Don't Be a Jerk

What if your success has nothing to do with you? That is the worldview of Bing Chen. And it has shaped two massive revolutions: the YouTube creator economy and the rise of Asian representation in Hollywood.

Bing and I go all the way back to Wharton. We were in the same senior society. After college we’d grab coffee in New York and he’d casually say things like, “I think millions of people will make their full-time living on YouTube.” He was right. He helped build it.

Today he is the CEO and Co-Founder of Gold House. Under his leadership the collective has supported over 600 projects, helped 100 films and shows reach #1 total debuts, and driven billions in revenue.

But none of that is why this conversation blew me away. The real story is Bing’s philosophy.

This is a conversation about generosity, legacy, culture, and what leadership actually looks like when you center it on others.

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 – Why Bing and I still feel like caffeinated college kids

03:00 – The early YouTube years and the birth of the creator economy

07:00 – Bing’s definition of success and how losing his father changed everything

10:00 – Why real givers never count who owes them

11:30 – Naming the “creator.” The internal battles inside YouTube

15:00 – How Gold House accidentally came to life

16:00 – The strategy behind rallying a global diaspora

17:00 – The three universal human desires (health, love, meaning)

20:00 – The truth behind #GoldOpen and engineering cultural wins

23:00 – Why 100 films and shows reached number one in total debuts

25:00 – How community movements are intentionally built

28:00 – The manifesto of Gold House and why it is built on giving

29:30 – Why they chose the color gold and how brand identity shapes culture

31:00 – Being “the first call” when people win or fall

33:00 – Building a Marvel-scale creative universe about death

36:00 – Why contemplating mortality makes you more generous

41:00 – How to design community experiences that spark real impact

44:30 – Ethics, character checks, and the courage to excommunicate the wrong people

47:00 – The leadership principle Bing wishes he learned earlier

50:00 – How to be “the only one,” not the best one

55:00 – Final reflections on kindness, ambition, and legacy

This episode is a masterclass in impact, community, and leadership.

If you’ve ever wondered how to build something bigger than yourself, Bing is the blueprint.

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Most people meet a quantum physicist and think they have nothing in common.

But Anastasia Marchenkova is built different.

She went from breaking the servers at Georgia Tech to building quantum chips at Rigetti, to investing in deep-tech startups, to teaching introverts how to communicate. And along the way she discovered something surprising.

Being smart is not the hard part. Being human is. In this episode, we talk about how Anastasia rewrote her entire identity. From shy scientist to founder to creator to someone who believes empathy is a core technology.

You will hear:

- The night she accidentally took down Georgia Tech’s internet and got seed funding for it

- Why scientists struggle to admit “I don’t know” and how it kills innovation

- The “misogyny is a skill issue” problem in tech and what confident people do differently

- Why 85 percent of career success comes from people skills, not IQ

- How she taught herself charisma using physics-level study habits

- Why scientists should fire clients faster

- The rule she lives by online: never punch down

- How to handle haters who can’t spell “your”

- The moment she realized asking for help is a superpower

- How boundaries make you kinder, not harsher

- The real cost of being the smartest person in the room

This conversation is part science, part philosophy, and part survival guide for anyone who has ever felt like their intelligence outran their communication skills.

EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — The supervillain origin story

03:00 — Breaking Georgia Tech’s servers and starting a company

07:00 — The academic mindset vs the startup mindset

11:30 — Why saying “I don’t know” increases innovation

15:00 — The danger of needing to be the smartest person in the room

17:30 — Why founders should fire faster

20:00 — People skills as a competitive advantage

27:00 — Misogyny as a skill issue

30:00 — Handling online hate and setting boundaries

35:00 — The psychology of communication in deep tech

40:00 — What scientists can teach founders (and vice versa)

48:00 — The most important question every technical leader should ask

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What happens when you build everything you ever wanted… and still feel empty?

For Jesse Pujji, that moment came after bootstrapping Ampush to a multi-eight-figure exit and realizing that money and titles weren’t enough.

So he stepped back, did the inner work, and started Gateway X, a venture studio built around one radical idea: you can scale businesses and stay human.

Jesse and I met as college kids at Wharton 20+ years ago. He was the calm, wise one. Let’s just say I was… not that. That’s why this conversation felt like a full circle moment for me.

In this conversation, Jesse and I talk about what happens behind the curtain of “success” and how fear, ego, and self-awareness shape everything from our leadership style to our happiness.

You’ll hear:

• Why fear and extrinsic motivation (money, titles, status) will get you far but can’t take you all the way.

• The 5 motivators that drive every founder (and how to choose yours consciously).

• How to find your “one thing you can’t NOT do.”

• Why Jesse left a $1M offer on the table to start his company.

• How to turn anxiety into presence: in real time, even in a meeting.

• The difference between treating people like employees vs. adults.

• What it means to run your business as a spiritual practice.

• The moment humility became Jesse’s superpower.

