Here's a relationship suggestion that will remove a common mistake couples make. Instead of asking for what you need or want in your marriage, you assume your spouse will provide that. When they don't, you get offended and say, "You should have..."  You just put a should all over your spouse. The answer is to turn your should statement into a wish. "I wish you wouldn't do that..." This then is clear and it is not an attack. You can then make a request. "Would you please...?" This tool will really help your marriage and all your relationships. Check out my website, www.turnitup.coach for more free marriage resources.