📝 Show Notes: In this powerful and deeply honest episode, we’re exploring what it means to choose to stay in a relationship after betrayal—even when your spouse isn’t actively participating in the healing process.

If you’ve found yourself in a place where you're committed to working through the pain, even though your partner isn’t fully engaged, this episode is for you.

We’re not here to sugarcoat the journey—but to honor it. Staying doesn’t mean you're stuck. It means you’re consciously choosing to move forward, heal, and grow—on your terms.

💡 In this episode, we talk about:

• 🔍 Understanding Why You're Choosing to Stay Reflect on your reasons—love, history, hope, or family—and reclaim your power in making this choice.
  

• 🌱 How to Make the Most of It (Even Without Their Full Participation) Focus on your healing. We’ll talk about boundaries, self-care, therapy, and reclaiming your emotional well-being.
  

• 🕊️ The Importance of Patience and Understanding Healing is messy and nonlinear. We unpack how to hold space for your spouse’s journey without losing yourself in the process.
  

• 💞 Why Staying Can Be the Right Choice for Some From shared history to family commitment, we explore the nuanced and valid reasons people stay—and how to do it without abandoning your own needs.
  

• 🎢 The Reality of the Emotional Rollercoaster Let’s normalize the highs and lows that come with this path, and how to ride the waves without drowning in them.
  

• 🫶 Seeking Support and Validation You don’t have to do this alone. We discuss how to find support—even if your partner isn’t currently showing up in the ways you need.
  

• ✨ Final Thoughts on Empowerment Choosing to stay is your decision. You are not powerless—you are rebuilding, reimagining, and reclaiming your life.
  

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-trained

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing To Stay, we explore one of the most important—and often overlooked—skills in relational recovery after betrayal: seeking to understand.

Seeking to understand isn’t about agreeing or even seeing things the same way. It’s about being present, seeking to understand, and respecting your partner’s experience—even when it differs from your own. We dive into what active listening actually looks like, why it can feel so hard (especially when emotions run high), and how it helps build emotional safety during a time when safety often feels lost.

Through practical insights and real-life examples, we’ll talk about how active listening helps move the relationship forward—not by going back to what it was, but by co-creating something new, healthier, and more connected.

Whether you're the partner in healing or the individual seeking recovery, this episode offers valuable tools for slowing down, tuning in, and creating space for healing through communication.

Listener Reminder: Recovery takes time, intention, and practice. Active listening won’t fix everything overnight—but it’s one of the most powerful tools you can use to begin healing together.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-trained

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of healing after betrayal: breaking the cycle of unhealthy communication patterns. Infidelity can fracture not only trust but the way we communicate with our partners, often leading to constant arguments, defensiveness, and a lack of resolution. But it’s possible to step out of these destructive cycles and create healthier, more productive conversations that promote healing, understanding, and trust. Join us as we explore practical strategies and tools to stop arguing and start communicating in ways that bring both partners closer together. We’ll talk about emotional reactivity, the power of active listening, setting boundaries, fostering vulnerability, and when to seek professional help.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

• How infidelity impacts communication and why arguments often escalate in unhealthy ways
• The importance of understanding emotional triggers to break the cycle of blame and defensiveness
• How to use active listening to truly hear your partner and reduce conflict
• Practical steps to set ground rules for healthier communication in your relationship
• The role of vulnerability in healing, and how to create a safe space to express feelings
• How to apologize and forgive in a way that fosters trust and closeness
• Why seeking professional help might be necessary for breaking old communication patterns
• The power of celebrating small wins in rebuilding communication and trust over time

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in! In this episode, Stephanie Lynn explores a unique healing tool—rhythmic expression using the ancient frame drum. Stephanie shares how this somatic practice helps betrayed partners process grief, anger, and overwhelm when words fall short. We talk about how drumming regulates the nervous system, reconnects the body, and gives voice to unspoken pain—all within a safe, guided space.

Stephanie Lynn APSATS-c,CPC, BT-IC, CDGC a certified professional coach specializing in betrayal trauma, deconstructing gaslighting, grief, inner child work, and is an APSATS Partner Coach Candidate. She is also a certified Disclosure Guide, Brainspotting Practitioner, and trauma-informed drumming facilitator. Stephanie empowers individuals navigating betrayal and supports couples pursuing relational repair. She offers polyvagal-informed drumming as an additional healing modality while working under the guidance of Dr. Janice Caudill—a leading expert in the field of betrayal trauma recovery—as part of her team at Intensive Recovery Coaching. Booking an appointment: Intensivehope.com and [email protected] coachstephanielynn.com/drumming

Whether you’re new to somatic healing or looking for something to support your journey beyond talk therapy, this conversation offers encouragement, education, and practical insight.