This episode is for for anyone building something big and trying to stay grounded while they do it.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — How Healey and Jesse met at Wharton (and the TA story that started it all)

03:30 — Why Jesse left Wall Street to build a company from scratch

06:00 — The crash after the win: what happens when external success stops working

07:30 — The 5 motivators that drive all human behavior (and how to choose your fuel)

10:00 — When money stopped motivating and what filled the gap

11:50 — “What’s the one thing you can’t not do?” Finding purpose through practice

13:20 — From purpose to play: how to live in your “zone of genius”

18:00 — The decision to leave a $1M job offer and follow intuition

25:30 — “Fear is excitement without breath.” How to reframe fear as energy

27:00 — Aliveness as the compass: how to know you’re on your path

30:00 — Work as a spiritual pursuit (and how to turn frustration into curiosity)

33:00 — Mirrors, ego, and the parts of ourselves we don’t want to see

38:00 — The moment Jesse said “I feel scared” in a meeting (and how it changed the room)

42:00 — Why presence is contagious and awareness builds trust

44:30 — Treating people like adults (and why “loving candor” works better than control)

47:00 — How humility became Jesse’s leadership advantage

50:00 — What he wishes someone told him earlier about money, fear, and fulfillment

52:30 — Where to find Jesse today and what he’s building next

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What happens when authenticity becomes your superpower?

For Goldie Chan, she turned her authentic, vulnerable story into a personal brand everyone wants. She’s the founder of Warm Robots, a Forbes contributor, and the author of Personal Branding for Introverts, a guide to building influence without pretending to be someone you’re not.

Dubbed the “Oprah of LinkedIn,” Goldie built one of the most trusted voices in storytelling and leadership by doing something revolutionary in the age of algorithms: leading with heart.

In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Goldie to talk about how stories shape trust, why vulnerability is magnetic, and what it really takes to connect in a world run by metrics.

You’ll hear:

• How emotional intelligence beats IQ in leadership and influence

• The two versions of every great story (and when to use each)

• Why authenticity builds more trust than perfection ever could

• How to make one-to-many communication feel one-to-one

• Why “Yes, and…” might be the secret to better teams and conversations

• How Goldie’s cancer story became a masterclass in vulnerability

• The storytelling framework that every founder should steal

This conversation is equal parts strategy and soul. It’s about turning your humanity into your advantage and proving that empathy, not ego, is the real growth engine.

⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — The story behind Don’t Be a Jerk (and Adam Grant’s advice)

05:00 — Meet Goldie Chan: from poetry to the “Oprah of LinkedIn”

10:00 — Why storytelling is the most human skill we have left

14:30 — “Broetry,” bad writing, and how to actually hook your reader

19:00 — Vulnerability as a superpower: Goldie’s cancer story

22:00 — The two versions of every story: short vs. long

26:30 — Authenticity → Trust → Performance: the leadership loop

31:00 — The improv rule that transforms conversations

34:00 — How to make one-to-many feel one-to-one

40:00 — Confidence vs. ego — and why both are contagious

47:00 — Storytelling as a muscle: how to keep it strong

55:00 — Goldie’s final lesson: tell the story that resonates

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What happens when life throws you something you can’t control?

For Lucy Aragon, the answer was to keep dancing.

She’s been to 105 countries, built a life around optimism and adventure, and faced her husband’s cancer diagnosis with humor, perspective, and a contagious belief that joy isn’t luck. It’s work.

In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Lucy to talk about the art of staying light when life gets heavy. From her solo travels through war zones to the lessons she learned about resilience, confidence, and perspective, Lucy’s story is a reminder that happiness isn’t something you find. It’s something you create.

You’ll hear:

- How travel rewires your empathy and your brain

- Why “the rules were invented by people way stupider than you”

- The moment in Yemen that changed how she sees courage

- How humor became her greatest survival tool

- Why optimism is a health advantage, not a personality trait

- The 50 Cent quote that helped her beat anxiety and depression

- What lighting poop on fire taught her about leadership and joy

This conversation is equal parts philosophy and laughter. It’s about choosing perspective over panic, humor over fear, and joy as a daily act of rebellion.

⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — How Healey and Lucy met (and why she lights up every room)

04:00 — Travel as a teacher: empathy, perspective, and the Yemen story

10:00 — “The rules were invented by people way stupider than you”

15:30 — Disneyland, the 8-year-old, and the moment Lucy realized most rules are fake

24:30 — Facing cancer with confidence, humor, and perspective

31:00 — Why optimism isn’t denial

35:45 — How comparison became the thief of modern joy

39:00 — Travel, gratitude, and the psychology of happiness

45:20 — “Depression is a luxury” from 50 Cent

49:00 — Anxiety, control, and the mental rewiring that joy requires

55:00 — The loneliness epidemic and how to fight it with connection

01:05:00 — The art of humor (even when life is serious)

01:10:00 — Lighting poop on fire (yes, really) and parenting through joy

01:17:00 — Why intention matters more than perfection

01:22:00 — Lucy’s final lesson: You can just be happy, without being rich or successful

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What does it take to build a real community in a world that rewards hustle over humanity?

Espree Devora has spent over a decade answering that question.

She’s the founder of We Are LA Tech and host of Women in Tech, where she’s spent thousands of hours connecting entrepreneurs, creators, and founders (and learning the hard way what it means to lead with empathy).

