How Much Truth Do You Really Need?

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”

After betrayal, you might feel desperate to know everything. Who was she? How long did it last? What happened? Did he love her? Is he finally telling you everything?

And at the exact same time, you might desperately wish you could unknown all of it.

You want yesterday back. You want your memories back. You want a business trip to just be a business trip. You want your marriage, your husband, and your reality back.

That push-pull is one of the hardest parts of betrayal: Tell me everything. Please don't tell me that.

But how much truth do you really need?

In this episode, we're talking about the difference between truth and certainty, why some information is essential for your health, safety, finances, and decision-making, and why knowing one more detail doesn't necessarily make you feel safer.

I'm also sharing a deeply personal moment from about 18 months after discovery, when I realized there was one question I had never asked my husband. When I finally asked it, his answer was painful. But instead of destroying me, the truth gave me something real to stand on.

Because eventually, the most important question may no longer be, “What else don't I know about him?”

It may be: What is true for me now?

Top 3 Takeaways

Favorite Quotes

“Maybe the truth that ultimately sets you free isn't finally knowing everything he did. Maybe it's finally knowing what you're going to do with what you know.”

If FLAUNT! has helped you through betrayal, make sure you're subscribed, and please leave a quick comment or review. Even one sentence about what the show has meant to you can help another woman find the support she needs.

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/

If you’re ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let’s talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. 

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.

After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.

A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.

She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT 

READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you’ve always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It’s a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!

Gaea Star Crystal Radio Hour #685 is an hour of visionary, improvised acoustic music played dynamically by The Gaea Star Band with Mariam Massaro on vocals, harmonica, Native flute, mandolin, ukulele, acoustic guitar, mandolin and dulcimer, Bob Sherwood on piano and Craig Harris on congas and Native drum. Recorded live at Singing Brook Studio in Worthington, Massachusetts in late August of 2026, today’s show begins with the mystical, slow rocker “Oh The Glory Of Another Day”, a mesmerizing piece led by Craig’s fundamental low drum pulse and Mariam’s chiming dulcimer before easing into the languid, aching “Standing Ones Of Peace”, a pretty love ballad with a fine, leaping melody from Mariam and fine accompaniment from the whole ensemble. “Open Every Day” is a Ray Charles-like blues with hypnotic piano motifs and rocking solo harmonica from Mariam and “Smile” is a beautiful folk song led by Mariam’s rhythmic ukulele strumming and dancing, wide-intervaled melody. “Happy I Am” is another powerfully mesmerizing, mystical piece, this time framed by Mariam’s chiming mandolin and a deep, booming piano motif from Bob that subcommunicates a deeply buried, obscured power in contrast with Mariam’s gossamer, dancing melody. “Soldaygo” is a lush, meditative prayer featuring gorgeous Native flute passages from Mariam and Craig’s heartbeat Native drum. Today’s hour finishes with an energized, rhythmic medley of two songs from Mariam, “Always In Love” and “Sailing Down The Waves Of Life”, close the show with a powerful, driving groove supported by steady conga work from Craig.

Learn more about Mariam here: http://www.mariammassaro.com

Sheryl Glick host of Healing From Within Interviews Betsy Whitfill who has been hosting a meditation group in Dallas, Texas since 1985. She is a writer for Share International Magazine on subjects revolving around the awareness of the interconnectedness and interdependence of all people, and the importance of that awareness for the future of humanity. Sheryl and Betsy will discuss the momentous opportunity based on the choices that are presenting themselves to us and discovering whether we are able to live in peace, and ensure a future for humanity to evolve, mature and understand their potential as spiritual beings to live with universal wisdom and to create heaven on earth. Many people are working towards establishing a worldwide community based on our highest aspirations for freedom for a wholesome environment for purposeful living and for co-cooperation. https://share-international.org/

Learn more about Sheryl here: http://www.sherylglick.com/

Life, Loss and Legacy: 25 Years After September 11th

In this special episode of Her Health Compass, we reflect on September 11th through a deeply personal story, but with a broader purpose: to explore what grief, trauma, resilience, caregiving, memory and legacy can teach all of us.

