Don't tell me how to parent

Human beings have a need to belong. If we feel we belong we are comfortable and secure and we are able to be the best versions of ourselves. 

A child’s home is the first place where they will sense they belong and their families will be their first introduction to a sense of belonging to a group of people. These early experiences will shape the way they see themselves and the world.

Our children are also part of an “unbroken and unbreakable chain of people who share a sacred identity and culture”, as my guest writes in his book. And as parents we can help our children to find their space in this chain of people.

Owen Eastwood is one of the most in-demand performance coaches in the world and has played significant roles with the current England football team, Great Britain’s 2020 Olympics team, the Scotland rugby team, the South African cricket ream and the Royal Ballet School. 

In this conversation he helps us to apply the insights from his work with high performance teams to our families and parenting and we discuss his incredible book Belonging.

No parent wants to get angry with their children or lose their temper when they are around their children. But often our homes are the place where we feel our most intense emotions and sometimes we lose our cool when we are with our kids.

In this conversation Jeanette Hargreaves, founder of Temper Coaching, helps us understand why we sometimes get angry when we are with our children and what we can do about it. 

Jeanette is a mom with her Master's in Divinity. She used to lose her temper every day, but it didn't feel right, so she got help, and now she helps others. She speaks with groups and teaches private classes over Zoom. Her book is called, "The Day I Threw Banana Bread and Almost Went to Jail: True Stories About How I Used to Lose My Temper (and How I Learned to Stop).”

Visit her website at https://jeanettehargreaves.com/ or check out her book on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/Threw-Banana-Bread-Almost-Went/dp/1087882478/ref=sr_1_1?crid=131FHSZ6D89W&dchild=1&keywords=the+day+i+threw+banana+bread+and+almost+went+to+jail&qid=1633021734&sprefix=the+day+i+threw+bana%2Caps%2C196&sr=8-1

Highly sensitive people and children have an incredible gift which, when understood, can be used to change the world. Unfortunately, being sensitive is still seen as a weakness and many children are told they are too sensitive or are labeled as being difficult.

In this conversation Alane Freund, licensed psychotherapist and colleague of Dr Elaine Aron who wrote The Highly Sensitive Person, helps us to understand why some children are more sensitive than others, what this means for them and us as parents, as well as how we can help them embrace their sensitive nature and turn it into their superpower. 

Find more information about Alane at alanefreund.com and be sure to check out her Talk at Google at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2tKDnsns2bg

In this episode I got to sit back and listen to a parenting masterclass from internationally recognised speaker and author Barbara Coloroso.

For over 50 years Barbara has been guiding and assisting parents and in this episode she shares some of her most important tips, advice and insights. 

Barbara has served as a classroom teacher, a laboratory school instructor, and a university  instructor and she is the author of five international bestsellers. Visit her website at kidsareworthit.com for more information including many incredible articles and handouts.

As parents we all want our children to be successful and the best possible versions of themselves. We also have a really important role in pushing and guiding our children. But how do we do that?

In this conversation psychologist and instructor at Phillips Exeter Academy Dr Chris Thurber helps us to understand how we can support our children to reach their goals and continue on a path to success.

Dr Chris Thurber is an award winning author and course creator and co-authored the book The unlikely art of parental pressure with Dr Hendrie Weisinger. For more information about my guest go to www.drchristhurber.com

Talking about race is something that often makes us uncomfortable. Research has found that as parents we don’t like to talk to our young children about race.

But it’s a conversation that we need to have and the earlier we start the better. 

In this conversation Dr Sindiwe Magona helps us to understand why it is so important to talk to our children about the different colours of our skins. 

We also discuss her unique book Skin we are in which she co-authored with Nina Jablonski. It is the perfect resource to help us talk to our children about race. 

In this episode we share an exclusive preview of the audio book of Skin we are in which will be available on the BiB App in October. Download the iOS or Android app and follow them on @mybib.africa on Instagram and Facebook for Africa’s Audio Library

Covid-19 has turned our worlds upside down and it has added new challenges for parents. In this conversation Amanda Seyderhelm inspires and encourages parents with unique insights. Amanda is a recognised expert in the field of innovative play therapy and she shares extremely valuable practical tips on how we can help our children though this time. 

Find more information about Amanda on her website as well as on her social media pages below.

www.amandaseyderhelm.com

Twitter @TheKidDecoder

Instagram @AmandaSeyderhelm

Anxiety is natural and normal, but it also has the potential to take over our lives. It is important for us as parents to help our children manage their anxiety. Dr Watkins shares how we as parents can help our children during the time of Covid, when and how we should intervene and what we can today to help our children manage their anxiety

Harvard Medical School professor Dr Gene Beresin helps us to make sense of children of all ages’ anger outbursts & tantrums and shares practical and easy to implement techniques that could change the dynamics of the interactions with your child

The remarkable and inspiring Dr Beresin is a professor of psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School and executive director of the Clay Centre for Young Healthy Minds at Massachusetts General Hospital 

This conversation will help you to understand your children better and empower you with really practical tools you can use to help your children manage their anger and could have a profound impact on your parenting.

Helping our children to love reading is one of the greatest gifts we can give them.

This week I am joined by Dr Sonia Cabell, Associate Professor in the School of Teacher Education and the Florida Center for Reading Research at Florida State University. Her research is funded by the Institute of Education Sciences, research arm of the U.S. Department of Education, and investigates best practices in early language and literacy instruction. In this episode she shares why reading is so important and how we as parents can help our children succeed in literacy.