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, both partners can find themselves stuck in overwhelming thoughts. The betrayed partner may struggle with replaying painful memories and fearing the future, while the partner who acted out may feel shame, regret, and self-doubt. In both cases, the emotional brain (limbic system) can hijack the logical brain, making it hard to make choices based on values, integrity, and true healing.

In this episode, we’ll explore how to shift out of the mental chaos and into heart-centered clarity, so both partners can make intentional, healing choices. You'll learn:

✅ Why betrayal puts your brain into survival mode (and how to shift out of it) ✅ How fear, shame, and guilt can drive reactive, unhelpful behaviors ✅ The power of tuning into your body as a guide for healing and connection ✅ How to make values-based decisions instead of emotionally driven ones ✅ Practical tools for both partners to rebuild trust and stay grounded

Whether you’re the betrayed or the one who betrayed, this episode will help you get out of your head, reconnect with yourself, and create space for true healing—individually and as a coupleThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Hali’s Bio

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Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate

Read Stephanie’s Bio

Book with Stephanie

Email Stephanie: [email protected] 

Contact us:  [email protected]

Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali.

Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. 

Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. 

Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections.

More from Choose Recovery Services:

Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women

Choose 90 for Men 

Choose 180 for Men

Choose 360 for Men 

Road to Recovery 

Should I Stay or Should I Go? 

Empowered Divorce Q&A 

The Empowered Divorce Podcast 

Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this powerful episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali is joined by her coaching colleague, Rachel Strong, to explore the similarities between physical and emotional healing. Rachel, who recently broke her elbow while ice skating, shares her personal experience of recovery and how it mirrors the emotional journey of healing from betrayal and infidelity.  Recovery, whether physical or emotional, is rarely a solo journey. The importance of seeking help from professionals, support groups, or trusted individuals plays a key role in both types of healing. Both emotional and physical healing take time. The episode emphasizes taking small, intentional steps forward and celebrating the progress, no matter how incremental it may seem. Rachel and Hali explore how acceptance and grief are essential parts of the healing process. Just as you need to grieve the loss of your physical strength after an injury, emotional healing involves accepting the pain and moving through grief to move forward. You learn more or connect with Rachel Strong HERE. 

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!

Communication after betrayal can feel like walking through a minefield—full of triggers, misunderstandings, and deep emotional wounds. In this episode, we explore essential healthy communication strategies that help couples reconnect, rebuild trust, and create emotional safety in their relationship. Whether you're struggling to express your feelings, feeling unheard, or unsure how to move forward, this episode offers practical tools and real-life examples to guide you.

Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown on Empathy Video

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

After infidelity, emotions can feel overwhelming. Many people unknowingly bypass their pain—either by forcing positivity, over-intellectualizing, or even using spirituality to avoid sitting with difficult feelings. But true healing requires emotional processing, not avoidance.

In this episode, we break down:

• The difference between emotional processing, emotional bypassing, and spiritual bypassing
• Signs you might be avoiding your emotions without realizing it
• Why “just moving on” too quickly can slow down true healing
• How to process emotions in a healthy way—without getting stuck in pain
• How couples can support each other without forcing premature healing

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode, we talk about the flood of questions a betrayed partner may have—some seeking clarity, some driven by hurt, and some that feel impossible to answer without making things worse. How a betrayer responds to these questions can either help rebuild trust or deepen the wound.

In this episode, we explore how to navigate these difficult conversations with honesty, sensitivity, and emotional awareness. We’ll discuss how to answer questions both before a formal disclosure and after full disclosure has taken place, while being mindful of the betrayed partner’s healing process.

To access the resources mentioned in today’s episode: 

Help Her Heal group support for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. 

Choose Healing Group Support for betrayed partners. 

Dr. Jake Porter’s video: How Betrayal Trauma Affects the Brain

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

Criticism can feel especially painful when you're healing from relational trauma—it can trigger old wounds, stir up self-doubt, and even make you question your progress. But what if criticism could be used as a tool for deeper connection instead of conflict? In this episode, we explore how to shift your perspective on criticism, separate past pain from present feedback, and use difficult conversations as opportunities for healing and trust-building.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!