HHC’s co-host  Heather, shares her family’s experience of that day and the 25 years that followed, including the loss of her brother-in-law Todd Ouida, the survival of her father-in-law Herb, the devastating losses within the Cantor Fitzgerald community where her husband and brother-in-law worked, and the ways those experiences continued to shape family life long after the world moved on.

The conversation reaches beyond September 11 itself to the questions at the heart of Her Health Compass: How do we live alongside grief? How do we support someone through pain we cannot fix? What does survivor’s guilt look like? How do we carry people forward without being defined only by losing them? And how can loss, over time, become connected to purpose, service and legacy?

It is a conversation about remembering, showing up, living fully, and ultimately making the time we are given count.

http://www.mybuddytodd.org/

https://www.cantorrelief.org/

https://www.jerseyshorebooks.com/product-page/the-noble-one

Find Yonni & Heather here https://www.herhealthcompass.com/

Why the Nervous System holds a Key to Lasting Transformation~ Somatic Wellness practice founded by Mia Gyesky

In this episode of Her Health Compass, we explore somatic healing, why the nervous system holds a key to lasting transformation, and how breathwork can become one of the most powerful tools you never knew you had. We also talk about grief, life transitions, and what it really means to heal - or at least to begin.

Feather & Fern is an evidence-informed somatic wellness practice founded by Mia Gyesky, dedicated to helping people reconnect with themselves through the wisdom of the body. By blending nervous system education, breathwork, mindfulness, creative expression, and embodied practices, Mia creates experiences that help people move beyond simply understanding their stories to truly transforming how they feel and live.

Drawing on both science and soul, her work supports individuals in regulating their nervous systems, healing from grief, trauma, stress, and life transitions, and rediscovering their authentic voice. Whether working with adults, children, schools, or organizations, Mia's approach is grounded, compassionate, and deeply experiential—creating the safety needed for lasting change.

At the heart of Feather & Fern is a simple belief: healing isn't about becoming someone new; it's about remembering who you've always been.

Bio: 

Feather & Fern is an evidence-informed somatic wellness practice founded by Mia Gyesky, dedicated to helping people reconnect with themselves through the wisdom of the body. By blending nervous system education, breathwork, mindfulness, creative expression, and embodied practices, Mia creates experiences that help people move beyond simply understanding their stories to truly transforming how they feel and live.

Drawing on both science and soul, her work supports individuals in regulating their nervous systems, healing from grief, trauma, stress, and life transitions, and rediscovering their authentic voice. Whether working with adults, children, schools, or organizations, Mia's approach is grounded, compassionate, and deeply experiential—creating the safety needed for lasting change.

At the heart of Feather & Fern is a simple belief: healing isn't about becoming someone new; it's about remembering who you've always been.

Find Yonni & Heather here https://www.herhealthcompass.com/

No Way but Forward: Life Stories of Three Families in the Gaza Strip, author Brian K. Barber

Understanding the human impact of the Israeli-Palestinian situation through personal stories, offering a vital and much-needed perspective for academics, NGOs, policymakers, and human rights advocates

Brian Barber’s tender witnessing of these extraordinary lives provides a window into a world of suffering and survival that few of us would have the privilege to know without his dedication and profound service to these friendships.”

Survival, Resilience, and Hope: Life Stories from the Gaza Strip

Brian K. Barber, a finalist for the IAN Book Awards of the Year, presents No Way but Forward: Life Stories of Three Families in the Gaza Strip. It is an extraordinary memoir that offers an in-depth look at the personal experiences of three Palestinian families living under the crushing weight of occupation and conflict.

A Raw and Personal Account of Life Under Siege

Gaza: A Place of Conflict, Yet Hope and Family Endure

The Aftermath of October 7th, 2023: A New Chapter in Survival

Why This Book Is a Must-Read?

Bio: BRIAN K. BARBER, PhD, is a non-resident senior scholar at the Middle East Policy Council, a senior fellow at the Institute for Palestine Studies, and professor emeritus at the University of Tennessee. He currently lives in Washington, DC. Barber’s work has addressed how context—from parenting to political systems—impacts individual and social development. Barber is the editor of Adolescents and War: How Youth Deal with Political Conflict (Oxford University Press, 2008), among other books. For the past thirty years, he has researched more than ten thousand Palestinian families in the West Bank, East Jerusalem, and the Gaza Strip. His published articles have appeared in The Lancet, Social Science & Medicine, Global Public Health, PLOS ONE, Child Development, the Journal of Adolescent Research, and other journals. Barber’s commentaries have appeared in Haaretz, CNN.com, Informed Comment, Counterpunch, and Middle East Policy. His most recent book is No Way but Forward: Life Stories of Three Families in the Gaza Strip. https://bkbarber.com/

Call In and Chat with Deborah during Live Show: 833-220-1200 or 319-527-2638

Learn more about Deborah here:  www.lovebyintuition.com

Kelli Melissa Reinhardt: What If One Conversation Could Save a Life?

