Sex language miscommunication is a contributing factor of sexless marriages. Sex languages are often misunderstood. This simply means that you don't know your partner or spouse's sex language and they don't know yours! This leads to sexual disconnects since you don't know how to best love on them!
We tend to give sex in the way we want sex. Your partner or spouse is almost never the same sex language as yourself, so you both aren't connecting the best way sexually. Understanding sex languages will help you have better and more fulfilling sex!
The five sex languages are:
1. Fun - This person wants sex and fun in different positions and environments in sexually fun ways.
2. Desire - This person wants to be wanted and desired sexually, emotionally, and relationally.
3. Pleasure - This person wants to understand and maximize pleasure zones and duration.
4. Patience - This person wants to patiently make time for things like touch, foreplay, and sex.
5. Celebration - This person wants to know you accept and celebrate all of them as a sexual person.
Finding out and understanding your partner or spouse's sex language helps fight sexlessness. The easiest way to understand a sex language is to ASK THEM. Just say, "Hey, what makes sex great for you? What do you enjoy about it? What makes it amazing?" Then share what makes it great for you. This leads to a mutual sexual understanding and better sex.
This video is from the Sexless and Married DVD by Dr. Doug Weiss. You can buy the full DVD here: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/sexless-married-dvd/
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