Practical Ways to Make Friends + Put Yourself Out There

In this episode we talk about how it can be hard to make new friends as an a adult and why. We also chat about making friends in terms of living in the same place versus internationally and give tactical ways to put yourself out there and spark invitations and conversations to make new friends.

NOTES:

- How friendship evolves and why making friends when you're older gets harder.

- Working versus staying at home and how that affects making friends.

- Why it may be hard to make new friends when you live in one place. 

- The perception we have of making friends and how it holds us back.

- Some times you have an establishment to help you make the effort but sometimes it's on you to make the effort.

- How you put yourself out there if you aren't the kind of person who puts themselves out there. 

- Getting out of the friend rut. 

- New friends, new conversations. 

- Some ways to make new friends... 

TAKEAWAYS:

1. Don't Persume (LOL. a word Husband made up) that everyone's busy and ask.

2. You have to make the effort.

3. Find your thing and invite people to join you.

4. Let go of the outcome. Put it out there and don't let a NO mean anything.

5. Putting yourself out there can be hard. Know that. 

6. Be yourself. You want to find people you connect with and that will only happen when you are yourself.

QUICK SHOT QUESTIONL

What Christmas singer would you want to be your roommate? 

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From the Blog Post: How to Make New Friends: 8 Ways to Put Yourself Out There

Welcome to a bonus episode! We do these on some Mondays and on these pint-sized lessons of inspiration, I go into the proverbial wine cellar (aka the blog) and pull out some reader and personal favorites that I think you'll really enjoy. What makes this extra fun is that then on Thursday, Husband and I will be digging into it and pulling out more flavor.

Bonus: if you find any blog posts that you really like, send them our way and we will uncork + feature it on the podcast and give you a shout out! Or send me a message here!!

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In this episode we talk about the difference between inviting someone and truly welcoming them.

NOTES:

- Inviting is easy, welcoming takes more effort.

- Effort + Intentionality is what sets inviting and welcoming apart.

- Welcoming isn't the same thing as having people come over. 

- Don't be a lazy host or make guests do the work.

- Be purposeful about who is coming into your space. 

- Check in with every person. 

- Think about your space and how to make that space work for you.

- Avoid a Set Seating Situation Stagnancy LOL

- Scan the room and see who needs to be welcomed in.

- As a host and human, it's important to see people.

- Seek out those that might have a harder time fitting in. 

- Physically welcome people.

- As an invitee, how can you make yourself feel welcome?

- Find a thing you do well and lead with that —dad jokes, questions, compliments—and then follow up.

TAKEAWAYS:

1. Being purposeful. As the host, it's YOUR job.

2. Space matters.

3. See + seek. 

4. Ask questions to get people to open up. 

QUICK SHOT QUESTION:

What is your favorite fair/carnival food?

And because this sparked a debate... would you say fair or carnival?

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In this episode we talk about prioritizing positivity a concept from Meaghan Murphy's book Your Fully Charged Life. It's a simple idea that many of us skip. We talk about 

- the difference between trying to be happy versus seeking out the things that naturally bring us joy.

- making a magical wand list -- no limits

- how to prioritize

- what we personally prioritize (think about what YOU would prioritize)

- not trying to prioritize things that other people find joy in but knowing yourself and being true to yourself

Quick Shot Question:

If you could only listen to the same 3 holiday songs, what songs would you choose? 

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We can learn something from any failure. In this episode, we talk about a cocktail we were mixing for one of our monthly Virtual Happy Hours and how it freaking bombed the first time we tried it. Seriously... it was horrible. But that's ok but we learned a few things from that.

Takeaways:

1. Sometimes your first attempt is a failure and you have to switch, tweak, pivot, and restest.

2. You have to have the humility to know that you don't know everything.

3. You never know how something will go/taste/look/be until you try it.

Quick Shot Question: What booze base is your personality? Though Husband breaks rules and chooses something not on topic 😆

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From the Blog Post: I Don't Want a Life of Crumbs and Neither Should You In this episode we talk about how the choice to never settle for less than you deserve is yours alone. 

