Everyone has a different definition of success, failure, happiness, sadness, and even for love and hatred, etc. We often get into conversations with others and tend to prove that we are better off than them. We try to fit ourselves or our kids into their definitions, without knowing their story or considering our own. Everyone has a life filled with different situations of opportunities and failures, people evolve with these situations. We must avoid such comparisons as these result in undue social pressure and anxiety. Moreover, this is not good for kids as then they feel under pressure.
Take examples - if I’m talking about dogs. I might be in turn talking about German Shorthair. You might be talking about a German Shepherd. So, things are different for different people. For someone success could be to earn a two-time meal and have some savings; for someone else, it could be to have a luxurious life. Do not get lured and try to fit your own self or feel demotivated when you don’t succeed as per their definition.
Your story is different.