Ever said "Yes" to something while your soul was screaming "No"? We’ve all been there—that sinking feeling in your stomach the moment the words leave your mouth, followed by a week of self-loathing.

In this episode of Don't Make Me Call Her, we’re getting comfortable with the most powerful two-letter word in the language. You’d think that with age and experience, saying no would become a reflex, but even I found myself backed into a corner recently. I’m sharing a personal story of a time I wasn't quick enough to react, the "self-hating" moment that followed, and how we can all avoid that trap moving forward.

What we’re unpacking this week:

• The "Yes" Trap: Why we feel pressured to agree to situations we actually hate.

• The Human Element: Admitting that even the "Ginja Ninja Master" gets caught off guard sometimes.

• The Toolkit: Practical, useful excuses and strategies to help you decline with grace (or just firm boundaries).

• Ginja Combat Zone: As your non-professional, ill-equipped agony aunt, I’m diving into a listener dilemma involving a very complicated threesome relationship... I’m saying no more!

Stop living for others and start protecting your energy. Tune in to find out how to master the art of the decline.

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New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa (or a glass of water) and let’s get into it.

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Hosts:  Grace Lam and Jason Capobianco

Produced by Herrrooo Production

Music by Lindsay Lai  www.lindsaylai.com

Episode 2: The Art of the Ginja Ninja—Handling Anger & The Combat Zone

How do you handle the heat when the temper flares? In this episode of Don't Make Me Call Her, the "Ginja Ninja Master" herself sits down with her most mature student, Jason, to dissect the rawest of human emotions: Anger.

We’re diving deep into the generational shift of rage—comparing the "Boomer-style" upbringing to the more empathetic, gentle parenting approach used today. Are we finally understanding our children better, or just finding new ways to vent?

In this episode, we discuss:

• Battle Styles: Jason and I compare notes on how we each express (and suppress) our bad tempers.

• The Evolution of Conflict: The "Old Grace Lam" used to fight and scream, but those days are over. I’m sharing the new, refined way I handle conflict now that I’m "too old" for the drama.

• Management & Diversion: Practical ways to diffuse the emotion before it explodes.

• A Challenge to F1 Royalty: Sir Lewis Hamilton—I’m your biggest fan, but let’s be real: I don’t think you could handle my G-ninja temper.

Stick around for this week’s Ginja Combat Zone, where we tackle a brand-new dilemma that is as fun as it is relatable. Tune in to get our perspective on staying cool when things get heated!

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Produced by Herrrooo Production

Music by Lindsay Lai  www.lindsaylai.com

After an 11-month 'sabbatical' spent wrestling with the endless life admin of moving from Perth to Melbourne, Grace and Jason are finally back behind the mic.

In this season opener, Grace addresses the baffling rumour that she should become a life coach. (Honestly, are you lot quite alright? WhoTF wants my Chinatown advice?) Apparently, the world is crying out for some "G-Ninja x Bruce Lee" discipline, so class is officially in session.

In this episode:

• The Melbourne Reset: WTF did we disappear to for nearly a year?
• Liquid Boundaries: How to follow Bruce Lee’s advice to "be water, my friend" without letting people take the piss too much.
• The Ginja Combat Zone: Grace dives into the first round of listener dilemmas. Real drama, no sugar-coating, and a healthy dose of "No-BS Chinatown” tactics.

New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa (or a glass of water) and let’s get into it.

If you enjoyed my chat please click ‘Follow’ on Spotify, Apple Podcast, YouTube Music and leave me a five-star review.  Lotza luv.  Thank You. 

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Hosts:  Grace Lam and Jason Capobianco

Produced by Herrrooo Production

Music by Lindsay Lai  www.lindsaylai.com

Herrooo my beloved (and possibly imaginary) listeners! It's time for another episode of 'Don't Make Me Call Her,' where we delve into the truly important things in life: Pet Peeves. This week, Jason and I are taking you on a whirlwind tour of our most memorable experiences living in Hong Kong and Australia.

Picture this: phone-addicted pedestrians moving at a snail pace, nail clipping on public transport (seriously WTF! Gross!), and the mega annoying symphony of cheap cars revving in the middle of the night. Can someone please explain to me the purpose of a useless leaf blower. WHY?

We’re also jet-setting to Hong Kong for 'What's For Lunch?' where I’m interrogating a friend about their midday meal. Expect cultural insights, culinary chaos, and maybe a few recipe ideas.

So be prepared for a rant-filled episode with the Capos. We’ll be back in two weeks, and don’t forget to leave your topic suggestions in the comments or take our poll below – your pain could be our gain! Cheers my wicked peeps!

