Drop In With Dan

The fear of commitment is a shadow that looms over meaningful relationships, decisions and ultimately:

Our successes in life long-term.

This shadow strikes hardest when we are closer to fulfilling the true yearning inside our hearts.

In fact the greater the resistance, the higher likelihood that it will fulfil your needs, purpose & growth.

I've learnt in my relationship:

The harder it strikes, the more it truly meets your needs, and that person is deeply in love with you.

Here's what you need to know...

(It’s all in this episode):

The closer we come to breakthrough.

To fulfilling our deepest yearnings within.

The harder the shadow will strike you.

It grips, holds, pulls, pushes and does anything it can subtlety; in an attempt to keep you back.

Back from experiencing again what hurt you, what let you down and failed you before.

But it also doesn’t allow meaningful relationships to flourish, it limits your success and impact on others.

The shadow is pain, evidence and energy of something anchored in the past, preventing a future opening of greater fulfilment & prosperity.

I’ve moved through the full spectrum of grief, shame and everything in-between with this shadow.

I still work with this fickle bastard to this day.

But the best part is you can overcome it, and when you do life opens up in all domains. 

You can’t skip the process, what is repressed will return.

New level, new devil.

The good news is you can overcome this to thrive.

Men are allowed to have wayward emotions.

But to what point & for how long until it controls his life?

Confidence is when you know how to communicate & emotionally regulate yourself as a man.

In relationship, you can do one or two things:

1. React, overthink, overanalyse, disconnect.

2. Regulate, hold space, communicate, connect.

There is NO neutrality in intimacy with your woman, or your purpose in the world.

You're either connecting or disconnecting.

In this episode I vulnerable openly up and explore the landscape with you.

I position a common scenario and how to navigate it, without disconnect.

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Bad communication ends a lot of good things.

Good communication ends a lot of bad things.

Good communication is a fundamental skill that can positively impact various aspects of life.

In almost 13 years as a full-time entrepeneur working intimately people.

With a string of epic highs and crushing lows.

As a married man in a healthy relationship.

With long trail of relationship troubles, heartbreak & lessons.

As a father-to-be, a friend, and mentor to many.

Who has always valued the relationship first.

As someone living a life by my own design.

Living with creative control of my time & energy.

I want to share one idea with you that will serve you well across a lifetime, and aid you in your successes & ease across all domains.

IDEA:

Your Communication & Articulation is The Highest Value Asset.

STORY:

I’ve been so far out of balance with myself, that I've lived most of my life from childhood with hypervigiliance. Today it is my power, but not so long ago it was my prison.

It lead me to an identity crisis, in the midst of heartbreak; without the skills to get me right. I was so highly attuned to the thoughts, emotions, non-verbal communication and energy of others. That I was running my own life outside my own frame, without control.

What I did learn from these anxious years of my life, is just HOW important it is to get our communication with others on point. Because I got to deeply understand human behaviour.

I could sense what people were going through, I could see into the nature of their thinking, and I did everything I could to assist others (whilst betraying myself) to tend to their thoughts & emotions.

This was actually a healthy response to an unsafe inner child. But when it came to being in alignment with my own thoughts, emotions, needs, values and word. I was actually losing personal power.

Healing and deeply understanding myself, allowed me to become a fluent communicator, with a greater depth of empathy to understand other people.

This is the most important thing to note because all human beings long to be seen and understood on deeper levels.

Most of us listen to people to respond, but those who are masters of communication, understand that good communication is actually good listening.

I came to learn first hand that:

Good Communication Is The Bridge.

Between Clarity and Confusion.

Clear is kind, unclear is unkind.

And Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony - Ghandi

The predicament is that money means so much to all of us, and It’s actually an easier game, than it often feels.

Our relationship to money determines the quality of our life (whether we like that or not).

In this explorative conversational episode I sit down with wealth coach and owner of StrategiQ advisory Ryan Bultitude.