September is National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and in this powerful and deeply personal episode of the Make Mental Health Matter Show, host Kelli Melissa Reinhardt opens an important conversation about suicide prevention, self-injury, caregiving, and the difference each of us can make in someone else's life.

After kicking things off with a little Labor Day humor, including the irony that many of our hardworking laborers still have to work on Labor Day, Kelli turns to a topic that has touched her life personally and profoundly.

Drawing from her own experiences with her sister, two cousins, and her personal history with cutting when she was younger, Kelli shares why recognizing the signs that someone may be struggling matters. She talks about what to look for, what we can say, how to start difficult conversations, and why simply listening without trying to fix everything can be one of the most powerful ways to support someone.

Kelli also breaks down the difference between suicidal behavior and Non-Suicidal Self-Injury, or NSSI, helping remove some of the misconceptions surrounding self-injury while sharing part of her own story.

But supporting others can take a toll, too. This episode also explores the importance of caring for ourselves as caregivers, setting boundaries, finding support, and remembering that we cannot pour endlessly from an empty cup.

This isn't just an episode about suicide awareness. It's about connection. It's about paying attention. It's about having conversations we may be afraid to have. And it's about understanding that you don't have to be a mental health professional to listen, care, ask the question, and help connect someone to support.

You never know when one conversation, one question, or one person choosing to stay and listen could make all the difference.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis in the U.S., call or text 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If there is immediate danger, contact emergency services in your area.

Together, we can create conversations that save lives and #MakeMentalHealthMatter.

Find ways to help yourself and others here: 

Crisis support: https://www.mmhm.org/crisis-support

After an attempt: https://www.mmhm.org/support-after-suicide-attempt-family-guide

After a suicide: https://www.mmhm.org/after-a-suicide-support

Supporting Youth Mental Health: https://www.mmhm.org/supporting-youth-mental-health

Kelli’s links:

https://www.youtube.com/@MakeMentalHealthMatter 

Want to find out when the next incredible episode of Make Mental Health Matter show is dropping? Sign up for the Make Mental Health Matter newsletter for special tips, and insider only offers. Click HERE to sign up today!

Need more resources?

www.makementalhealthmatter.org

 https://linktr.ee/makementalhealthmatter

 The Mystery Beneath Consciousness: A Journey into Photobiomodulation with Peter Adams Part 2

What if healing the brain could be as simple as light? In this episode of Surviving the Human Experience, Kristin Aurelia sits down with Peter Adams, VP of Vielight, to explore the fascinating and still-unfolding science of photobiomodulation — how specific wavelengths of light interact with the brain to support cognition, mood, and neurological health. We dive into the mechanisms behind this emerging therapy, what current brain research reveals, and how meditation and light-based practices may work together to unlock deeper states of awareness and healing. Whether you’re a scientist, a skeptic, or simply curious about the mysteries of the human mind, this conversation offers a fresh lens on consciousness, the brain, and the human experience.

Interested in learning more about the research and information Peter Adams shared in this episode? Go to https://www.vielight.com.

Interested in ordering the Neuro Duo 4 or Neuro Duo with Vagus Nerve Stimulator that Kristin mentioned in today’s episode that she has been using to support her wellness journey? You can order yours at  https://www.vielight.com. Enter code: AURELIAK26VL when ordering to receive a 10% discount!

Learn more about Kristin here:

Connecting with She Wise Wellness:

Are Fear-Based Approaches Making Our Schools Less Safe?

What if some of the things we’re doing to make our schools safer are actually making them less safe?

