When your partner has a sexual addiction, acting out comes with the territory. Dealing with it is hard, even learning about it can be traumatic. But what about the behaviors INSIDE the relationship? How do you recognize and respond to inappropriate treatment from a partner? How do you become personally and relationally healthier when at least some of the trauma you find yourself experiencing is due to your partner's behavior inside the relationship? Whether overt or covert, whether emotional, psychological, sexual, or physical- considering the health of the patterns within the relationship can add another layer of complexity when looking at partnerships struggling with sex addiction. And yet, it is so necessary to take a deeper look at what is happening in order to really understand and serve women and men impacted by addiction.

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and suggests strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and healing post-betrayal. 

Links in this episode:

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/recoveredpeace/?hl=en

Self-paced course on Cognitive Distortions:

https://recoveredpeace.com/clarity

Group Coaching: Clarity and Peace with Boundaries for betrayed partners: https://recoveredpeace.com/learnboundaries

Website:

https://RecoveredPeace.com

Facebook Group Peer Support for Betrayed Spouses in Recovery:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/recoveringspousesofsa/

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and suggests strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and healing post-betrayal. 

Links in this episode:

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/recoveredpeace/?hl=en

Self-paced course on Cognitive Distortions:

https://recoveredpeace.com/clarity

Group Coaching: Clarity and Peace with Boundaries for betrayed partners: https://recoveredpeace.com/learnboundaries

Website:

https://RecoveredPeace.com

Facebook Group Peer Support for Betrayed Spouses in Recovery:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/recoveringspousesofsa/

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard questions, like, "How could a parent's sex addiction or betrayal effect a child who might not have known what was going on?" We will also debunk some common myths, such as, "My children knew everything, so they have processed it all."

Conrad and Kathy Reynolds interview Carley Pool for this powerful and important session.

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard questions, like, "How could a parent's sex addiction or betrayal effect a child who might not have known what was going on?" We will also debunk some common myths, such as, "My children knew everything, so they have processed it all."

Conrad and Kathy Reynolds interview Carley Pool for this powerful and important session.

"What if my husband won't see a therapist?"

"When should we start having sex again?"

"Why is he sober but still not connecting?"

In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews the hostesses of the Hope for Wives podcast — Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, and Pam Blizzard. The three women are able to balance a plain-spoken, no-nonsense telling of the truth with compassion, support, and wisdom. Drawing from both their personal experience and professional expertise, Lyschel, Bonnie, and Pam take on hard questions Dr. Jake has received from betrayed partners of sex addict. You won't want to miss this informative and hope-giving episode!

Links in this episode:

http://apsats.org

http://drjakeporter.com

https://hopeforwives.com/

http://hoperedefined.org

http://strongwives.com

http://recoveredpeace.com

Over the last two decades, the way mental health professionals understand and treat the experience of betrayal has radically shifted from an emphasis on co-addiction and codependency to an embrace of the traumatic nature of intimate betrayal. In this conversation with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, and Kathy Reynolds, they reflect both personally and professionally on this evolution and discuss how neglecting the treatment of betrayal trauma has consequences not only for the betrayed partner, but also the entire family system. Modalities for treating this trauma are discusses, as well as a paradigm for seeing betrayal trauma treatment as a matter of justice. Stacey, Cheryl, and Kathy are teaming up to provide a brand new program for betrayed partnered, Returning to You™. They give a preview of this unique therapeutic retreat designed from the ground up for betrayed partners to address their trauma.

If you are interested in the Returning to You™ Partner Program, use the link below. Mention that you heard about the program on APSATS Betrayal Recovery Radio to receive a 5% discount on the cost of the retreat.

http://apsats.org

http://daringventures.com/returningtoyou

http://drjakeporter.com

Grief: The sticky middle piece of the betrayal recovery experience and the place many partners and couples get stuck. It seems that many in Western culture have lost the intuitive communal mourning processes that are still so common in other cultures. We have individualized and privatized our grief and mourning into a strictly personal affair. But there is so much value in the shared and collective experience of mourning, the knowing and being known of letting it be seen. Join Cat and Jake as they explore the value of communal mourning and discuss ways to share the grief experience between couples and communities.

Links in this episode:

http://apsats.org

http://drjakeporter.com

https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-Texas

https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-Australia

https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texas

http://www.nakedtruthproject.com

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