Chris breaks down the psychology behind attraction, self-sabotage, and the non-negotiables people slowly abandon when they feel lonely or rushed. He also explains how his background in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and investigative work helps him trace relationship problems back to their root cause - not just the obvious symptom.

He explains how to lower the temperature, ask better questions, and get to the actual root of a fight instead of just louder versions of the same complaint.

We also discuss infidelity, including the warning signs people miss, why suspicion is often wrong more often than people realize, and how small, neglected issues usually do more damage than one dramatic blowup. Chris walks through his 90-day marriage audit - a structured check-in designed to force honest communication before resentment builds.

I was really intrigued by his check-in and decided to review it during the podcast so that you can hear if it may be a good fit for your relationship.

Chris's links are here:

www.icoachlove.com

https://mrcbfields.com/relationship-audit/

Virginia McConnell is a dating and relationship pattern coach specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, who shares practical first date vetting steps, red-flag patterns, and boundary checks that can save you from wasting time, energy, and emotional damage.

Virginia breaks down how to spot inconsistencies, trust your body’s signals, and recognize when chemistry is actually clouding your judgment.

You’ll discover her perspectives on:

Why reverse image searching profile photos should be step one

The biggest romance-scam red flags, including overseas and military excuses, no video calls, and story inconsistencies

How to exit a bad date quickly and respectfully without overexplaining

Why coffee dates can be safer than dinner dates when you’re still screening someone

How love bombing, isolation, and pattern recognition reveal more than one-off behaviors in narcissists.

Virginia also explains why narcissism exists on a spectrum, why both men and women can show it, and why people recovering from toxic relationships often become hypervigilant. That insight matters, because the biggest mistake is mistaking fear, infatuation, or hope for actual safety.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your instincts are picking up real danger or old trauma, this episode gives you a clearer filter. Essential listening if you’re dating, supporting a friend through a toxic relationship, or rebuilding after one and want a smarter, safer way forward.

Virginia's Links:

https://breakthepatterns.net/

Podcast: Red Flags and Real Love https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-flags-real-love/id6788256074

Social Media OfficialVirginiaMcConnell

https://www.instagram.com/officialvirginiamcconnell/

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Violet Lange describes the cosmic magic that happens when you stop chasing perfect paper chemistry and start looking at values, nervous system safety, and energetic alignment.

She blends engineering, business, astrology, and energy work into a matchmaking process that helps people get unstuck, get honest, and become genuinely magnetic. And her approach goes far beyond sun signs - she uses elements, chakras, typology, and emotional patterns to help people understand why some connections spark and others fizzle.

Violet shares how divine union differs from the limiting "twin flame" story, why wanting to feel cherished matters more than checking boxes like income or body type, and how dating burnout often closes people off from the very connection they want. John brings a grounded skeptic's perspective throughout, using his own relationship story as a real-world test case for what happens when you stop forcing dating and let alignment reveal itself.

You'll discover:

Why chemistry without shared values can keep repeating the same heartbreak

How the four elements can reveal what you need in a partner, and what you're missing in yourself

Why emotional availability and authenticity matter more than trying to play the dating game perfectly

How people get more attractive when they stop making love their only life goal

Why the right match often shows up after you change your energy, not just your app strategy

Violet also leads a six-week course, Love Alchemy / Love Harmonics, for people who want a practical framework for romantic transformation.

Here are her links below:

https://violetlange.com/loveharmonics

https://violetlange.com/saturdaynight

#matchmaking #cosmicmatchmaking #chakras #yoga #dating #datingadvice #PodMatch #donewithdatingapps #selfimprovement

Allison Brenner breaks down how InnerVue uses a modern 360-style assessment to reveal not only critical blind spots and also hidden strengths, helping you see not just what you think of yourself, but how you land with friends, coworkers, partners, and dates. This can also work for couples!

We also discuss emotional intelligence in dating, the power of emotional contagion, and why “what is it like to be on the other side of me?” is one of the most useful questions you can ask before a first date, a meeting, or a difficult conversation. Allison explains how briefly pausing before going into a date to set small shifts in presence, intention, and accountability can transform how others experience you.