He is a certified practising accountant and registered financial advisor, with a healthy business, partnerships and a property portfolio.

Ryan turns up in this episode to go deep with Dan.

We explore the in’s and out’s of financial literacy (IQ) and the importance of emotional intelligence in money (EQ).

The predicament is that money means so much to all of us. Often we experience so many emotions around money, that it feels easier to sweep our concerns and worry under the rug.

We have times where we don’t want to address it.

That’s when the E.Q - Emotional Intelligence is so important around money and ultimately ourselves.

Just as it was in both of our painful experiences that we go into.

If we can have an equilibrium point between the IQ & EQ, where:

1. You feel competent to invest and grow your knowledge, so we can make good decisions.

2. You can work on your own temperament, fear and limitations around money.

You can keep it on a level playing field and give yourself the best chance to continue to move forward.

When it’s really in check and able to flow, you will prosper.

The outcome at the end of the day is a life you love, doing things you love doing, with freedom from money concerns.

- TIMESTAMPS -

0:36 Intro & Welcoming

3:40 Ryan’s Background

5:30 What is Money IQ? (Financial Literacy) 

8:45 Dan Had $50,000 In Cash Stolen (The Turning Point)

9:35 What Is Peoples Resistance Around Money About?

11:36 Wealth & Money Mindset (How to Approach It)

14:26 WHY Money EQ (Emotional Intelligence + Mindset) Is Key

20:46 Fear Is Ok, But It Doesn’t Control The State

22:00 The Difference Between Money & Wealth

25:20 Fulfilment & Financial Freedom Perspective

27:52 Work Out What Wealth Means To You

32:00 The Subconscious - What You Think & Feel You Get

39:38 - Prosperity Is An Inside Job

41:00 - The Economy & Your Own Economics

52:40 - Retirement Is A Lie

The funny thing about the stories that we tell ourselves in our head are that...

Is that most of them are untrue.

We get straight to the point Drop In With Dan.

Straight to the question,

What is the most important story we will tell?

HOW to use the Fascinating Science Behind the Pleasure-Pain Cycle, on the Path to Personal Growth and Success.

'Vikings: Valhalla' Star Sam Corlett Goes Deep Beyond the Actor & Inside of the Character.

He reveals the depth of his mind, and why he is one of the most sort after and admired actors.

This is a behind the scenes masterclass, a deep dive into the aspects of character development with one of Australia's most talented.

Exploring a tapestry of conversation crossing:

• Mindfulness

• Psychology

• The Arts

• Philosophy

• Ritual

• Mastery

• Human Behaviour

He sits down in this warm exchange with Australian Personal Growth Mentor & Speaker Dan Ballard, on a Special Guest Episode of The Drop in With Dan Podcast.

- TIMESTAMPS -

0:00 Intro & Welcoming

3:10 Guided Breathing

9:20 Sam’s Health & Mindfulness Rituals

14:35 Are You Seeking & Exploring?

20:50 What Is The Most Challenging Roles?

26:00 How Do You Get Into Character?

29:25 Know Yourself, The Whole Character

37:10 How To Deal With Stress, Emotional Demands to Strike Balance.

43:10 Honouring Competitive Spirit

44:05 The Etymology of Character

51:00 Peace, Happiness & Being

58:55 The Saints & Sages Over Time Forget Themselves, Over and Over.

59:49 Longterm Happy Relationships

01:02:30 How Did You Get Where You Are?

01:08:30 A Message to The Dreamers

There are no ads to enjoy the conversation.

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This is the NEW intro to the Drop In With Dan Podcast

There's a new look for the Drop in with Dan Podcast.

A new way of doing things...

In this episode I bring you in on the new feel and atmosphere.

And what you can expect moving forward.

An unconventional and proven approach to setting a vision for the year ahead.

This Drop In is all about Vision.

But not in the way that most people approach it.

6-12 months of applied focus, is life changing.

In this drop I will help you understand:

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