Ever react to something in the moment and wish you could take it back? The habit of self-control is your superpower for smart decisions and growth, especially when the pressure mounts.

Learning self-control isn’t just about avoiding mistakes; it’s about becoming the type of person people trust and respect—someone who brings calm and clarity in challenging moments.

What You Need to Know

• Self-control is the ability to manage your emotions, desires, and actions, especially in difficult situations.
• It starts with accurate thinking: believing in your potential helps you see situations clearly and respond wisely.
• Your enthusiasm can propel you forward, but without self-control, that energy could lead you astray.
• A lack of self-control often shows up as talking too much or reacting impulsively. Listening well and pausing before responding feeds stronger relationships and better outcomes.
• There’s power in choosing how and when to express what you’re feeling; not every thought needs to become an action or a spoken word.

What You Need to Do

• Practice pausing before responding to stressful messages, emails, or conversations. Take a breath. Reread, reflect, and respond with intention.
• When emotions rise, try journaling or writing your thoughts privately before you act—don’t hit send until you’ve had time to gain perspective.
• Develop accurate thinking by declaring “noble intent” about others’ actions. Remind yourself: most people are not plotting against you.
• Grow as a listener. Let others finish. Focus more on understanding than on preparing your next reply.
• Use your energy and enthusiasm for positive action—channel it constructively, rather than letting it escape impulsively.

Your Next Step

Reflect on one recent moment when self-control could have changed the outcome for the better. This week, when you feel triggered or excited, commit to pausing, listening, and responding with intention.

Keep building the habit—it’s a skill that pays dividends in every area of life.

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00:58 Understanding Self-Control

02:16 Accurate Thinking and Self-Control

05:43 Enthusiasm and Self-Control

08:19 The Importance of Listening

11:21 The Power of Serenity