Here are Allison's links:

https://www.instagram.com/yourinnervue/

https://x.com/yourinnervue

https://www.facebook.com/YourInnervue2025

https://www.youtube.com/@YourInnerVue

https://www.tiktok.com/@yourinnervue?lang=en

This is a newsletter that comes out each Friday …it’s a satirical look at the line between self-awareness and self-deception

https://www.linkedin.com/build-relation/newsletter-follow?entityUrn=7389759920633724928

And her website: https://yourinnervue.com

Bonus, Here is a discount code for anyone interested in taking part in a Tier I or Tier II Assessment: DONEWITHDATING

#donewithdatingapps #donewithdating #360assessment #intentionality #dating #emotionalintellence #firstdates

Sarah Curnoles, a seasoned breakup coach and life strategist, shares a transformative process that turns heartbreak into a powerful rebirth. In this episode, discover the surprising truth about grief, triggers, and how to reclaim your identity after loss — even when numbness or self-doubt hit hardest.

I really identified with this episode because I have been through many breakups. Some were the most emotional experiences of my life. Sarah walks us through that raw emotion and provides great insights on some coping tips.

Sarah's Links:

Schedule a free breakthrough call: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=13002720&appointmentType=2184073

IG: https://www.instagram.com/sarahcurnoles/

#donewithdatingapps #donewithdating #dating #breakups #breakupcoach #relationships #heartbreak

Caroline Hood and I discuss motherhood and the importance of mothers making themselves a priority. The pressure to be “selfless” can make women feel like they have to give up their identity, their desire, and even their sense of self. But the truth is: you can be a mother and still be a full human being. You can love your kids deeply and still need space, support, intimacy, and joy. That’s not selfish. That’s healthy.

Caroline's Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/

Website: https://www.desireinreallife.com/

Her Articles on Substack: https://desireinreallife.substack.com/

#donewithdatingapps #motherhood #parentingtruths #postpartum #womenandmotherhood #relationshipadvice #parentingreality #identityshift #newparents #marriageafterkids #selfcareformoms

I enjoyed recording this conversation with Steven. It is the first of two episodes on parenthood. In this conversation, Steven and I speak about our journeys through life and what we would tell young men and our younger selves. We weave that into fatherhood.

Find Steven Goodwin at:

https://www.instagram.com/fulldisclosureconversations/

https://www.youtube.com/@FullDisclosureConversations

https://www.threads.com/@fulldisclosureconversations?xmt=AQG0ll0TmHlOauxgDgc1GMDr4dv4W0XHSGuYsaRWBvBLjVQ

#fatherhood #parenthood #mentorship #guidance #donewithdatingapps

Meet Dan, a 34-year-old librarian with a passion for music, drag culture, and honest conversations, shares his courageous journey through trauma, self-discovery, and finding love on his own terms.

He is a gay male looking for a man. After surviving a life-altering accident and navigating complex feelings about identity, Dan embodies resilience and openness— you'll discover how Dan's past shaped his view on authenticity and pride, emphasizing the importance of living unabashedly and without shame. He discusses the growing phenomenon of Down Low (DL) men and internalized homophobia, shedding light on the impact of societal pressures on gay men today. Dan's raw honesty reminds us that vulnerability and resilience are true marks of strength. Please listen, subscribe, and help Dan and others find their ideal match.

#donewithdating #matchmaking #LGBT #LGBTdating #donewithdatingapps

I had a really great conversation with Jill Vandor, a seasoned matchmaker with over 25 years of experience at Lunch Dates and Allure Matchmaking. Jill finds success through meticulous vetting, intuitive matchmaking, and a deep commitment to understanding what truly makes two people click. I could really tell she was a very sincere person who truly wanted to make people's dating experience better.  

We break down concrete tactics: how to manage expectations, the importance of authenticity over perfection, and the subtle art of building confidence before a first date. Jill also sheds light on her signature process—from in-depth client interviews to curated dates in the Greater Boston area—ensuring each connection has the best shot at success.  Whether you're considering professional matchmaking or just tired of the dating app roulette, you'll walk away with practical advice and a renewed belief that the right person is out there—waiting for a human touch.  

Company Social Media & Online Presence (Primary Channels Featuring Jill)

•  Instagram:

•  @lunchdates

•  LinkedIn: LunchDates company page (https://www.linkedin.com/company/lunchdates)

•  X (Twitter): @lunchdates. 

•  Websites (main hubs with contact/forms):

•  LunchDates: https://www.lunchdates.com 

•  Allure Matchmaking: https://allurematchmaking.com 

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In this matchmaking episode, you will meet Michael. He has a vibrant personality and loves cycling, travel, music, and quality time. Michael is proof that the best connections start with shared energy—not a perfect checklist. He currently lives in Boston but is willing to move for the right lady.

#DatingPodcast #DoneWithDatingApps #DatingProfile #BikeLife #WorkLifeBalance #LoveLanguages #TravelLover #MusicLover #Matchmaking