Double Life

We’re talking all about friendships in your 20s — and how no one really prepares you for how much they change. Whether it’s the school friends you haven’t messaged in months, the ones who now live halfway across the world, or the new people you’re trying to connect with while juggling work, marriage, or motherhood — it’s a lot. And no one talks about how emotionally confusing it can be.

In this episode, we’re sharing the small things we’re doing to actually keep in touch — like sending memes, making space for voice notes instead of FaceTimes, and learning how to show love in quiet, low-maintenance ways. We also get real about the guilt, the overwhelm, and how sometimes the biggest shift is just being more intentional.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Are we still even friends?” — this one’s for you.

00:00 Introduction

0:58 Why friendships in your 20s feel so different

2:32 The mental load of keeping up with everyone

4:45 What we can learn from how men stay in touch

6:55 The guilt of not reaching out — and how we’re handling it

8:50 Living life with friends, not just catching them up

10:00 Building real connection without being in the same room

11:37 Old friends, new seasons — and letting friendships evolve

13:28 Social media friendships vs. real-life connection

15:00 When your friends become mums, wives, or just really busy

17:10 Replacing the “catch up dump” with shared memories

18:45 Making space for friendship in a full life

20:06 Doing life together vs. updating each other

21:39 Being intentional — even when you don’t have the time

23:00 Ending the cycle of guilt and showing up in small ways

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In this episode, we unpack the guilt, shame, and emotional friction that come with changing your mind—especially when it comes to your job, relationships, or life direction.

From navigating commitment issues to knowing when you’ve outgrown a space, we reflect on our own experiences with leaving corporate jobs, pivoting careers, and building enough self-belief to take a different path.

We explore the pressure to stay put, the generational baggage around quitting, and the deep personal work it takes to trust your own intuition.

Whether you’re contemplating a job change, leaving a relationship, or just feeling stuck, this episode will help you reframe what it means to “quit”—and see it instead as a radical act of self-trust.

Perfect for high-achieving women who are tired of living on autopilot and ready to choose themselves, even when it feels scary.

Keywords: quitting job guilt, changing your mind career, how to know when to leave, corporate to self-employed, outgrowing environments, commitment issues, feminine energy, self-belief, first-born daughters, emotional trauma healing

00:00 Introduction

01:12 Are we failures for changing our minds?

04:48 The guilt of leaving when you’ve invested time

08:42 Pressure, people-pleasing, and autonomy

12:09 Recognising you’ve outgrown your environment

14:27 The fear of becoming your boss

17:32 Shrinking yourself to stay in the wrong room

19:41 Self-belief and walking away from “safe” spaces

23:10 The leap from corporate to self-employed

26:30 Why trusting yourself is the foundation of change

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Hosts:

⁠@farahrajax⁠

⁠@devamsha⁠

There’s so much pressure these days to have a side hustle. Whether it’s content creation, digital businesses or ‘making the most of your time’, it can feel like just working your 9–5 isn’t enough. But is constantly chasing extra income really the answer?

In this week’s episode of Double Life, we explore a different path — one that prioritises joy, purpose and personal growth over monetisation. We chat about the power of hobbies and how they actually shape the kind of mindset that creates long-term financial wellbeing. From learning a language to picking up the piano again, we unpack how doing things just for you can give you more peace, confidence and even better money habits over time.

If you're a firstborn daughter battling hyper-independence, trying to shift from survival to softness, or craving a life that’s rich in more ways than one — this one’s for you.

00:00 Introduction – The pressure to hustle and why we're questioning it
01:54 Why our generation feels the need to do more than just a 9–5
03:37 Are hobbies a substitute for side hustles?
05:20 Making time (and money) for joy – even when hobbies cost
06:52 Shifting from survival mode to doing things just because they feel good
08:57 Budgeting for hobbies like you would investments
10:45 The mindset shift hobbies bring: discipline, patience, purpose
13:49 The invisible link between hobbies and long-term wealth
15:25 Hobbies as a starting point if you’re still figuring things out
17:00 For the multi-passionate girlies – balancing fulfilment and income
18:42 Final thoughts – why purpose doesn’t always have to be profitable

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Hosts:

⁠@farahrajax⁠

⁠@devamsha⁠

This episode is a healing reminder for every high-achieving, hyper-independent woman who feels like she’s falling behind.

We unpack the shame that comes from comparison, the emotional weight of “not doing enough,” and the invisible hurdles that make your journey harder—but also more meaningful.

From dealing with family trauma to unlearning survival mode, we open up about how our early years shaped our timelines and why success doesn’t have to be fast to be worthy.

We talk about the quiet grief of late bloomers, the resentment you sometimes feel even after achieving your goals, and the internal battles you fight that no one sees.

If you’ve ever looked at someone younger and wondered, “Why not me?”—this episode will validate, reframe, and ground you.

Keywords: emotional healing, late bloomer, self-growth, feminine energy, comparison trap, eldest daughter struggles, financial healing, mindset shifts, self-worth, soft life, spiritual self-development, trauma-informed growth

00:00 The TikTok quote that sparked this conversation

2:20 Why we feel “behind” when we’re actually healing

4:00 The invisible weight of growing up in survival mode

6:02 Comparing yourself to people with a head start

8:12 The regret of learning key lessons later in life

10:01 What privilege actually looks like behind the scenes

12:40 Why success doesn’t feel the same for everyone

14:23 How to stop downplaying your own achievements

16:35 Turning comparison into inspiration (without guilt)

18:40 Practicing gratitude without bypassing your feelings

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Hosts:

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⁠@devamsha⁠

In this episode of Double Life, we go deep on what it actually means to build wealth in your 20s and 30s — especially when you’re doing it with intention, strategy, and softness.

