Don't Say Sorry

On this episode, Haylee and Jayda share some personal experiences with the Q in LGBTQI.

In certain spaces, they have both been asked, "Are you queer?". Both of them have kind of struggled how to answer this question at various moments in their lives. In some ways they're still struggling to answer with certainty and wondering where they fall in the gradient of sexuality. 

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Haylee and Jayda chat with Trina Tan, a Pilipina American educator turned UX designer. She's most known for her career in higher education when she was a relationship educator for college students. While completing her Masters in Education, Trina researched the impact of interracial relationships for and designed workshops for students to explore their unique dating experiences in healthy and genuine ways-- everything from online dating to rejection resilience. 

Correction: Only 13 States in the U.S. Require public schools to teach medically accurate sex education. 

Haylee and Jayda talk to Irene Van, creator of QTPOC Polyam Joy. Irene is a mental health drama therapist and founded QTPOC Polyam Joy - a support group for QTPOC poly-am people in the Bay Area. Irene Van is also a workshop facilitator and therapist passionate about helping others explore historical trauma, political identity, and oppression. Irene shares growing up with a grandfather who had two wives, how that influenced their views on monogamy, and what it's like to be open about polyamory to their family. 

Jayda and Haylee chat with Veronica Yahns, a Kink & BDSM Educator and Business Systems Strategist.  They talk about how Aladdin helped Veronica realize she was kinky and how she identifies as a feminist and while still being submissive. Veronica gets real open and honestly with us and even tells us about her current relationship with her "Master".


Guest Info:
veronicayahns.com
Instagram @veronicayahns

Haylee and Jayda bring on their first guest!  Tracy Nguyen is a Queer Vietnamese film maker at Sunkissed Productions and community organizer in the Bay Area.  Tracy shares the story of her breakup from a partner of 5 years and how they had a "radical breakup" in an effort to remain in each other's lives.  Tracy went from living with her partner, organizing together and eventually having a "breakup retreat" as part of their concious uncoupling to honor the end of their relationship and transition into a friendship.  If you've ever gone through a break up, this ones for you.  In this episode we ask each other, how can we rethink breakups so they don't feel so traumatic...

Tracy Nguyen: IG @hellafly and sunkissedproductions.com

Haylee and Jayda try to define SEX. The both share their first sexual experiences, Haylee watches porn for the first time and Jayda shares her problem with the concept of virginity.

*Content Warning* This episode mentions child sexual abuse and trauma. 

Haylee and Jayda play the classic game Never Have I Ever and share stories that our parents should never know.

*Content Warning* This episode mentions child sexual abuse and trauma.

Haylee and Jayda asked their friends "What is considered cheating?" We share the answers in this episode and also dive deeper into betrayal trauma and how to heal from it.

Referenced:
The Trauma of Intimate Partner Betrayal

Haylee and Jayda talk about the challenges of dating as a millennial. On this episode we talk about what it's like for Haylee to be newly single after a decade of being in a relationship. We also explore Jayda's "ethical dating" style.

Referenced:
PEN15 show on Hulu
@sexedincolor Podcast
Sex Education on Netflix