It's normal to feel like we need to defend or explain ourselves. The good news is we don't need to. Most people don't care what are explanations are anyways. It is a waste of energy to explain or defend yourself. Of course there are times and certain circumstances this may be necessary. I am talking about why you missed someones call or you didn't want to go out. Honor yourself and know it's ok to say no, no thank you. You can return a call or text when you are ready and be present. Bring awareness to yourself and others when you notice unnecessary defending happening.