June 17, 1999 marks the day I would’ve been married 23 years. Instead of being embarrassed, I choose to celebrate.
When I got married I thought I was doing it right, but I did it all wrong. In retrospect, I’ve come a long way, and I’m ready to right my wrongs.
Looking back on June 17, 1999…
• We eloped in Vegas instead of waiting for the wedding
• We never received premarital counseling
• I thought in order to be the best husband all I had to do was work hard, love hard, and follow God
• I barely knew who I was and tried to be the best man I could be
• I internalized a lot and my communication was poor
• I did it for love and didn’t understand the lifetime partnership
• I wanted to change her but didn’t change much
• I labeled myself as “damaged goods” after my divorce
• I divorced God after my prayers didn’t fix the problems in my marriage
• I felt like a failure because I couldn’t save my family
• I didn’t love them hoes but I liked the way they made me feel
• I hurt a lot of hearts searching for the unadulterated love I once had
• I didn’t talk to my kids about how I push through the pain. They were hurting too
I’m going to celebrate this day because…
• I invest to appreciate who I am
• Less is in lessons and blessings
• I’m a grown ass mature man
• I’ll elevate my future (life, business, and accountability) partner WIFEY
• My status isn’t stapled
• I have peace, joy, and wisdom
• My past was a process and not a problem
• I’ll never get divorced again
• Love’s in need of love today and I got mad love to give
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