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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re cutting through the noise and getting back to the basics — because somewhere along the way, we started overcomplicating what’s right in front of us.

Addiction. Trauma. ADHD. Nervous system dysregulation. You name it — there’s a label for every behavior now, and we’ve been trained to see the story before we see the impact. But here’s the thing:
Behavior tells the truth.
Not the diagnosis. Not the excuse. Not the backstory.

We’re talking about what it means to see clearly, stop excusing harmful behavior, and respond in ways that actually align with the kind of person you want to be — even when you’re overwhelmed or pushed to your limit.

If you’ve ever wondered, "But why do they act like this?" — this episode will help you ask a better question.

Because clarity isn’t found in their trauma. It’s found in your values.
 And healing isn’t just about calling out other people’s behavior — it’s about choosing the kind of person you want to be even when it’s hard.

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In this powerful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in recovery and relationships: natural consequences. We unpack the difference between allowing natural consequences versus trying to teach lessons or punish, and why intentions matter so much.

We share real-life examples - from substance abuse, lying, and emotional unavailability to parenting challenges - to show how stepping back and allowing life to teach people naturally is both critical and gut-wrenching. We also explore why many compassionate, empathetic people struggle with this step and the emotional strength required to truly let go.

Plus, we get candid about why telling spouses to "have more compassion" for someone who’s repeatedly harmed them can be not only invalidating but dangerous. This conversation is raw, validating, and packed with hard-earned wisdom for anyone trying to navigate recovery, rebuild their lives, or find peace after betrayal.

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This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You’ll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn’t). I’ll also share what healthy accountability sounds like and give you practical tools to protect your peace, stop overexplaining, and see DARVO for what it is—a mindf*ck, not a communication issue. If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling like you’re the problem for speaking up… this one’s for you.

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Matt sits down for an unfiltered, no-holds-barred conversation about the moment everything changed - the exact point he knew he couldn’t lie one more time, couldn’t hide one more day, and had to choose either transformation or destruction. Paige asks the raw questions our listeners always want answered: What finally made you get sober? What was rock bottom really like? Do you ever miss that life? What does recovery actually look like years later—and how the hell do you rebuild a marriage after all of it?

This is the episode we wish every struggling partner—and every person in active addiction - could hear. It's not sugarcoated. It's not polished. But it is proof that people can change, marriages can heal, and the life you want is possible—if you're willing to do the work.

You’ll hear:

• What made Matt finally tell the truth
• The surprising thing that hurt more than losing himself
• What recovery looked like then vs. what it means now
• How they rebuilt trust, layer by layer, over a decade
• What it really takes to be a safe, present father
• Why Paige stuck around - and what she would never tolerate again

Whether you’re deep in it or on the other side trying to make sense of the wreckage, this episode will meet you where you are.

Send this one to the man who needs to hear it.
And if that man is you...welcome. There’s hope. You’re not alone.

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You’ve said it. Maybe weekly.
 “He’s just stressed.”
 “He only acts like this when he’s drinking.”
 “That's just how they were raised.”

But here’s the truth: just because you’ve gotten used to it… doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

In this episode, Paige breaks down the quiet ways we minimize emotional abuse and excuse hurtful behavior—especially in relationships shaped by addiction, trauma, or chaos. You’ll learn to recognize the red flags hiding in everyday phrases, understand why your nervous system is drawn to dysfunction, and hear why waiting for something “worse” to happen is one of the most heartbreaking traps of all.

This is your wake-up call—delivered with love, truth, and zero shame.

You’re not too sensitive. You’re not asking for too much. You’re just done pretending it’s fine.

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We all screw up, but how you respond to a mistake says way more about you than the mistake itself. In this episode, we have a raw, honest conversation about emotional regulation, accountability, and how to bounce back after you’ve messed up. Whether it’s a bad tone with your kids or a history of bigger mistakes like addiction or abuse, this episode explores how to repair, rebuild, and move forward without drowning in shame. You’ll hear the differences in how Matt and Paige process regret, how to know if it’s a pattern or a one-off, and why learning the lesson sometimes takes time - and that’s okay. A must-listen for anyone stuck in self-blame or trying to make sense of what change really looks like.

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Do you ever feel afraid to love yourself? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode, Paige gets real about the fear, discomfort, and confusion that often comes with the concept of self-love. She unpacks why loving yourself can feel unsafe, selfish, or even threatening depending on your past, your programming, and your current relationships.

From trauma bonds to people-pleasing, and from sabotaging growth to staying small to make others comfortable—this is a deep dive into why we fear loving ourselves and how we can start showing up differently.

This one’s part pep talk, part truth serum, and packed with practical actions that help you go from performing self-love to living it.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between self-love and arrogance
• Why some people will fall away when you rise
• How trauma makes shrinking feel safe
• What real responsibility looks like when you believe you’re worthy
• 6 grounded ways to start loving yourself in action, not just words

And of course, it ends with a challenge you won’t want to skip.

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Revenge might feel good for a moment—but what does it really get you? In this raw and hilarious episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we unpack the difference between being petty and being powerful. From glitter bombs to passive-aggressive laundry comments to clapback culture on social media, they explore why pettiness is so seductive (especially after betrayal or injustice) and why it ultimately keeps you stuck in cycles of rumination, resentment, and regret.

You’ll hear personal stories, some hard truths, and a powerful reframe: assertiveness and values-based living aren’t boring—they’re badass. They walk through how to set boundaries without punishment, how trauma tempts us to strike back, and why emotional maturity isn’t weakness—it’s the flex. Whether you’re tempted to slash tires, troll your ex on Instagram, or drop a snarky comment at work, this episode might just stop you—and help you choose power over pettiness.

If you’ve ever asked, “Why do they get away with everything while I take the high road?”—this one’s for you.

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In this episode, Paige gets real about the toll social media can take on our nervous systems, identity, and sense of reality. Inspired by a quote—“Normal is 7 hours of screen time a day”—she opens up about why she’s taking a step back, how social media may create low-agency behavior, and what it really means to get back to the basics.

This isn’t a lecture—it’s a wake-up call for anyone feeling overstimulated, stuck in the scroll, and slowly losing themselves in the noise.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be able to handle it,” but deep down know it’s messing with your mental health, this one’s for you.

Because maybe, just maybe… it’s time to put the phone down.

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In Part Two of our High Agency series, Matt and Paige dive even deeper into what it really means to live a high agency life—and what gets in the way.

We unpack the traps that keep people stuck: the vague trap, the midwit trap, the rumination trap, and the overwhelm trap. You’ll hear how overthinking and searching for the perfect, risk-free solution leaves people paralyzed, stuck in fantasy instead of action. We talk about defining problems clearly, trusting your gut, experimenting with bold choices, and taking the smallest next step to break through analysis paralysis.

You’ll also hear:

• The “Evil Twin” thought experiment: What would the most high-agency version of you do?
• How to stop chasing clarity and start earning it through action
• Why even painful or imperfect action is better than passive confusion
• The truth about trade-offs: there is no perfect decision, only movement
• The difference between controlling others and influencing outcomes with integrity
• Value Activation: the drill that helps you stop talking about your values and actually live them
• A framework for turning bullshit into reality—from journaling and wishing to doing and becoming

We also explore how to break down overwhelming problems into levels—just like video games do—and how taking action, even imperfectly, is what creates momentum, healing, and growth.

This episode will help you shift from vibes to reality, from inspiration to execution, and from feeling stuck to living on purpose.

You don’t need more clarity—you need more courage.

Head over to highagency.com to read the work of George Mack that inspired this episode. It's truly a must-read!

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