Every family has some defining characteristics, qualities or attributes that the family is known for. 1 Peter describes the church as God's family, and 1 Peter 4:7-11 provides 3 key defining characteristics of that family: Loving one another, showing hospitality to one another, and serving one another. The link that Abe talks about in his message, http://www.somatacoma.org/teaching-audio/2014/11/19/jesus-relationships-how-do-we-resolve-conflict