Dr. Robin Henderson, Clinical Liaison for Well Being Trust and Providence St. Joseph Health joins Deya for an in-depth and open conversation about the struggles we all face to take care of ourselves.  You'll learn what self-care really is, ways to practice self-care, and the consequences if you don't practice it. 

Key Takeaways:   Self Care practices come from past learned behavior: 

• Comes from a society where self-care in women is not a priority, women learn from a young age that “women” take of others first then self
• Dr. Robin -“but taking care of ourselves gives us the ability to take care of others” 

What happens when your brain is overloaded?

• Napping and breaks needed are for better retention 
• We get irritable, short-tempered, say and do things we wouldn’t usually do, exhausted, tired, not prepared

Negative Self Talk

• Negative thoughts overpower positive thought 
• Negative self-talk - cognitive distortion- we hear 5 positive things and one negative and all focus on negativity
• Negativity comes from insecurity 
• Most have a lifetime of negativity - like bullies vs. positive interactions
• Self-affirmations are a vital part of blocking the negativity 
• Blocks out the repetition of negative self-talk- retrains brain structure

How do u know if you need more support?   

• If negativity interferes with life, missing work, can't get out of bed, sad constantly, cant lift up, never feel worth then the issue is deeper 
• History of abuse and trauma usually need more like therapy - from family issues to traumatic events like tornadoes/car accident, all events add up

Positivity starts within self - you have to do what makes you happy - colors, exercise, food can all be things done to create positivity within oneself and

• Social media affects the brain emotionally
• Constant comparison causes depression, breakdowns, loss of skills 

PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder:

• It's not just war; it can be child abuse, bullying, a bad relationship, accident or anything that creates a stressor . No one knows your story but you.
• Use experiences to grow and move on. Part of what makes you, you - gives you strength 
• Resilience makes the difference - bouncing back from traumatic events.  

Emotional intelligence – “where I end and you begin” 

• Seeing a person who is acting out and thinking deeper about the cause for the action without anger and fear 
• Is suicide happening more now - or more talked about now? We need more healthy conversations talking about it more 
• Medicaid expansion - not in every state - but resources there which covers mental health - academic institutions with counseling center - churches - hospitals - clinics – are all resources 

This episode was brought to you by Well Being Trust, a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation.   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems.     Don't forget to follow @SuperpowHer and @DeyaDirect on IG!   Enjoy, share, review and comment, we love to hear from you.