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Birthday brain fog is real peeps! This week on 'Don't Make Me Call Her,' I'm turning 52 and struggling to form coherent sentences thanks to perimenopause. Plus, I'm unleashing my annual rant about the 'Happy Birthday' song – you know, the one that makes me want to hide under a table? (Yes, I gagged a waitress once. It's a long story.)

I'm also celebrating Anthony Hamilton, the ultimate F1 dad - love Papa Ham! Also diving into the glorious fun of East vs. West parenting styles. And of course, 'What's For Lunch?' is back, dialing up a local friend for some midday meal inspiration. Tune in for a candid episode filled with personal 'stupid' stories, parenting insights, and a whole lot of laughter!

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Oscars madness! For this second episode, we're dissecting Hollywood's biggest and most self absorbed night, the Academy Awards. Frankly, I'm shocked no one mentioned a certain President's tiny hands. Missed opportunity! Timothée Chalamet's yellow suit: genius or a crime against fashion? Is Mick Jagger the new Bob Dylan? Plus, the Australian TV delay: are we living in the Stone Age? And the internet's rage over Mikey Madison's win over veteran Demi Moore? Seriously, can't everyone just chill? I bet you were secretly waiting for Will Smith to storm the stage (no more bitch slapping, please!). Join me and Jason as we rant, rave, and give our useless two cents on an award that shouldn't matter to us, but it does (at least to me, because I love the movies). Tell me your thoughts on my new segment, 'What's for Lunch? What's for Dinner?' where I dial up my mates to find out what they're eating and hopefully get some meal inspiration.

PS.  Please let me know whether you think Jason looks like Jeff Goldblum.  Comments below or DM me on Instagram!

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Back for more, are we? "Don't Make Me Call Her" returns for a second series, because apparently, I haven't scared enough people off yet. This new series, I'm dragging my husband, Jason, along for the ride as we attempt to decipher the mysteries of biracial marriage. Think cultural differences, relationship squabbles, and in this first episode my burning question for Aussies: "Why are your feet so dirty?" Plus, I'm introducing a new segment called "What's for Lunch/Dinner?" As a couple, we've asked each other this question about 10,220 times in our fourteen years of marriage, so forgive me if we run out of cooking ideas. This is why I need help from my mates all around the world to give me inspiration. This series, we're keeping it short and sweet for easy listening. Enjoy!

A shout-out to Satchmo Cafe, a small business in Perth. Check'em out on Instagram: @satchmocafe

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Gong Hei Fat Choy, everyone! It's Chinese New Year, Year of the Snake! I go full-on superstition mode—because obviously, the fate of your entire year depends on whether you wash your hair on the first day (spoiler: DON’T).

In this last episode of this first series, Jason and I break down all the CNY dos and don’ts that sound completely mental to non-Chinese folk. No taking out the bins (unless you fancy throwing your fortune away), No sweeping the floor (unless you enjoy financial ruin). Oh, and if your Chinese aunties tell you to wear red pants for luck—just do as you are told. We also talk about Feng Shui and Chinese Astrology - I ain’t no Feng Shui Master but I’ve met enough of them to share some wicked and bizarre stories.

So grab your red packets (lucky money) and prepare for some CNY chaos and may your WiFi signal be strong all year! (Especially in Australia because it’s shit!).

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Host: Grace Lam

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Music by Lindsay Lai

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Sir Lewis Hamilton at Ferrari? If you didn't know...WTF have you been? Yes I am talking Formula One again! This week the 7 time world champion, made his debut test drive for Scuderia Ferrari and the internet imploded. Lewis dropped a Godfather-esque pic from Ferrari HQ in Maranello, Italy and the Tifosi went nuts!

To dissect this historic F1 moment, I've dialed up my F1 mate Brad Coleman. We'll be diving deep into the 'Lewis Effect' and how it's about to shake things up in Maranello. Do you think Charles Leclerc is shitting himself right now?

Let's be honest, it is never too late to pick up a language. I'm frantically trying to learn Italian. Forza Ferrari!

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The perks of having globe-trotting friends? Lotza stories to share! This episode, I’m dialing up my ‘baby-faced’ little bro, Daniel Kong. Originally from Brunei but now living in London, he’s a former journalist/writer who worked for Monocle magazine, Lane Crawford, and the South China Morning Post. We met in Hong Kong and became fast friends.

For episode 8, we dive into our childhood shenanigans, racism in Australia, coming out to his parents (very scary!), being bullied in high school for being gay and Asian, and of course, the classic English weather. Daniel may be in his 30s, but he’s already a big deal—he’s the Global Head of Brand Narrative for Deciem Beauty Group. What a clever little shit! Love him! Don’t forget to listen until the end to learn some new Cantonese slang with me and Professor Theo.

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Host: Grace Lam

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Music by Lindsay Lai

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