Jen shares how a past break up made her realize that she didn't want a life of "crumbs", a life where she accepted less that what she was wanted—in any circumstance or relationship. 

Notes: 

- Accepting (and being ok with) less isn't the same as lowering the bar. 

- Knowing the difference between settling versus what you want in the moment. 

- Don't make the phrase "it is what it is" a life sentence. 

Tips + Takeaways: 

1. Think big but start small. Don't try and full plate every aspect of your life at once. You'll get overwhelmed and quit. 

2. Ask yourself, "Am I accepting crumbs or is this the plate I'm happy with?" In non-food terms (LOL) Am I settling or happy with what this "thing" I've chosen? 

3. Choose your "plate" based on your flavors, not what somebody else is putting on me?" 

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From the Blog Post: The Choice to Live Big is Yours So Don't Settle 

Welcome to a bonus episode! We do these on some Mondays and on these pint-sized lessons of inspiration, I go into the proverbial wine cellar (aka the blog) and pull out some reader and personal favorites that I think you'll really enjoy. What makes this extra fun is that then on Thursday, Husband and I will be digging into it and pulling out more flavor. 

Bonus: if you find any blog posts that you really like, send them our way and we will uncork + feature it on the podcast and give you a shout out! 

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Have you ever heard something that instantaneously changed you whole mindset, your whole mood, your whole life? In this episode we talk about a New Year's Theme/Intention I chose some years back based on an interview I saw with Oprah (queeeeen) and Diane Von Furstenberg. DVF said something that changed my mindset completely and I decided that that year my intention would be "It's all a success." It changed every freaking thing. Listen in...

NOTES:

- Our 80's movie choices... as usual I have a few answers. LOL

- Taking it back to a theme a gave my year some time ago.

- As per usual the diving download came from Oprah Magazine and an interview she had with fashion icon, Diane Von Furstenberg and how her negative view of her successes changed the way I look at my whole life.

- It made me take stock of my life and how I was doing that same negative bullshit.

- What if we just look at everything in our life as a success?

- How I stopped nitpicking a situation because of these 4 simple words.

- Improving and making something more successful still starts from a place of success.

- There is never perfection. 

- Mike and a great math metaphor.

- Even experiences that don't go well can be a success if you take something away from it. 

TAKEAWAYS:

1. Stop finding ways to downplay your successes and celebrate them instead!

2. You can improve and want to do better without placing judgement on yourself.

3. Just repeating "It's all a success" can help shift your inner talk.

Quick Shot Question: If you were to live an 80's movie, which would it be?

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From the Blog Post: The Holiday We Should All Be Celebrating Every November (read the post or take a listen to episode 2 or just listen in)

In this episode we talk about the moment I knew that we would forever celebrate Dia de los Muertos, what the holiday has meant to our family but most importantly why it's a holiday you should celebrate too even if you don't live in beautiful Mexico! DO IT!

NOTES:

- Our history with Dia de los Muertos and how our daughter pushed us to put up an altar/ofrenda. (Get the kids involved!)

- Husband makes a BIG statement: in his opinion, it's the best thing about moving to Mexico.

- A quick wrap up of what Dia de los Muertos is and what an altar/ofrenda includes for those who aren't sure what the holiday is about. 

- Dia de los Muertos is the culmination of the beauty and culture of Mexico.

- Stories about the people that have passed and how they help us make sense of our past and who we are.

- As long as we're remembering these people and telling their stories, they remain with us.

- How the ofrenda can spark questions for your kids and help them understand where they came from and also helps you relive the best times with people who have passed.

- Do you relive/tell the bad stories too?

- The whole story matters in understanding who you are.

- Juicy! Mike shares his Kaufman temper.

- Making an altar of your own -- if you can't go big, don't go home. Find an entry point. 

TAKEAWAYS:

1. Stories help you understand who you are and where you come from. Tell your stories.

2. Do it! Make this your holiday and don't let the not knowing stop you from doing it. 

3. Good stories. Bad stories. Both have their place but don't shit talk on Dia de los Muertos. Celebrate!

Quick Shot Question:

If you had to choose a Halloween character to be your roommate, which would you choose? (You can go traditional or specific.)

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