recovery
  

• Lying often starts as a survival skill—but it can’t coexist with real intimacy.
  
• Honesty is a practice, not a one-time choice.
  
• Rebuilding trust requires truth, accountability, and self-regulation.
  
• Both partners need safe spaces to process pain and grow.
  

Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit — November 6–9, 2025 | Mesa, AZ

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns—even after trying therapy, groups, or self-help—you’re not alone. Healing after betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress isn’t just a “mind thing.” It lives in the brain, body, and nervous system.

That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, a 4-day immersive experience designed to help men reset and reclaim their strength from the inside out.

If you’re ready to reset, reconnect, and rise, this may be the missing piece you’ve been looking for.

📅 Dates: November 6–9, 2025
📍 Location: Mesa, Arizona
✉️ To learn more or schedule a consultation:

• Email Hali at: [email protected]

• Or Dr. Jeff Roderick at: [email protected]

👉 Learn more and register here

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

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We look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, the future can feel like it’s been stolen. For the betrayed partner, dreams may feel shattered or unsafe to hold. For the one seeking recovery, hope for the future may be tangled with guilt, fear, or the pressure to “make things right.”

In this episode, we’ll talk about what it means to truly process grief, why timing matters, and how both partners can begin to cautiously, safely, and authentically dream again.

You’ll discover:

• Why trauma makes future-thinking feel dangerous.
  

• How the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery experience hopes differently.
  

• Signs you may be ready to imagine new possibilities.
  

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

When couples stay together after betrayal, there’s a difference between acceptance and resignation. Acceptance leads to hope and healing; resignation leads to disconnection and despair. In this episode

• What acceptance vs. resignation really looks like
  
• How it shows up for both the betrayed and betraying partner
  
• Key questions to help you discern where you are
  
• Practical steps to move from resignation into true acceptance

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio

Betrayal cuts deep, leaving both partners facing painful choices about the future of their relationship. For some, staying is the beginning of an authentic rebuilding process; for others, it becomes a form of self-betrayal. In this episode, we unpack the why and the how of staying after betrayal.

We approach this conversation from both perspectives: the betrayed partner and the one who has betrayed. Together, we’ll explore what makes staying a healthy path toward healing—and when it becomes unhealthy, unsafe, or unwise.

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

Trust after betrayal doesn’t return with one big moment. It’s not only rebuilt through formal disclosures, powerful apologies, or recovery milestones—it’s the hundreds of small choices made day after day.

In this episode, we talk about the power of micro-trust: those tiny interactions that slowly teach a partner’s heart and nervous system, “Maybe I can breathe again. Maybe I can risk hope.”

You’ll learn:

• What micro-trust is and why it matters in healing after betrayal.
  

• Everyday examples of micro-trust builders that make a real difference.
  

• Common hurdles couples face when practicing micro-trust.
  

• Simple, steady ways to keep showing up, even when it feels overwhelming.
  

Rebuilding trust is not about rushing or fixing it all at once. It’s about steady, consistent deposits that eventually create a foundation strong enough to hold safety, hope, and repair.Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay Podcast, I’m opening up about something personal: my dad’s journey with Lewy Body Dementia and how it sparked my own concerns about brain health. As I walked through my own healing from emotional trauma, I began to realize something powerful—trauma isn’t just about thoughts or mindset. It lives in the brain and the body, shaping the way we show up in life and relationships.Most of the men I work with are carrying the weight of early adverse childhood experiences, and those wounds often fuel the destructive patterns that cause so much pain. If you’ve been working hard in therapy, recovery programs, or support groups but still feel stuck, it’s not because you’re failing. Trauma and addiction don’t just live in your thoughts—they live in your nervous system, your cells, and the physical patterns of stress in your body. Healing requires a whole-person approach.That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, happening November 6–9 in Mesa, Arizona. This 4-day immersive experience goes beyond talk therapy and gives men direct access to healing at the root level—brain, body, and spirit. Together with my husband, Dr. Jeff Roderick, a functional health chiropractor, and my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, an LMFT intern and brainspotting practitioner, we’ll be guiding participants through science-backed brain therapies, somatic healing, and hands-on restoration. You’ll walk away with practical skills, renewed confidence, and a roadmap for continued growth.If you’re ready to reset and reclaim your strength, this summit may be the missing piece. Join us for a transformational experience of healing, clarity, and brotherhood. Learn more HERE. To schedule a consultation to see if this summit is a good fit for you, please reach out to me at: [email protected] or Dr. Jeff Roderick at : [email protected]. 

Chandler Rogers is the CEO and founder of Relay, an app designed to help people overcome pornography and sexual addiction through community and shame-free accountability. Inspired by his own recovery journey, Chandler created Relay to provide structure, daily tools, and connection for thousands navigating healing. He lives in Orem, Utah with his wife, their 18-month-old son, and another little one on the way.

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In this episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay App. Chandler shares his personal recovery story, the power of community in healing, and what he’s learned from guiding thousands through recovery. Together, we explore why connection is the opposite of addiction, the role of self-care, and the key differences between those who grow and those who stay stuck.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.

You’ll learn:

• What disorganized attachment is and how it develops
  

• The emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look for
  

• Why betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationships
  

• The nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamic
  

• Practical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachment
  

We’ll explore simple yet powerful ways to:

• Name and interrupt old patterns in the moment
  

• Regulate your body before responding
  

• Offer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from others
  

• Communicate needs clearly instead of testing
  

• Repair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerability
  

Whether you’ve experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.

Thank you for tuning in!

Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at [email protected] for more information. 

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

In this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You’ll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.

Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.

In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachment
  

• How core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationships
  

• Common behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidance
  

• The hidden anxiety behind emotional distance
  

• Practical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationships
  

• How to balance independence with authentic vulnerability
  

• Tools to repair connection after withdrawing

Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at [email protected] for more information. 

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!