Down To Earth with the Burucharas

In today's episode, we're grateful to have Israel Ramos, a long-time friend and mentor. We sought out him and his wife Judy to be part of our pre-marital counseling and are still benefiting from those meaningful discussions! In this interview, we discuss two radical perspectives on commitment and further explore different reasons people, particularly men, struggle with commitment in their relationships as well as:- the impacts of porn on commitment in relationships- advice to men hesitat...

FOMO is one of those millennial-esque terms; but we don't believe its experience is reserved for Millennials or even this decade. The fear of missing out can negatively impact our decisions and frames of mind, especially in the realm of relationships. In this episode, we dive into two kinds of FOMO, how it can impact even our closest relationships, and how to have a more balanced view of what we have and what we're striving for.--------------------------------We're eager to hear your thoughts...

In today's episode, we share about the stage of our relationship between confessing our feelings for each other and becoming official/starting to date. Instead of taking our mutual feelings as a guarantee we should be in a romantic relationship, we decided to begin an intentional friendship. Through our experience and insights we gleaned from others, we delve into:- How we confessed our feelings for each other- The purpose of an intentional friendship- The ideal length of an intentional frien...

In this episode, we welcome (Auntie) Ruth Matoya to share her wealth of meaningful experience helping others as a licensed counseling psychologist. Sometimes we think counseling is the place we go when we're on the way out — we only go to counseling as a last resort if nothing else works. Instead, Auntie Ruth demystifies both the purpose and the long-term effects of counseling. Join us as we explore common questions such as:- What is the difference between counseling and therapy? Does it matt...

Why do we sometimes tell people "yes" when we really want to say "no"? Why do we sometimes get mad at people for asking for our time? And who are these mythical people that seem to be so in control of their time, have no problem with telling people no, and yet are still kind about it? The answers to all of these questions center around boundaries. There are so many relational heartaches and obstacles when we don't have strong boundaries; in fact, we can even hurt ourselves without anyone...

On this episode, we delve into that awkward space between friendship and something more: where you're starting to develop feelings, but aren't sure if the other person feels the same, or what you should do at that point, and the anxiety can be high! We share that phase of our relationship, how it came about, and how it felt for us at the time. We then focus on one of the biggest causes of heartache and misunderstanding in this phase: trifling. What is trifling and how do you avoid it? Wh...

In today’s episode, we are excited to welcome Justin Kim, a colleague, friend, mentor, and Old Testament timeline aficionado (Callie insisted on putting that in). Justin shares how leaving a position at Harvard and drastically switching career trajectories impacted his relationship search during his 20s. Through both personal experience and learned principles, he also shares about:Being set up with someone and how we can be more open to itThe importance of self-awareness in assessing your rea...

We all want to have healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful relationships — so why do sabotage them? It definitely takes two people to create a wonderful relationship, but sometimes its failure has little to do with the other person and a lot to do with us. Why is that? What are we so afraid of? And more importantly, how can we stop allowing these fears to sabotage our relationships?In this episode, we take a closer look at common fears we allow to hurt our relationships as well as the underlying...

One of the most common questions couples receive is…“So, how did you two meet?” We love answering this question, mostly because it’s not what people expect — it also depends on who they ask: David gives a great summary, and Callie excels in the details. On this episode, join us as we share more about our story, and as we discuss key questions such as:Were we soulmates? What defines a soulmate?Is it okay to meet people online?Did we experience love at first sight? Is that a real thi...

In today's episode, we are excited to welcome Sikhu Daco, a good friend and theology buff. She shares about her years of marvelous contentedness as a single woman, while still being open and searching for a relationship; and accomplishing both while living out her purpose.Living in a romantic-relationship-centric society, we are often bombarded with the idea that our value and identity are determined by a spouse (or lack thereof). Sikhu wisely breaks down the heart of the issue and speaks to ...