In this episode, I’m answering a big question I hear often: “If I change how I think about my partner’s hurtful behavior… am I just letting him off the hook?”

We unpack that idea starting with how our thoughts create our feelings, and how learning to shift those thoughts is not about pretending things are okay.

It’s about reclaiming your emotional power.

Whether it’s something small, like not replacing the Q-tip jar lid, or something big, like lying and broken trust, I’ll show you how curiosity and understanding are much more effective than control or criticism.

Because you don’t change your life—or your relationship—by staying stuck in blame.

You change it by seeing clearly, responding differently, and choosing what feels better for you.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.