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It’s May—aka Maycember—that time of year when school events, sports, recitals, end-of-year chaos, and mental overload all collide. If you're feeling stretched thin, resentful, or like you might snap over a missed sign-up genius… you're not alone.

In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about the emotional weight of this season, what you can give yourself grace on, and what should stay nonnegotiable—even when it feels like you’re drowning in to-dos.

You’ll hear about:
 – Why the crockpot still sitting on my counter is not a crisis
– What I had to let go of to show up for what matters
– How to protect your self-care in the middle of the madness
– And why this season is temporary—but your well-being isn’t

This episode is part validation, part pep talk, and part reminder that you don’t have to do it all—you just have to protect the parts of you that matter most.

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 The recovery world loves to talk about healing, but what about the people most impacted by the chaos? In this brutally honest episode, Matt and Paige pull back the curtain on what treatment centers, therapists, and traditional recovery programs often miss: the spouse’s experience.

Why are partners immediately labeled codependent? Why is their anger pathologized while the addict’s pain is protected? Why are they expected to forgive before they’ve even been allowed to grieve?

Matt and Paige dive into their own story, breaking down how betrayal trauma affects the brain, what real accountability looks like, and how programs often rush to protect the addicted person at the expense of their partner’s healing. Drawing from personal experience and insights from experts like Dr. Jake Porter, they explore:

• How trauma shows up in the body and brain
• Why forgiveness without accountability is gaslighting
• The myth of “you just need to understand addiction”
• Why codependency is not a diagnosis, and not always accurate
• What couples actually need to rebuild trust and safety
• The missing ingredient in most treatment programs: the spouse or partner

This episode is for anyone who's ever been told they were "part of the problem" simply for being hurt. If you’re tired of the recovery narrative leaving you out, this one’s for you.

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You don’t need more clarity. You need permission to trust what you already know.

This episode is about cutting through the noise, the over-explaining, and the endless justifications. Paige brings it back to the basics: it’s not about the substance — it’s about the behavior. Always has been.

You’ll hear the truth about how we overcomplicate addiction by focusing on trauma, diagnoses, and potential while ignoring the very real, repeated harm that’s happening in front of us. This episode explores the toxic behaviors we’ve normalized in relationships — from gaslighting and manipulation to walking on eggshells and calling it love.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of waiting, overanalyzing, or minimizing what you feel, this episode is a wake-up call. Paige speaks to the confusion many partners feel when recovery culture focuses entirely on the addict and leaves you questioning your own sanity, worth, and needs.

You’ll be reminded that your gut is not lying, your needs are not too much, and your peace matters. Whether you’re in the relationship, out of it, or unsure, this conversation will help you reconnect with your own truth and stop making someone else’s healing your responsibility.

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If life feels impossibly heavy right now, you’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. In this episode, we unpack why so many people are struggling with their mental health in 2025 and why blame - whether it’s directed at politics, finances, partners, or the system - often becomes a trap that keeps us stuck.

We don’t sugarcoat the chaos, but we also won’t leave you without a roadmap. From high-agency thinking to radical acceptance, spiritual grounding to physical resilience, we offer practical tools, hard-earned wisdom, and gut-level honesty about how we’ve weathered personal storms in hopes some of these tools can work for you too.

In this episode we'll also speak directly to those who feel trapped in relationships they can’t leave right now. There is still peace to be found, even when escape isn’t an option today. This is the episode for anyone who feels overwhelmed, powerless, or just sick of feeling stuck. You have more control than you think...and it starts within.

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Mother’s Day can feel complicated, especially when life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Maybe you’re raising kids alone. Maybe your partner is deep in addiction. Maybe you have an unequal partner and just feel all the feels.

In this episode, I talk directly to the women who feel unseen, forgotten, or unappreciated on a day that’s meant to celebrate them. We’ll walk through five gentle steps to get through Mother’s Day—without faking joy, waiting on others to show up, or pretending it doesn’t sting.

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This episode isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s not about getting the outcome you’re hoping for. It’s about you - how you respond when you're frustrated, dismissed, overwhelmed, or ignored. We’re talking tone, delivery, body language, and why 93% of communication has nothing to do with the words you use. Whether you’re arguing with a partner in active addiction, managing stress at work, or snapping at your kids at the end of a long day, your energy sets the tone. We’ll unpack what it means to stay in your integrity, why it’s not about being heard, and how to make peace with yourself when change isn’t coming from the other side. Plus, real-life examples, tips to stay grounded, and why choosing your response - rather than reacting - can transform everything.

Want to be proud of how you show up? This one's for you.

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In this special audio edition of the newsletter, Matt shares a listener story that’s all too familiar: someone begins the work: therapy, sobriety, growth - but eventually hits a wall and stops. What do you do when your partner says things like “I’m tired of doing the work” or “What if this is the best I get?” How do you support someone without enabling them? How do you hold space without losing yourself?

Matt unpacks the difference between healing fatigue and a fixed mindset, why growth can feel like betrayal when trauma has become your identity, and what it really takes to inspire someone into action without pushing them away. Whether you’re in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode is a raw, relatable, and practical reminder that growth doesn’t have to be perfect, but it does have to be consistent.

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In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re cutting through the noise and getting back to the basics — because somewhere along the way, we started overcomplicating what’s right in front of us.

Addiction. Trauma. ADHD. Nervous system dysregulation. You name it — there’s a label for every behavior now, and we’ve been trained to see the story before we see the impact. But here’s the thing:
Behavior tells the truth.
Not the diagnosis. Not the excuse. Not the backstory.

We’re talking about what it means to see clearly, stop excusing harmful behavior, and respond in ways that actually align with the kind of person you want to be — even when you’re overwhelmed or pushed to your limit.

If you’ve ever wondered, "But why do they act like this?" — this episode will help you ask a better question.

Because clarity isn’t found in their trauma. It’s found in your values.
 And healing isn’t just about calling out other people’s behavior — it’s about choosing the kind of person you want to be even when it’s hard.

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In this powerful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in recovery and relationships: natural consequences. We unpack the difference between allowing natural consequences versus trying to teach lessons or punish, and why intentions matter so much.

We share real-life examples - from substance abuse, lying, and emotional unavailability to parenting challenges - to show how stepping back and allowing life to teach people naturally is both critical and gut-wrenching. We also explore why many compassionate, empathetic people struggle with this step and the emotional strength required to truly let go.

Plus, we get candid about why telling spouses to "have more compassion" for someone who’s repeatedly harmed them can be not only invalidating but dangerous. This conversation is raw, validating, and packed with hard-earned wisdom for anyone trying to navigate recovery, rebuild their lives, or find peace after betrayal.

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This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You’ll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn’t). I’ll also share what healthy accountability sounds like and give you practical tools to protect your peace, stop overexplaining, and see DARVO for what it is—a mindf*ck, not a communication issue. If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling like you’re the problem for speaking up… this one’s for you.

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