Addiction is a horrible, painful situation for both the addict and their loved ones. Find out why addicts lie and how to talk to an addict.
People typically start using substances because of losses. When someone they love dies or leaves them they obviously get very upset and turn to anything that will make them numb. All they want to do is numb the pain of the loss. It could also be the loss of a job or position or the loss of their lifelong pet, but it is the pain that makes them turn to a substance.
Since that is not the correct solution, this ‘solution’ ends up becoming the bigger problem and actually causing more pain. Instead of allowing themselves to grieve and get past the loss they end up in more trouble. And the worst part is that because they don’t go through the grieving process they get ‘stuck’ in the loss.
Their destructive actions lead to loss of self respect and dignity and make them use even more and so it becomes a vicious circle. Even study problems and learning difficulties lead some to substance use. That is still a loss, they fear the loss of a good future of being able to become the person that they really want to be and letting themselves and their families down. They may have already been put on some ‘drug’ by a doctor and labeled. This made them feel inferior and destroyed their self respect little by little. Made them feel less of a person, less able.
Being labeled and given a drug also taught them that that is how you solve problems in life. So the next time they have a problem they turn to a substance of their choosing.
Parents/people fail to see that a drug is a drug. They get confused by the terms ‘legal’ and ‘illegal’. However, the kidneys, the liver, the heart, can’t tell the difference between legal and illegal, where the substance was purchased, how it’s package and the individual that sold it. ALL drugs burn off vitamins in the brain and cause depression.
Whether its drugs or alcohol doesn’t matter, what matters is that the substance they turned to ends up ruing their lives. The more they use the more they have to use, the more pain it actually gives them instead of taking away the pain. Their bodies get used to the amount so they always have to increase it and use more and more.
When the substance ’causes’ more depression and horrible anxiety and mood swings and changes in personality, they seek help from a doctor, who then puts them on ‘more’ drugs. What they really need is real answers to life’s real problems. They need actual solutions, they need ‘life skills’, they need to know how to handle life’s problems and not run away from them.
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