don't overthink it

architecture looks glamorous from the outside… but anyone who studied or worked in it knows the truth: the all-nighters, the unpaid competitions, the heartbreak of caring too much. in this episode, i talk about why architecture is not what people think it is, and why so many of us resent it, leave it, miss it, and also love it.

this isn’t a rant or a call to leave architecture. it’s an overthinking session on the culture of a profession that many people love. if you’ve ever studied architecture, worked in a studio, or loved someone who did, you’ll feel this one.

did i get your attention? good. competition is fun, until we are fighting the battles that don't matter. easier said than done, i know. in this episode, i dive into competition and comparison. from school systems that reward winning, to workplaces that turn everything into a race-if you’ve ever felt behind, secretly and not so secretly competitive, tired of performing, or convinced that everyone is doing better than you, this episode is for you.

p.s: the research i'm talking in the episode is here

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i won't share my spotify playlist anyone, would you? it would sting if someone did not like my music taste, or my taste in anything... maybe what we call "taste" is too close to home. in this episode i overthink on why our preferences feel so personal and why we fear being judged.

i love aesthetics, but real life is messy - and that’s still human.

aesthetics are fun. i love a good outfit video, a perfectly lit coffee moment, the dreamy side of the internet. but real life isn’t always that polished. in this episode, i trace social media from tumblr to instagram to today’s algorithm-driven feeds, and i think out loud about what gets rewarded, what gets hidden, and why it feels harder to show the ordinary. i’m not against looking good online. i’m just reminding myself (and you) that the mundane and messy parts of life are just as real, and just as human.

you finish work, maybe cook, maybe exercise, maybe fold some laundry and ta-daa, the whole day is gone. the 40-hour workweek has been around for a century, but does it still make sense? in this episode, i trace where it came from, why it doesn’t really fit office jobs (or even factories anymore), and why feeling exhausted after a “normal” day is not a personal failure. if you’ve ever felt too tired to do anything after a work day, this one’s for you.

i just turned 30, and instead of doing a list of “things i’ve learned,” i did something different.
i gave my friends pieces of paper. on one side: something they’ve learned. on the other: something they wish for. then i folded them all into a box and read them out loud, anonymously.

in this episode, i share some of their lessons, reflect on my own, and spiral into what it means to grow up without needing to have it all figured out.

because nobody has it all figured out.

if you’re navigating milestones, reflecting on your 20s, or wondering what you’ve actually learned, this one’s for you.

my whole life probably lives in my phone now. music, books, tickets, photos, you name it, and maybe yours too. but what did we lose when we stopped carrying things?

in this episode i overthink touching things, single-purpose objects, and why my silly, oversized keychain makes me feel more alive than my phone ever will.

our clothes quietly tell a story about who we are, how we feel, and maybe who want to be. from a Medusa necklace to multiple style crushes, in this episode i talk about the pieces we carry and why getting dressed might be the most honest thing we do all day.
no fashion police here🚨 and no pressure to be stylish. just an invitation to notice. because even your hoodie is saying something.

you like something… but you’re not great at it. you don’t do it every week. you’re not obsessed.can we still call it a hobby?

in this episode, i spiral from boxing classes to the existential pressure of having a thing. why do hobbies feel like identity tags? is there a pressure to be impressive with hobbies? is "trying out" a hobby really enough in our world?

for the casual bakers, one-time doers, and quiet hobby-ditchers, this one’s for you.

why do I love watching someone deep-clean their carpet but can’t bring myself to unload the dishwasher? in this episode, i spiral through simulation games, to-do lists, fake productivity highs, and the quiet sadness of chores that never end.

from the dopamine hit of crossing things off to the weird comfort of watching strangers organize their pantries — this is a ramble about control, loops, and why doing the thing is so much harder than watching it.