In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Espree to explore the science and soul of connection. From raising venture capital with no introduction to Sequoia, to learning the power of boundaries, breathwork, and burnout recovery, Espree shares how to build communities that last, starting with yourself.

You’ll hear:

- Why community is a human survival tool, not a marketing strategy

- The simple mindset shift that made Espree fall in love with herself

- How to set boundaries without shutting people out

- Why “curious compassion” can fix almost any conflict

- The real reason most founders burn out

- What Tony Hsieh taught her about culture and core values

- How to build belonging without losing yourself in the process

This conversation is equal parts tactical and deeply human. It’s about self-worth, leadership, and why the most successful communities are built on something simple but radical: love.

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What happens when you build a $400 million startup and then lose it all?

For James Beshara, the answer wasn’t another company. It was a complete rewiring of how to live.

In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with the founder of Tilt (acquired by Airbnb) and Magic Mind to talk about the unseen side of ambition: the waves you catch, the ones you miss, and the peace that comes when you stop fighting the current.

James shares how public failure became the best thing that ever happened to him, why stillness is the ultimate competitive advantage, and how a decade of studying philosophy (Advaita Vedanta) reshaped his definition of success.

You’ll hear:

- How to build mental wealth the same way you build physical health

- Why “we don’t see the world as it is; we see it as we are”

- The founder trap of external validation and how to escape it

- The 90-minute morning ritual that keeps him calm in chaos

- Why work without attachment is a form of worship

- The story behind my $100 million mistake and what it taught him about ego

- The simple, radical truth that changed his life: “It’s not out there.”

This conversation is a rare blend of practicality and philosophy. It’s about ambition without anxiety, growth without ego, and finding meaning in the middle of the mess.

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What if telling the truth faster could make your company more profitable, your culture stronger, and your life easier?

Robert Yuen, CEO of Monograph, believes it can. He has built an entire business around it.

In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, Healey sits down with Robert to unpack what radical transparency really looks like in practice. They discuss everything from open dashboards and revenue lines visible to every employee, to investor meetings where Robert leads with the hard stuff first.

Together, Healey and Robert explore:

- Why transparency is the ultimate trust accelerant and the only sustainable culture strategy

- How to communicate bad news without breaking morale

- When to hold back information and how to do it without eroding trust

- Why asking for help early saves startups from silent collapse

- How Monograph uses visual dashboards, revenue transparency, and consistent cadences to eliminate surprises

- The money conversation script architects and founders should use to make pricing fair, firm, and drama-free

- How transparency with investors flips power dynamics and attracts the right partners faster

- The surprising reason radical honesty is also a form of self-care

Robert’s leadership philosophy is simple but bold: “Transparency might backfire sometimes, but it always nets positive.”

This episode is part tactical playbook, part therapy session for founders who are tired of carrying everything alone. If you have ever wondered how to build a company that runs on trust rather than politics, this conversation is your blueprint.

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Empathy is one of the most powerful tools we have for survival, leadership, and connection.

In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, Healey Cypher sits down with Jamil Zaki — Stanford psychology professor, empathy researcher, and author of The War for Kindness — to explore why empathy is under siege and how we can build it back, stronger than ever.

Jamil shares:

• Why empathy has declined 40% in the past few decades and why that’s reversible.

• How reading fiction can be a “gateway drug” for empathy.

• A simple tactic to de-escalate conflict (marriage fights included): list what you don’t know and what you already agree on.

• Why organizations that lead with empathy have lower turnover, more innovation, and stronger profits.

• How to move from a “warrior mentality” to a guardian mentality in leadership.

• Why nobody says hi… but everybody says hi back (and what that reveals about loneliness).

• The contagious nature of kindness and how to spark a ripple effect in your team.

• Why Jamil believes the empathy deficit is less about supply, and more about demand.

This is empathy with receipts: science, data, and tactical frameworks you can use today. Whether you’re running a company, managing a team, or just trying to argue better with your spouse, this episode is for you.

When you think about “service,” you might picture a volunteer day with matching T-shirts or a line on a résumé. But for Shakirah Simley, service is deeper. It’s generational. It’s survival. And it’s the force that has guided her life and leadership.

Shakirah grew up in Harlem and the South Bronx, raised by a family of Black women leaders, social workers, and activists. Today, she’s the Executive Director of the Booker T. Washington Community Service Center in San Francisco, where she’s quintupled the budget, quadrupled the staff, and transformed the center into a thriving hub of housing, education, food justice, and wellness.

In this conversation, Shakirah and Healey explore:

- Why research shows service makes us healthier, happier, and even live longer

- The difference between “resume service” and service that truly transforms communities

- Why low-income and marginalized communities are often the most generous

- How to prevent burnout when your job is helping others

- Shakirah’s framework for service: time, treasure, and talent

- The connection between service, empathy, and stronger democracies

- Why humility isn’t optional if you want to lead with impact

This conversation is about building trust, resilience, and joy through the act of giving back.

If you’ve ever thought “I’m too busy to volunteer” or wondered how to make service a real part of your life, this episode will change how you think.