That’s the uncomfortable question at the heart of my conversation with school safety expert Dr. David Riedman, creator of the K–12 School Shooting Database. As the mother of a six-year-old murdered at Sandy Hook Elementary School, I have spent nearly 14 years thinking about school safety. And I’ve become convinced that we need to ask harder questions not just about how we respond when violence happens, but how we prevent a child from ever getting to the point of wanting to hurt themselves or someone else. David has spent years studying the data, and what he’s finding challenges some of the conventional wisdom about school safety.

Here’s where our conversation gets really interesting. Have we become so focused on protecting kids from danger that we’re unintentionally taking away some of the things that help protect them in the first place? Connection. Belonging. Community. Independence. Real-world relationships.

David challenges the billions spent on hardening schools and asks whether some fear-based measures actually create unintended consequences. Even more concerning, he describes a disturbing new phenomenon he calls “influencer extremism,” where vulnerable young people who don’t feel seen or valued in the real world can find recognition, belonging and even status in online communities that glorify violence.

This conversation changed the way I think about school safety and I think it will challenge you, too. Because keeping our kids safe can’t only be about locks, cameras, drills and what happens after a threat emerges. We have to look upstream. We have to create places where kids feel connected, valued, empowered and hopeful. And most importantly, we have to be willing to question what we’re doing when the evidence tells us it isn’t working. If you’re a parent, educator, administrator or simply care about the future of our children, please listen to this conversation. School safety belongs to all of us, and we can all be part of the solution.

Learn more About Scarlett here: https://chooselovemovement.org/

Reseeding Native Habitat

with guest Sue Theriault, Vice President of the Rhode Island Wild Plant Society (RIWPS)

Wild plant collectives across the Northeast are propagating native plants to restore native ecosystems with healthy genetic diversity. Insects, birds, and other local wildlife co-evolved with native plants and rely on them for survival. Many specialized insects need specific native plants to complete their life cycles. For example, Monarch butterfly larvae will only eat the leaves of milkweeds.

Ecotypic seeds are especially important because they come from plants genetically adapted to the local soil, climate, and environmental conditions of an ecoregion. Conservation groups like the Rhode Island Wild Plant Society (RIWPS) use ecotypic seeds to repair damaged natural landscapes.

Sue Theriault, Vice President of the RIWPS, shares her expertise in wild plants, ecosystem restoration, and ecotypic seeds. She joined RIWPS in 2018 as a retired middle school science teacher and leads its seed generation program called ReSeeding Rhode Island. She credits the organization and its sages for her new found knowledge and passion for native plants. Over the years Theriault has led the East Bay Seed Starters group and run the plant sales. She keeps busy with outreach, administrative duties, and seed farming, and she offers seed acquisition information and educational resources for teachers, farmers, home gardeners, and wildlife conservationists.

INFORMATION RESOURCES

Learn more about Rhode Island Wild Plant Society

Get Native Seeds and Educational Resources for Northeast Ecoregions

ecotype project seeds in common – https://www.ecotypeproject.org/seeds-in-common

Grow RI Native Seeds (GRINS) – https://sites.google.com/view/growrinativeseeds

Find some Milkweed Learning Activities – Planting Seeds for a Brighter World

Find your Regional Native Plant Society

Follow Reseeding RI on instagram – https://www.instagram.com/reseedingri

Check out these Related Episodes

Lawns into Meadows with Owen Wormser, Landscape Designer, Abound Design – https://dreamvisions7radio.com/rebuilding-biodiversity/

Symbiotic Schoolyard with Janneke Peterson, Founder of Symbiotic Schoolyard

Find The Angel Heart books by Wendy Nadherny Fachon

The Angel Heart: Teacher’s Lesson Plan: 33 Literacy Lessons to Help Grow the Whole Child – https://www.amazon.com/Angel-Heart-Teachers-Literacy-Lessons/dp/1971180556/

The Angel Heart: Student Activity Workbook

Learn more about the Story Walking Radio Hour at https://storywalking.com

Reach Out to Wendy with Comments and Queries

Subscribe to Wendy’s substack to receive notifications of new podcast and product releases –https://substack.com/@wendynadhernyfachon 

Read about DIPG: Eternal Hope Versus Terminal Corruption by Dean Fachon begin to uncover the truth about cancer – https://dipgbook.com/

Subscribe to Wendy’s blog Writing with Wendy at www.wendyfachon.blog.