We break down the myths around saving vs. investing, and get honest about our own financial journeys — from credit card debt to six-figure net worth goals.

You’ll hear us unpack how we’ve navigated investing in assets like property, index funds, and even crypto (with some wins and a few losses too). We talk about net worth, feminine energy in finances, and how to use lazy girl investing to fund your rich girl lifestyle — without burnout or constant hustle.

If you’re a hyper-independent woman learning how to make your money work harder (not you), or navigating the shift from chaos to clarity in your financial world — this episode will give you the strategy and mindset shift you need to start.

00:00 Introduction

4:01 What “wealth” really means to us

7:00 Is your house actually an asset or a liability?

10:56 Why assets should pay for your lifestyle

14:24 The power of index funds and lazy investing

19:44 Our mistakes in crypto + lessons learned

22:55 Investing in trends: how to spot the next big thing

26:58 How net worth changed our mindset on wealth

30:38 Why investing early is your biggest flex

35:40 From negative to positive net worth: our blueprint

37:00 Setting real, tangible financial goals (and hitting them)

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Hosts:

⁠@farahrajax⁠

⁠@devamsha⁠

We left the corporate world to live the dream — full creative freedom, our own hours, being our own boss.

But no one talks about what gets lost in that process.In this episode, we unpack the surprising parts of corporate life we genuinely miss as self-employed creators — from the emotional safety net of structure, to the everyday feedback loops that helped us stay grounded.

We talk about the mental and emotional shifts that happen when you go from career girl to creator, and how we’re now trying to rebuild that sense of support and stability without sacrificing our freedom.

If you’ve ever felt unmotivated, emotionally scattered, or quietly nostalgic for your old office job — this one’s for you.

00:00 Introduction

2:18 Why We Really Left Corporate

6:40 The Unexpected Things We Miss About 9-5 Life

10:55 The Stability of Structure (and How We Took It for Granted)

16:13 Coworker Banter, Shared Goals & Instant Feedback

21:45 Rebuilding Emotional Support Systems as Creators

27:02 Freedom Is Great, But You Still Need Boundaries

31:50 Finding a New Rhythm in Your Creator Era

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We’re unpacking the physical effects of growing up in a dysfunctional household and how the body stores trauma long after you’ve emotionally “moved on.”

From burnout to adrenal fatigue, muscle tension to digestive issues—this is the side of trauma we don’t talk about enough.

This isn’t just about childhood memories. It’s about how your body has carried the weight of emotional chaos, parentification, and high-stakes expectations.

We speak directly to the eldest daughters who had to grow up too fast, who struggle to rest, and who are just now learning what safety actually feels like in their own bodies.

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Is traveling in your 20s a smart investment in life experience—or a fast track to having less?

In this episode, we break down the ultimate dilemma: should you spend more money exploring the world while you’re young, and how do you get out of a scarcity mindset when it comes to travelling and spending money on this in our 20s?

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Hosts:

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⁠@devamsha⁠

Leaving the security of a 9-5 paycheque changes your entire relationship with money—trust us, we’ve been there.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the real shifts in money mindset that happen when you go from a structured salary to unpredictable income streams.

We get honest about how our personal and business finances evolved, why investing got harder (or easier?), and how we’re managing our money now as entrepreneurs.

Whether you’re self-employed, thinking about quitting your job, or just trying to be smarter with money, this conversation is packed with insights.

Plus, we talk about charging your worth, navigating financial fears, and why tracking your spending might be the one habit that changes everything.

00:00 Introduction

04:15 Separating Business Money vs. Personal Finances

10:42 The Shock of Leaving a 9-5 & Losing a Salary

18:30 The Biggest Money Mistakes We Made After Quitting

24:55 Investing Strategies: What’s Working & What’s Not

31:40 Charging Your Worth & Getting Paid What You Deserve

38:12 The Importance of Tracking Your Money (And Why We Stopped)

45:50 Why Budgeting Looks Different as an Entrepreneur

51:30 Final Thoughts – What We’d Do Differently

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In celebration of International Women’s Day, we’re diving into how the role of women has evolved—and the pressure that comes with it.

Decades ago, many of us wouldn’t have been legally allowed to own property, run businesses, or even open bank accounts. Now, we’re expected to be multi-hyphenates—balancing careers, entrepreneurship, and home life seamlessly.

But is this truly freedom, or just a new kind of pressure? We explore the realities of financial independence, the struggle of traditional expectations, and whether the modern woman really can ‘have it all.’

Chapter List:

00:00 Introduction

03:45 The Evolution of Women’s Roles: Then vs. Now

10:22 Why Women Are More Multi-Hyphenate Today

18:05 The Challenges of Balancing Business, Career & Home Life

26:17 The Hidden Expectations Women Still Face

33:40 Why Female-Led Businesses Struggle To Get Funding

41:55 Feminine Energy, Work-Life Balance & Avoiding Burnout

49:12 Final Thoughts: Are We Really More Free?