Links mentioned in this episode:

⁠How to Find a Kinky Partner or like minded people Online⁠

⁠The BDSM Love Language Self-Discovery Test⁠

Even though my show is about BDSM, Kink and fetishes. Even if you’re Vanilla or Kinky all the tips I give you today will be helpful no matter what you are.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by endless swiping, ghosting, or trying to decode someone’s “looking for vibes” profile—you’re not alone. I’m here to help you navigate the wild, wonderful, and sometimes weird world of digital connections.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

• The best dating apps and platforms for kink-friendly connections (mainstream and niche)
• How to create a profile that actually attracts the right people
• Tips for being upfront about your identity, desires, and boundaries
• My favorite ways to spot a catfish before it wastes your time (including the Spoon Test—yes, really 🥄) -Fun but meaningful conversation starters to move beyond small talk
• Why consent, communication, and emotional safety are non-negotiable -And how to use my BDSM Love Language Self-Discovery Test to build trust and spark real compatibility

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Which parts were most helpful to you?

• Referenced Dating Sites
• Dating Profile Tips
• BDSM Love Language Test
• Communication & Consent
• Q's:Conversation Starters
• CatFish Tips
• All of the Above

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• ⁠⁠PRINTABLE Checklist: Questions to Ask a Pro-Domme During a Vetting Interview⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠$$ How to Deposit Cash into CashApp Account & get a Free CashApp Card.⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠Blog Articles On Fin-Domme⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Domina Gray's Blog⁠

This Episode was inspired by Episode 2, Where I shared a personal aftercare call I had with one of my submissives.

During that call, we spoke in depth about his past experiences with so-called “Pro-Dommes”.

• The reality? They weren’t trained. They weren’t ethical. And their behavior left him traumatized — to the point where he almost gave up on ever seeing a Dominatrix again.

That’s how serious this conversation is.

Because when someone calls themselves a Pro-Domme but doesn’t operate with intention, training, or boundaries — the damage they cause isn’t just physical. It’s psychological and emotional too.

Too many submissives are walking away from sessions feeling unsafe, used, or broken.

That’s not BDSM. That’s abuse. And we don’t tolerate that here.

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Trust, Release, and the Healing Power of Aftercare: Behind the Scenes of a Real D/s Dynamic By Domina Gray

Aftercare is more than a cool-down — it’s where the soul work begins.

In this powerful podcast episode, I open the door to an intimate aftercare conversation with one of my long-term submissives. We explore what happens when a submissive finally lets go of ego and enters full surrender. We talk through what trust looks like — and how it’s earned, not taken. And we reflect on how careful planning, mutual respect, and deep emotional presence transform BDSM into something profoundly healing.

This submissive has been through painful experiences with unethical Doms, making our relationship — and his ability to trust again — all the more meaningful. We talk openly about:

• The emotional shift from brat to full submission
  • Navigating trauma through play and care
  • The difference between true D/s dynamics and "just topping"
  • The sacred ritual of aftercare and emotional safety
  • How hygiene, planning, and ethics build trust in professional Domination
  • And how submission, at its best, becomes a sanctuary

Whether you're a fellow Domme, a curious submissive, or someone interested in the deeper emotional layers of kink, this episode offers a rare and raw insight into what BDSM looks like when it’s done with heart.

“What does aftercare mean to you?”

Choose one (or drop your own answer in the comments):

• 🛏️ A safe space to come down & emotionally recover
  • 🫂 A time for touch, affirmation, and connection
  • 🧠 A necessary part of trauma-informed kink
  • ❓Honestly, I’m still learning what aftercare looks like
  • 🖤 I’ve never received real aftercare, but I want to

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Welcome my hyper-sexual beings to Domina Gray During the Day— I’m your host, Domina Gray.

Ever wonder what a Dominatrix does after the latex comes off?

In this podcast I will share my lifestyle as a Pro-dom answer the questions you send, share parts of my journey, and explore the work I do with intention, skill, and kink.

Since this is the first episode, let me pull you into the beginning. Who is Domina Gray? Well, I didn’t grow up thinking I’d become a Domme—or....